Domination of the girl

In various sectors of our life, haven’t we ever observed the cruel and inappropriate behavior towards the ‘female’ population of our country? Most of the times we blame the illiterate masses for the upholding of such irrational behavior, but don’t the educated, elite and so called literate masses also have a hand in such cruelty? The superior classes always push their blame on to the lower ones, hence bringing them out from under suspicion.

Some do it unknowingly, as they are just following the rules that are prevalent from decades. They can’t accept the fact that the girls of this and further coming generations are quite independent in thinking and they will get rebellious if you try to be their brain. They try to overpower her, sub-due her, but they don’t realize that the ‘youth’ now is a whole race ahead of what the ‘youth’ used to be. If a girl answers back she is considered to be ill-mannered, if she takes her own decisions she is thought to be ‘too big for her boots’, if she needs her space and demands privacy she is considered to be unfriendly and boisterous. She is pressurized by the amount of qualities and patience that is expected out of her.

It seems as if her ultimate motive to be born onto this planet was to be polished in every possible way: (her manners, looks, behavior, mentality, charm, skills) so that when she was married she would be a perfect wife and would retain the families name in front of her in-laws. Is that’s why the girls of our society are told to be careful? For if she were to injure herself in some way and then get disfigured no one would marry her? And then what, that’s the end of her life? If any such thing ever happened to a girl wouldn’t she be reminded about this every day? The pity glances that she would receive. This would make her feel so small, and it would result in her going into depression.

The erudite class of the society might be saying that they believe in the equality between the sexes but when its time to bring these beliefs into action, the male child is always chosen above the female. A woman, no matter how learned will always want a boy. If her first child is a boy she might not want another kid, but if her first child is a girl she WILL have another child and want that this one to be a boy. If the second one also turns out to be a girl, her in-laws will blame her and then again the ‘female’ goes into depression. She will keep trying until she has given birth to a boy. Her health and decisions are not taken into consideration. Why has the boy always been favored? The reason that he will support his family when he grows up and that the girl will be married off? Then how will she be able to hold up the family name, the business? How will she ever take care of her parents? All of these questions are stuck in the minds of the people, and no proper change or development in the economy has come as the people are still living in the old beliefs.

Why can’t a girl with a proper job support her family? She can play a boys role. Why does her income have to be devoted to her husband and in-laws? Most of the Indian women have to ask their husbands before making any decision. The woman’s choice is overruled by her husband’s verdict, and she obeys his command. It rarely happens that he ever abides by her. This is the same country where the goddesses are worshiped and the same one where the girls are not respected. People are instilled with the idea that no matter how modernized the world might get, the position of the girl will not change.

A large majority of India’s population still has a hand in this bigotry. The women are subjugated to domestic violence, even today. It is true that there has been a considerable change in the treatment of women, but that change is not very drastic.

In the daily life of women, some amendments have been made but it isn’t enough.

How long will it take for women to be actually equal to men? To be recognized as an autonomous being? When will they decide that they will no longer endure suppression? When will that day come when I can truly say that Women and Men are equal?

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