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The days of vanity seem to last forever when you are a child as you are only a bystander watching the adults live, having the only pleasure there is.

Have no despair as you walk away from the danger zone of apartheid in your life, and heal your inner child!

Submitted:Nov 26, 2010    Reads: 53    Comments: 0    Likes: 0   

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No Despair

© 2010 Patricia McGurk Martin

The adult protects the child. Many times we are the adult in our lives, even though we are still children - as the adults simply vanished in our childhoods. Many times they are still present in childhood, but are unavailable to the child needing them.

We may as adults still be waiting in emotional darkness for someone to rescue us from abandonment. We may seek solace in sexual activities, but find this is not an adequate answer to inner pain based on deprivation in childhood.

Nonetheless, the adult's role is to protect the child. They often don't, and abdicate their roles. When we have unresolved anger in our lives, we sometimes need to recognize that we may have been abandoned as children. Emotional abandonment is real abandonment, as when the father comes home and walks by the child - not speaking, not offering his help with the child's difficulties during the day. His love (or hers) is unavailable to the child, and he is not present in a real sense.

In a single parent family, the mother is often both the father and the mother, and her abandonment can be doubly painful for the child - even though she may be too tired from working all day to show interest in her children.

You are the Inner Censor, sitting in the dark darkness of your soul - now feeling tortured again, or perhaps you really are tortured. You are the God of your Psyche, listening to the persecutors in your life ridicule you once again. You may hear your own voice speaking Not as You - but Is You, someone you truly Love.

You replace the wrong words of hypnosis orders and commands with your own words. You can hear yourself speaking them even though you are Missing in Action. You rise up enough to stop the torture and put the correct words in your mouth. They are forcing you to speak falsely again, but you speak up even louder As You, expressing your rage.

You reinterpret the False Voice of Abuse. Eventually you speak as you all the time, not just every now and then. You have healed from the soul-splitting torture and Rescued Your Inner Child! from the forces of darkness in this world. You are no longer Missing in Action.


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