Saying Smart Things
For the Fatima My Love Gender Writings
© 2011 Patricia McGurk Martin Hearst Himmler
Any day could be your last as a woman or a girl, if you say too many (sometimes even one) "smart things". Possible ensuing spankings are an unfortunate and tragic reality for intelligent women and girls who do not know how to "self-censor". The punishing assaults are not always seen as crimes in society, and investigated with the same customary serious purpose. They are seen as a domestic issue and not really the business of the police.
For the woman living with terror while trying to prove herself in the business, academic, political or any kind of professional world - she may actually feel that any man, anywhere, can at anytime, assault her. The feeling permeates United States society that the men all have societal permission to spank or otherwise punish a woman for saying "too many smart things" in her profession. I have been told that it does happen to professional women, and is not unheard of. It was especially common in my life as a child royal person trying to speak about my high-level issues to face retaliation of a sexually degrading assault on my young body, and the assault crimes continued into the recent past - unexamined by the police or the government.
Women are forced into an unnatural mental state while growing up and looking at institutional gender oppression wherein girls and women are routinely punished for having ambition or being intelligent and confident in her profession, or just her academic life in elementary school as a young scholar.
We have to pretend that nothing happened, protect the identity of the assaulter, and we turn our heads to the ugly terror that we will never be free, never have success or financial independence, as a result. The "glass ceiling" for women's pay and promotions is reinforced by this retaliatory reality in the society's daily life. The unnatural emotional state causes serious depression in children and women, and the women may become known as "frigid or cold", and horrible gender degradation words are applied to the woman's public reputation - just like the spanking assaults are slapped onto her body.
This all leaves terrible scars, and it becomes difficult to pursue one's intellectual interests in a confident manner within a profession, thus making any woman or girl feel she has failed before she has started in life,
We women are often described as "Asian" with no expression as we repress our feelings under our makeup and our social masks, because very often the assaulter is someone we know and it is already stated that we will lose the fight, stated every day, all our lives that we said too many smart things - sometimes only one is enough to be punished for saying.
I bring this important urgent topic up because women die often from brutal punishing assaults, and never even know what they said that was "too smart" as they don't feel smart to begin with, and are victims. They don't know how to tell their little girls what constitutes "too smart" and end up correcting them for saying anything at all that sounds intelligent, to help them avoid being punished for being alive and intelligent.
Women protect by censoring their little girls often, and many girls never speak their intelligent thoughts except in a concealed, private setting, usually with girls, first, and later their women friends. What a loss this is to all of us, and to society.