WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.... TO BE..... OR NOT TO BE

My thoughts and me would never change every time I answer my unanswerable question another question arises, every time that my heart goes out and I enter this world with my clean thoughts I find new questions.

In this century where women have proved their worth not only as a mother, a sister or the several roles she plays but also as a power that would take the world as it comes and hold the reins of this luxury and power ridden world with her male counterpart but have we ever realized that is this so called empowerment really accepted by us, despite of all hikes we are with you, am I really with them?

Obviously I said yes and after I did so I must say I am the biggest liar in this world, just think on one hand I say “I am with you ‘go rule’ the next moment I say I wont tolerate a woman over taking me, On one hand I say “sis I am happy you have qualified for mba” on the other I say “great she had this woman quota that I dint have”. I say my dear I am here only to look after your wish, “I will allow you to achieve all that you have dreamt, I will stand by you”, “yeah but I promise to myself once we are married I will earn and you will stay at home and oh! Your dreams please postpone it to some years in short at least postpone it to your next birth.” Whenever I see or read in the papers that a woman was harassed, molested, disrespected I ask in front of the public what this world has become after all this maturity how can someone do this? But while in private I think yeah it must be the girl who would have provoked him; so she deserved it, I proudly say that I am with every troubled woman but at my house I don’t have time for my mother and sister, have I forgotten that their condition is worst than a woman being molested for every day their dreams are molested and interpreted. No I haven’t forgotten though but its just that I have taken them for granted. Yet with the least guilt I say “we live in the world of women empowerment”. I have heard myself saying that at this age Indian culture is dead, woman have lost it they are so power driven that now men have to carry their purse and follow them, they are making men and they themselves are loosing dignity. “God they must be stopped” but saying this I never heard my conscience that feels so sick about me: it feels that I am that looser who, for some grudge over someone who “ditched me” or that I couldn’t see my dreams come true when a woman in front of me achieved it, has got something at last that I feel will morally block her feet, yet without any burden nor any guilt I say “we live in the world of women empowerment and men support them if not physically then morally”.

Now common I took a break and looked at simpler things like , any girl I met I said,“women are the greatest creation of god” and you are certainly…but how did I forget it is for me that a girl in my house couldn’t see a dream I reduced her to nothing but a pet dog yet I am proud to say we live in the world of women empowerment and we respect this beautiful creation. I never did believe that I was jealous or my ego was provoked at the success and position of a woman of today yeah! So I only cracked plans, I verbally abused her that she was snatching my position, I tried to make her life a hell for I wanted that “I should lead and she is bound to follow” that’s it, yet without any feeling of jealousy, guilt or suffocation I say we live in the world of women empowerment and jealousy cant take over me. I applause “wow! I am ‘HAPPY’ women are rising and raring to go they will run now after all, but, wait: they have to marry and sulk to the life within husband’s bed and kitchen and I: am ‘HAPPIER’, yet I say without any guilt women are rising without fear and this truly is woman empowerment.

When to improve my image or just for the sake of sympathy for a womanI cried out, I carried slogans stating – “respect women the power of God who is betrayed by the world,” but without realizing that I am the one who is every moment betraying her the most I make an issue out of her problem and leave her wounds never to be healed. I ask the world to come forward by my slogans but I never thought I myself could have come forward, yet without any sign of repentance I say I will help women to forget their past and make their future bright.

I say that that woman of today are so modernized that a girl of today cannot be a Sita and get a Ram but how did I forget it’s not the cloth we were nor the skin we are in but it’s the person we are that makes the difference. I though consider myself Ram and feel I will dominate and make my Sita, yes I wish to dominate today’s woman and bring the sita out of her by snatching her choices, her wishes yet without any reluctance from my soul I say we are leaving in a world of woman empowerment.

It was so that one day I said “Indians are proud of today’s career women, the next day it was I who said that a career women is worst than a bitch for she never cares for her family saying this I had forgotten that even I did not do anything to save my family why do I expect everything from her? Why don’t I let her dream, why never did I give my helping hand? Why didn’t I set examples? Yet without any questions to myself any doubts I shout at the top of my voice woman empowerment is needed and men are the ones powering women.

I speak a lot about powering women then why do I always blame a woman for everything? why only a women should follow the tradition why not I? When I say I am modern why can’t I tolerate if my wife eats before me at times? Why amongst all this excellent words of ‘world safe and sound for woman’ I have reduced her to such creature that pleads with me to smile? Why every time I think before my child is born “I hope it’s not a girl”.

Why do have I to test her chastity when I say today’s woman are straight forward and are truthful? Why when I say wow great this woman has achieved my heartburns in agony? Why if I speak it out publicly and in front of the world that I stand for women empowerment my actions do everything opposite? Though every time I convince this world and myself that yes standard of woman must develop and I am the one doing it, respecting the beautiful rose called women. yet why I never water this rose? Why I never welcome any of her needs give her sufficient space to breathe? Why don’t I accept her mistakes? Why I expect everything from her and why not I stand to her expectation? I say women of today are thinkers, but I love forcing my thoughts on them and they are bound to accept it because I believe it or else I destroy her petals. The world believes we live in an era where there is love for women who achieved something in life if its so then why are we complaining that achieving women are sole responsible for everyone’s plight? I say it that women are empowered but I want to show my power over every woman why is it so?

In short I realized that woman empowerment says that women now are speaking with courage I even believe that but on one condition “I must have the last say”.

Everyone speaks a lot about woman empowerment, maybe I never understood what is woman empowerment, may be I never wanted any women to take my position, may be because I had to say something to prove my failure as a man, a lover, a son, a competitor and may be I needed something that I could use to prove that the struggle of each and every women was a fluke. Every time I said something against this creation of god and every time that I reduced her to only a miniature I dint realize, but my heart did know that I haven’t accepted the truth and I am afraid of loosing my dominance but how to face this world and gods question on the day of reckoning so I had to always agree MIND IT AGREE that women are empowered in this age. I am so confused although I am a today’s genius man yet I don’t have answers to my own question though I say every moment we live in a world of women empowerment and I am with every women but in the bottom of heart and the corner of my soul this guilt, this repentance, this burden, everyday asks me: have I really accepted that the time has come when equality should prevail? The last but the most important question, Do I really believe in empowering women?

::ITS TIME TO REALIZE THAT WOMEN ARE NOT THINGS THEY ARE HUMAN, TO EMPOWER THEM WE NEED TO EMPOWER THEIR FAITH, JUST 1000 LADIES REACHED TO TOP DOESN’T MEAN WORLD IS CHANGED. EMPOWER THE LADIES IN UR FAMILY THE REST ASSURE THIS WORLD,YOUR HEART WILL EVEN SAY WITHOUT GUILT WOMEN ARE EMPOWERED. DON’T LOOK AT THE WORLD TO REFORM ASK YOURSELF IF YOU CAN FACE YOUR CONSCIENCE SEEING THE CONDITION OF WOMEN AROUND YOU AND GIVE ME ONE REASON IF WE WISH TO EMPOWER WOMEN WHY ARE WE BLAMING HER OF MOVING AHEAD. I BELIEVE ITS BETTER TO LOOSE IN THE RACE AND DUMP OUR EGO AND SHARE THE REIN RATHER THAN BEING A LOOSER WHO HAS NOTHING TO DO BUT COMPLAIN, RATHER THAN BEING WHAT IS CALLED IMPOTENT::::