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19 Things I've Learned in 19 Years

Essay By: PeaceLoveLingleton
Editorial and opinion

A list of 19 life lessons I have learned in the past 19 years.

Submitted:Nov 29, 2011    Reads: 113    Comments: 10    Likes: 10   

  1. People are mean. No, I'm not saying that all people are mean, but many are. Even the ones that make the effort to be kind have some negative feelings.
  2. Life goes on. No matter where you are in life, or what you have done, it will carry on. Even on the best days, time is flying by: life going on around you. At your worst, you may feel like the whole world has stopped, but in reality, it is blurring past you like it always has and always will.
  3. Time is relative. I know, I know... this one is obvious. If you are having fun with people that you like (or maybe kinda don't), time will seem to breeze past you. But those awkward or painful moments seem to last forever.
  4. Few people will actually change (even if they need to). You know the person I am talking about. That guy who never seems to grow up, or the girl who thinks the whole world revolves around her. When you see them, you automatically think that they will learn one day how the world really is. Unfortunately, not all of them do.
  5. Someone will always have better than you. We all fight to be at the top of the ladder: to have the best of the best. It's normal, everyone wants to have nice things. Problem is, we can never actually be at the top. Even if we are the best at something (or so we think) there will ALWAYS be someone out there who is better.
  6. Life is (hardly every) fair. Karma. We all hope and pray for karma. We wan't those who treat us badly to have something equal done to them to repay their awful deeds. Unfortunately, as awful as it sounds, it rarely happens. People are mean, and they always will be. No amount of hoping will change that.
  7. We have to be the change we want to see in the world. We cannot complain about something that everyone else is doing, when we find ourselves equally as guilty. We cannot judge others by one standard, and ourselves by another. If we want to stand for something or make a change, we must first change ourselves.
  8. You have to stand for something or you will fall for anything. (This one I stole from a song) but it still stands true. We have to have some standard that we live by, some moral or fact of life that we value to be true no matter what. If we don't, we will fall for whatever lies or trickery is out there.
  9. People will always judge you (even your friends). I hate judgement, and wish that it would be eradicated from the world, but I have found myself guilty of it time after time. Even the people we would trust with our life will judge us at one point or another. I'm not saying that it is all bad judgement, but we will all be judged by someone - possibly more than once a day.
  10. You will never live up to someone else's standards. Maybe it's your parents, maybe its someone else in your family. Possibly even a member of your church. Regardless of who in your life has set high standards, most of the time, you will never reach them. They are most often placed just out of reach.
  11. Have faith. This one is more along the lines of "think positive." I remember everytime I had something big in my life and I stressed about it, something would go wrong. But, if you think positive about something you are worried about, it won't seem as such a big deal.
  12. It's the little things in life that you treasure. Sure, one day when you look back at yourself, you will mostly be looking at the big picture. But, it's the little things that mean the most. Small funny jokes or conversations with friends. Maybe even just walking outside during the fall when the leaves change. Little things make a big difference.
  13. There will still be bullies after high school. I remember in high school there was this group in my class that I absolutely could not stand. They were all the "I'm hotter than you" types and they were absolutely rude. (Granted I may be a little biased as I have always been the type to side with the underdog). But, I was so excited when I got out of high school and got away from them, but there are people like that everywhere. You can never truly escape.
  14. Treasure every moment you have with someone. Whether it be with a friend or a family member, never waste a moment with them: you never know when they won't be in your life any longer.
  15. Be a friend to have a friend. I have many friends who I treat better than they treat me. They call me their best friend, which is great. It's not so great that I can't call them that, however. I am there no matter what, but I don't have that in return. So, for both sides' sake: treat each other right.
  16. Follow your heart. I know this one is a little overused. But, it holds true. If you do something that you truly love, you will never get tired of it.
  17. Speak softly and apologize often. No, I am not saying to be passive and let everyone walk all over you. I am saying to watch what you say to someone, even in an argument: some words of hurt will never go away. And if you are in an argument, be the better person. Never be too proud to say "I'm Sorry."
  18. Don't hold in your emotions more than you have to. I am very guilty of doing this. I take and take and take stuff until I am so broken down that I am not sure if I will function again. No one should have to be that way. If you are upset, let it out (though not everytime and not in some extravagant manner).
  19. Reward yourself. Even for small achievements. Give yourself a treat for something good you have done. You deserve it and it will give you a few minutes to relax and be happy.


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