thanks for including me in the "cute "group di!! =D

anyways......leaving that aside....thank you for sharing your memoir with us because this, I KNOW ,is something you haven't fabricated,din't try to dramatise it.........you have written your whole story in a straight forward manner and what touched me about your life was your honesty and dedication --to kriish,your husband ,your parents and GOD!!

now i can understand why you are the "ANXIOUS MAMA"!
jokes apart........it takes great strength to accept that you hace made a mistake and I'm proud of you for showing that courage...

LOL

~Kritika

P.S. i will really love to put up my life like this ........i hope I get a lil bit of your courage to accept my mistakes
And my memoir would be really short.........just 16yrs of life!!
How much time should that take?!! ^-^

Posted: Jul 3, 2008

you have had a nice little life so far, I mean there are ups and downs, but everyone has those. I hope I can have that someday.

L ♥

Posted: Jul 3, 2008

You are absolutely correct when you say that there is no BEST decision: it has to be a BEST decision for the individual/s involved, and that is all that matters. But also, I don't think that Bubbly was trying to say that you were wrong - she was just trying to show the other side of the coin. After all, that is the whole idea behind writing comments - where is the fun in it if everyone agrees with everyone else all the time. Then we would be a boring party of socialites who just make fake comments about how great the other looks or how much weight someone else has lost or what a pretty dress you are wearing and so on. Let us, instead, be a bunch of friends who indulge in intellectually stimulating discussion where we agree to disagree when we feel the need for it.

Posted: Jul 3, 2008

You are NEVER wrong in choosing the field you love the most. It only shows you know what you want from life. It denotes direction. You were once confused and perhaps, strayed a bit. But, you have managed to look within yourself and found out where to go and what to do with your life. There are a lot of successful career women and men out there who HAVE STILL BEEN struggling to know what they really love to do in their lives. Money isn't all. It only satisfies human wants. Of course, we need it for survival but our whole life doesn't have to depend on it. There are other fields that need special attention. We dont just carry our physical self, along with it are the emotional self, spiritual self and all other aspects. Afterall, whatever we make of ourselves is mirrored on the kind of values our parents instilled in us. ^^

Walk on and be proud, buddy! ^^

Posted: Jul 3, 2008

I agree with Urja that everyone has to do what is best for them. I don't have any kids and consequently haven't had to make the decisions that you have. My mom stayed home with me and my sister until I was eleven, and I wouldn't take back that time for the world. She made jewelry in our home though, so you could say she was working from home. The consequence though was that I only got to see my dad for a few hours in the evening and on the weekends. We didn't have a lot of money though, so sometimes he would work on the weekends too. I never felt deprived though. My parents loved me and always made time for all of us.

You know me and that I have some aspirations. That comes from my childhood too though. My dad pretty much got a job that he could make enough money to support us with and stuck with it. He doesn't like what he does; he just does it. And that stuck with me. So my goal is to have a job that I enjoy going to every day and will support me and my family. I also have this strong urge to stay home with my kid(s), even if it's only the first year, but I don't know if that will be possible.

I think women have tough choices to make these days. A lot of time there isn't the option that both parents don't work because of monetary reasons. You are lucky in that regard. Most jobs aren't friendly for men or women wanting to take time off to be with their kids. We get penalized career wise for doing that. So I don't think there are any easy answers. Everyone has to make the choices that best fit them. :)

Posted: Jul 3, 2008

Oh Pratibha, I see you even more highly than I did before. You really are one of the world's best moms. I am serious. My mother did the same when my older brother was three and she was working. One day they called her at work from the daycare and told her that another kid bit my brother really bad, so she rushed him to the hospital. After that, she was afraid of leave him there, so she quit her job and became a full time mother at home. let me tell you, we could have made a lot more money too, but she felt it was her job to take care of her children first. I think that's why i turned out the way I did. She was always there giving me what I needed and sometimes what I didn't deserve ( toys, candy, etc...) I still don't deserve any of that and I probably never will. I'm a good sister, daughter, student... but I don't deserve that kind of indulgence. I am happy with what I have, that's all I need. :)

Posted: Jul 3, 2008

Dont be so hard on Bubbly. I was like her before I had my baby. I thought everything was clear and logical - just a matter of figuring out left from right, right from wrong.

And then i fell in love with a little ball of boy that I love more than my own self. If you have never looked at a child and felt so deeply moved that you wondered how u got chosen to be his mother, if you have never held him while he slept till your arms hurt because u still couldnt believe that he came from you, if you have never questioned your own sanity because you wanted to kill someone who hurt him with your bare hands and then go sit in the police station...then you wouldn't know how it feels to chose to be a mother.

Forgive her, move on.

Posted: Jul 3, 2008

Hi.
I've read all the chapters.
All of my children (4 sons) were conceived out of love. That love that conceived them is no longer and we are divorced. I was able to stay at home full time with my kids for 4 years and I loved every single minute of it. I never once worried about my career, as they were my career. We spent our days picking berries, listening to symphonies, going to the beach, reading and expanding our minds. I am incredibly thankful for the opportunity that was provided to me to do that.

My point is, when life offers you opportunities, you jump on them. When life offers you crap, you still have little hearts to take care of and it is my privilege to be their mother, in good times and bad. I never imagined when my children were conceived that this would be our life, years later, living apart from their father. THEY are my first choice for every avenue I now take in life. I read a post on booksie the other day that simply stunned me, where a commenter stated that teenage mothers end up being stroller-pushers and THAT BROKE MY HEART to hear such a narrow minded negative view (i started out that way and look at me ROAR now in life).

Ok, I think I've digressed off the topic here and I rarely speak on these issues because they are so so so personal and we cannot judge each others decisions in life as we do not know what took that person to that specific point in life.

I hope you have a splendid weekend Pratibha. Keep your loving self, loving.

Posted: Jul 4, 2008

this is a very beautiful, inspiring memoir:D i've got a lot to learn from you. you've got the courage and determination to do the things that you think best, thus giving the best for your family and for yourself. you've achieved a lot Pratibha, and that is why i'm giving you a salute, and a lot more of flying kisses and a bear hug:)

Posted: Jul 5, 2008

Wahaha *smiles*
Cute? :D :D :D

THANKS MOM.
LOVE U SO MUCH!
TAKE CARE! :)

Posted: Jul 5, 2008