Are you ready to come out of the closet? Are you tired of sleepless nights, racing thoughts, and being cranky because you are still hiding behind walls of fear generated by your family, friends, and peers around you? You have come to the right place for a little advice on coming out and what that process entails. Though everyone will have a different coming out story there are a few pieces of advice and things to expect from the coming out process. As a gay and out male who has talked with a lot of closeted teenagers on their way out of the closet, I hope this guide provides you with what to expect from family and friends on the way out, how to counteract any negative responses, and how to decide which option of coming out may be right for you. But honestly, there is no right or wrong way out. Some options are easier or harder depending on the individual.
Why Come Out: From this guide you can 1st expect to receive some incentive to come out. There are a wealth of benefits that come from being out to your friends and family. Most the time the benefits will outweigh the initial costs of having some people scoff at your sexual orientation. You should expect to have some awkward moments when coming out. But once you are out, the world will open up to you and you will open up to the world.
When to Come Out: Secondly from this guide is timing your coming out process. Some periods throughout the year make coming out easier than others. Depending on what you think you can handle, this guide offers the best times during the year to come out. It also offers advice to wait if the social circumstances aren't right for you to come out in certain communities. You may want to consider the consequences of coming out at a bad time as some teenagers have been grounded and scolded by their parents for coming out at a young age. When you are still young, some parents and friends will call being lgbt just a normal teenage “phase” that will pass. Though this is sometimes true, most the time this “phase” doesn’t pass.
How to Come Out: The more common ways you can come out are as follows. You can come out slowly and tell one person at a time. You can only tell people you feel have a right to know. You can take a day to talk to all of your friends and family at once. If you don’t want to come out verbally you don't have to. You may just date people of the same sex and not care what others think of you. Sending e mails, social networking lines, or being active in online lgbt communities can also give the hint to others that you are attracted to the same sex as well. In rare cases, people are outed without them wanting to be. The guide will offer some options for this sort of situation as well. Keeping your options open and using many ways is sometimes best.
What to Expect: The hardest part of coming out is guessing what to expect from different people. Family members will react differently than friends and friends will react differently than peers. This guide will help you to come what to expect from different people as you come out by offering my personal stories life stories of different forms of rejection and acceptance. It will also help you respond appropriately to different people’s reactions to help make your coming out story as successful and easy as possible. The world can be brutal. But most the time it is kind.
Bisexuals and Transgenders: Lastly this guide offers some advice for transgenders and bisexuals for coming out and what to expect. There is sometimes a little more conflict in these circumstances than others. If you don’t find the advice you needed in the other sections you are likely to find it here. If not here please look into the resources found in the final chapter.
Recap and Resources: After recapping the guide there will be a list of resources to peoples coming out stories and coming out guides. Every story is different. And there is no dead set and proper guide. But no person needs to be at a lost for what to expect or what to do when coming out of the closet. You are not alone.