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A Rebel Chick Mystics Guide

Book By: Lisa Marie Selow

A Rebel Chick Mystic’s Guide is a self-help book for brave, nonconformist women (or for those who aspire to be), written from the heart and soul of a spiritual, rocker chick. Selow knows first hand that women don’t have to navigate life on their own in order to preserve their individuality, because there’s a tribe, and a support system, for all of us.

She wants her fellow rebels to embrace being happy, healthy, and passionate, because in her own words, “there’s nothing cool about being snarky, sarcastic, or pessimistic.” She supports women who want to redefine womanhood, and encourages them to eschew the pressure to be perfect and instead, allow their inner rebel to lead them to a place of clarity and authenticity.

With Selow and A Rebel Chick Mystic’s Guide women can get to that place.

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A Rebel Chick Mystic's Guide:

Healing Your Spirit With Positive Rebellion

By Lisa Marie Selow

Chapter One:

Plan Your Path of Positive Rebellion

Excerpt from A Rebel Chick Mystic's Guide: Healing Your Spirit With Positive Rebellion by Lisa Marie Selow (Hay House, November 26, 2012)

"The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion."

- Albert Camus

If you're anything like me, you're itching to get started on this journey, so we'll begin by jumping right in and exploring a key theme for rebel chick mystics: positive re- bellion. This quality sets us apart from the crowd and will be a guiding principle as we move through the different topics of this book.

I've heard many women say that they feel pressure to conform to societal norms and feel guilty if they choose a different path. It's only human to have a bit of anxiety when you start to do your own thing, but you don't have to live a cookie-cutter lifestyle. It's possible to carve out your own path with your own rules, using this key concept.

What Is Positive Rebellion?

Rebels sometimes are seen as self-destructive, addicted, lonely, angry, quiet, mysterious, pessimistic, and without a purpose. Rebellion also carries with it a history of political violence. Traditionally this energy has been forceful, trying to get rid of the existing structure or order. It has sent the message that one group is right and the other is wrong.

My approach, however, is quite different. With positive rebellion, you're choosing to do both small and big things that are loving, supportive, or helpful for yourself or others (or both). Instead of rebelling against the idea of authority, you honor your own inner authority, along with others' wisdom that resonates with you. You may start to know your own personal truth that lives in your heart. And when you practice positive rebellion on a continual basis, you'll notice that you are no longer willing to stay stuck or buy into negative or limiting beliefs, ideas, or situations. As you make changes, fear and conformity let go of their hold on you more and more.

I asked some clients and good friends of mine to describe this rebel chick mystic quality. Following are some of the ways they completed the sentence: Positive rebellion is . . . :

o . . . doing what feels right for you, instead of what you think you're expected to do.

o . . . creating a mind-set for happiness and success, when others are more interested in the negativity and doom portrayed in the media.

o . . . leading with the heart, not your head so much.

o . . . having a glass of water while everyone else is having a beer.

o . . . asking your husband to do the dishes while

o you take a bubble bath.

o . . . not yelling back at someone when they yell at you.

o . . . giving a stranger a smile, just because you feel like it.

o . . . not gossiping at work with your co-workers.

o . . . being okay with your choices, even if others don't get it at first-or ever.

Your own examples of positive rebellion will emerge and grow as you complete the exercises in this chapter and continue on your personal path You'll discover that posi- tive rebellion can occur in different forms. This chapter is the buffet table I've prepared for you, presenting you with some delicious options. Consider the ideas described here as food for thought, to inspire and fuel you.

Your choices range from small, internal ones to taking action on a more global level, including activism. As you read this chapter, be sure to have your journal ready to write down any ideas that come to you. This will begin to create your own rebel chick mystic's guide.

Please know that all forms of positive rebellion have the potential to bring gifts and blessings to yourself and others-one method isn't superior to another. You don't necessarily have to take external action. You can simply mentally reject your own negative or limiting beliefs, as well as those belonging to others. Your mind-set creates your life experiences, so internal rebellion is powerful. Please do what feels right for you. (It's even all right to skip this section for now and revisit it later, if you don't feel ready for positive rebellion yet.)

Intend to Have Fun

Although much of this book will focus on healing, I want to remind you right now to have fun along the way, and positive rebellion is a great way to do so. For example, you might decide to do something different with your physical appearance, or you might make small choices each day that you consider to be outside of the box. Think about your own life and how you might like to incorporate such enjoyable changes. You might wish to write down in your journal some interesting, quirky, or entertaining ways you can rebel.

The law of attraction says that your thoughts and feelings create your life. (This subject fills entire books!) If you're having fun, chances are that your thoughts and feelings will be upbeat, so you'll have joyful experiences. But, if you don't have a positive mind-set, you might not end up creating the type of life you desire. If you're not there yet, simply intend to have fun. Intention is a pow- erful thing, paving the way for the positive results that you desire.

Shifting the Shit that Holds You Back

Sometimes I wonder if we need a blatant reminder about the benefits of having a positive outlook when we get off track. For example, a close friend of mine was lis- tening to me rant one day. After hearing me go on and on about my problems, she interrupted me and lovingly but firmly said, "Stop your crapitude! You can shift the shit in your life!" At first, I was shocked, but soon I started to laugh. Her humorous words helped me remember that I can change my mind so that it has more positive, affirming thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Your attitude creates your life. You might want to start observing your own thoughts and emotions on a daily basis. Not everyone does this, so it's another great way to rebel in a positive way, working on being different than the norm. Even if you're an optimistic person, it can be helpful to see whether you have limiting ideas and beliefs. Some of these might be coming from your subconscious mind's programming, which often originates in the family and in society. No matter where these limiting beliefs come from, they'll look and sound the same. Often, the word should is attached to them. For example, "Women who have children should stay at home, not have a job." Or they'll express a generalization, such as, "All women should become mothers." Some women believe, "I'm too fat," or "I'm too old." These might have been absorbed from living in a culture that's obsessed with youth and thinness.

Rebelling against your limiting beliefs by working to replace them with more supportive ones is definitely a form of positive rebellion in a world that can seem filled with hate, violence, and negativity, especially if you regu- larly consume mainstream media. Indeed, rejecting the many manifestations of limiting and negative impulses, on both personal and collective levels, is an effective way to practice positive rebellion on a daily basis.

Exercise: Eradicating Limiting Beliefs

The following exercise will help you learn about any limiting beliefs you might have, along with how to write affirmations for them. This exercise also can be an option in the future if you feel that you need to revisit an area for healing, since sometimes there are layers of emotions and feelings to process.

It might appear simplistic at first, but this exercise will really help you discover who you don't want to be. It's a strong first step in peeling back the false layers to reveal your authentic self.

First, let's work on what's holding you back:

1. Make a list of all of your limiting beliefs and ideas. Take some time with this. Dig deep to uncover everything, from the most subtle to the most ridiculous things that you've heard about what you can't do or who you can't be. Write down as many as you can think of right now.

2. Next, assign each belief to a category according to where you think it came from, such as upbringing or fam- ily of origin, institutions such as schools or church, and so on. Your categories might include areas such as society in general, career/work, popular media, or others. This will help you to see where some of your limiting beliefs origi- nated.

3. Start thinking of the qualities that are opposite of these limiting or negative beliefs, so that you can proceed with the next part of this exercise. Write down everything that comes to mind.

Next, let's work on designing and amping up your affirmations practice:

1. On a new piece of paper, write an affirmation for each limiting belief. These are positive statements about what you can do and who you can be that will begin to shift your thinking. Use the present tense, since your subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between past, present, and future. Avoid negative and tentative terms such as can't, won't, maybe, might, or possibly, since these can make it more difficult for you to believe that what you desire can become true.

Here are some examples:

a. For the limiting belief, I'm too old, avoid saying something such as, I don't miss out on anything, even though I'm older. Instead, you could affirm, I enjoy every age and take advantage of the blessings that come with time.

b. If you currently believe, Women who have chil- dren should stay at home, it will be less helpful to say, As a mother, I don't need to stay at home, even though I have children. Rather, try an affirmation such as, I am a loving mother who knows what is best for herself and her family, and I honor my inner knowing.

c. For an idea like, All women should become mothers, stay away from statements such as, I am okay, even though I don't have kids. Keep it positive, perhaps affirming, As a woman, I am free to follow my own path to happiness.

d. Circle the three limiting beliefs on your list from the first part of this exercise that you find that most challenging, the ones that you especially want to kick to the curb. The affirmations you wrote to replace these are a good place to start with your daily practice.

2. Choose the frequency and time of day to work with your affirmations. Some people do them once a day, while others find that multiple times per day works better. You can even write affirmations on small pieces of paper, hanging them in your home and work environment as a reminder to focus on the positive.

3. Speak your affirmations aloud or read them quietly. Usually, it's effective to repeat them multiple times to re-program your subconscious mind.

4. Put some enthusiasm and feeling into this practice. Add some of your sassy or spunky attitude, if you want. Real- ly work on believing these new ideas with your entire being.

5. Consider possibly playing some uplifting music in the background as you do your affirmations. Music can be an ally in anchoring new information into your mind (think of how children commonly learn the alphabet to music).

6. I did an informal survey of clients, friends, and fel- low musicians and found that their song recommenda- tions ranged from "Be Yourself" by Audioslave and "Fuel" by Metallica to the Beatles' "Good Day Sunshine" and Louis Armstrong's version of "What a Wonderful World." Choose what motivates you, be it the Ramones, Queen, or Lady Gaga.

7. After you work on your three most challenging limiting beliefs and begin feeling some shifts, you can add affirmations for some of the other negative ideas on your list, along with the ones you started with. Just honor yourself and move at your own pace.


Lisa Selow is a professional psychic and spiritual coach who specializes in liberating women to live empowered lives with more courage and authenticity. Lisa has used her own brand of loving humor, combined with a punk-rock edge, in the healing arts since 1998. She lives in the Detroit, Michigan area with her husband and several electric guitars.

Find out more at http://www.lisaselow.com.


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