What is it about so many relationships that eventually end up in Heartbreak. I think most of us have been through this in our lifetimes, some more than others. As someone who has suffered through this calamity, more than once, I can honestly say it can be the most miserable experience we may ever face. The death of a loved one produces grieving and a hurt heart, but death is so finite, we somehow manage to cope over a period of time. A Heartbreak in a relationship is another story all together, in my opinion, so why oes it create so much pain and lingers for sometimes a long while. What I have learned from Heartbreak:
1) We fall in love with a person we think is perfect, at least perfect for us. Even though that person has a life, has a history and has secrets we may never know.
2) As a result of finding that person, perfect for us, we begin to live a life through them; with them; and involving them. Sometimes we put hat person above everyone else we may know, and make them the priority in our life. If that person is not on the same level.....no matter how many times he or she says, "I love You more than life", it is still two different individuals. We may thhink we know ou spouses, our girl or boy friends implicitly..............but, they are still and individual.....with secrets that will never be shared in the mind, body and soul. Itis impossible to know all the secrets, regardless of how well well we know hem (think about your on secrets that you would never share with anyone).
3) Then, comes the real killer for us all......we begin to TRUST whatever is said out of their mouth. We take it to the bank.....If they say it, it must be gospel. How mant times in your life have you betrayed someone's trust? We all have at some point in time. When trust is betrayed in a relationship, someone is bound to get hurt.....there comes that HEARTBREAK! Yeah, we forgive, maybe even forget, but do we really forget? Betrayal is something we struggle with in our life....whether it is with a friend, family member or, the presumed LOVE OF OUR LIFE! Therein lies the foundation for a BIG HEARTBREAK.
4) Finally comes the breakup. For whatever reason (believe me it is never just one reason) one party tells the other I'm done; I'm through; I've had enough, then that is the biggest Heartbreak!
What we experience when our heart is broken by another peson is a mulititude of emotions: Broken Heart...of course; Despair...absolutely; loneliness...without question; self-doubt as a person...for sure; Anxiety, Depression and worthlessness often follows. A Heartbreak with someone you care and love so much is without a doubt the most miserable time most of us face, and most of us don't deal with it very well! Rejection is one o the underlying feelings that devastates us during a Heartbreak. We ask, how could she/he do this? How did they say all things they said and then reject me? These are all the emotions I have known personally, and if we are not careful it will destroy us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I say all that so that anyone suffering through a Heartbreak can understand............YOU ARE NOT ALONE! You were not the first person to be heartbroken by the "love of your life". Most of us have suffered through at sometime in our lives, or will someday. The good news is this........Heartbreak is a temporary thing. Sure it may last for weeks, months or longer.....but it will surely pass, if we look ahead. What I have found when my heart has been broken is, I spent too much time looking back and what I felt; what we had together; the passion that existed; the kiss, the touch; the smell; the places we were together! Once you can put all that behind you and focus on the now and the future.....you will see that time will heal you of your hurt. If I can provide one bit of information to anyone about Heartbreak, it would be this: NO ONE IS WORTH DWELLING ON ONCE A HEARTBREAK OCCURS! It is easier said than done.....but they were not willing to Die for you, so why should you be willing to Die for them? Yeah, a little piece of us dies with a heartbreak, but if we keep going, that little piece will regenrate itself....I know, I have been there! Don't let Heartbreak end up breaking you. It is an unfortunate side effect of this thing we call Life. And Yes, it is a side effect of loving someone else and letting them into your mind, body and soul! It is a cruel experience practically all of us will or have faced..............YOU ARE NOT ALONE! IT WILL PASS!