Relationships amongst men
and women: A great gamble!
So many people seem to have this
awesome fear of being rejected and so they keep within their
heart the feelings that they have for someone lest they be
spurned. I am not an advocate of dating or running after members
of the opposite sex. It does not appeal to me. But since is the
passion of so many individuals in United States, I could not
resist from writing this article. Yes the female psyche remains a
mystery for so many. What turns them on and what turns them off?
This is what perturbs the male mind and brain.
Well for starters my fellow human
beings, women are slightly more rational when it comes to
choosing a male. Whilst the male mind is just thinking about the
sex and the pussy, the female mind is looking at everything
through a thousand different angles. Good looks are just one
aspect. If the woman is someone who isn't a drifter looking for a
one night stand or someone who has multiple boyfriends, most
women are looking for men who are smart, humorous, witty, honest
and financially secure. Even the drifter gets tired of drifting
and sleeping with multiple men.
Therefore the well-educated,
courteous and committed male is something every girl or woman
likes. Staring at women, ogling at them or passing lurid and lewd
remarks won't win you favor with good women. However treating
women with respect and civility is another thing entirely.
Possessing good listening skills and being attentive to what they
say, is something women like a lot. On your first date, try never
touching your female friend unless she makes you feel that it ok
to do so. Don't make the woman feel that you are chasing her or
you want her so badly. Nope you won't want to that. Your choice
of words and conversation should exhibit your finer sides. Be
well dressed and neat when you go on a date. Give her some
flowers and a box of choclates as a present.
As for the men who don't know what
to say to a woman when they want strike a conversation, the first
thing that they should have is the courage to express what they
have in their mind. A woman does not bite. However she does look
for candor and honesty. Therefore a great way of approaching a
woman is by introducing who you are and telling her that you find
her attractive. She might invite you to sit with her or she may
express her displeasure. Anyhow it is always better to say what
you feel for someone rather than keeping your emotions bottled up
and hoping that by some miracle the person who you like or love
will fall in your lap.
Be confident. Cast away those fears
that suddenly appear and that make you doubtful about achieving
As for the women who dream
of tall and handsome men carrying
them off in stratosphere, I would recommend them to be careful
with the kind of choice they make when choosing someone as their
boyfriend. How much do you know about their past? Many a thing
that appears like gems on the outside has an ugly inner side to
them. Humans, male and female are no exception to law. So many of
us have ugly pasts that we try hard to let go off. However with
rape so prevalent in USA, it would be advisable for women to be
very wary about the kind of boyfriends they keep. With so many
male men prone to violence due physical abuse as a child or
because of being raised in a broken family, it is imperative that
women ensure that the men that they have chosen as their
boyfriends don't have a darker past.
The average male man is often after
one thing only and that is of having sex with a female. Women do
look for so form of commitment from a boyfriend. Many would
ideally like the idea of the relationship ending up in marriage.
However in so many cases, the
people involved in a relationship may not want responsibility
that comes with marriage and thereby this is where cohabitation
has come out as an easier way for couples to stay with each other
as long as they want before they get bored of one another. Of
course such a relationship is pure adultery but obviously it does
not cross the mind of the average heathen in the society that
this is immoral.
Everyone has been in relationships
that may or not have worked. However a concomitant of a broken
relationship is depression, anxiety and the emotional pain that
comes with it. Unless you are free of any feelings and
emotionally detached, with nerves of steel, you may be able to
perhaps lead a relationship and not feel anything if it ends.
But when I see men and women
hopping about from one relationship to another, I see mental
instability and the inability to make the relationship last.
I have seen women who have never
married. The Mr. Perfect that they hold in their imagination
never shows up because such a woman has too many expectations
that she wants of her spouse. And in reality, that Mr. Perfect is
very hard to find.
Similarly in the Indian
Sub-Continent, I have seen so many men and women remaining
unmarried because their parents have too many expectations and
requirements of the men and women who will be married to their
children. As a consequence that perfect match for their children
is hard to come by.
The spirit of compromise today in
most relationships is simply not there. I have heard much about
parents of women nowadays telling their daughters that it is ok
to step out of a marriage if her husband is unable to provide her
with everything that she wants. Similarly with the parents of the
male man asking the parents of a girl for dowry has made the
concept of marriage a business transaction.
Therefore my advice to men and
women would be to truly lay down what they expect of each other
before they decide to marry. Secondly I would also suggest that
the repercussions of a failed relationship are immense and often
end up in heartbreak, anxiety and depression.
Therefore before you decide to head
out and jump into a relationship, be clear what you hope to
obtain from such a venture.