Maybe it's just that I was born a
controversial person, but it's almost normal for me to get some
sort of hate mail at least once a month on Booksie. Sometimes, I
suspect the rude and often poorly structured paragraphs and
remarks are from teens with nothing else better to do than pick a
fight with someone they don't know online. Rarely are the
comments ever intelligent.
For me, hate mail almost always arrives in
the form of an anonymous message from my novel, "It's Not Me,
It's You." It's my most publicized novel (though far from being
my best or my favourite) and I guess the saying goes, "You know
you're doing something right when you've got haters."
From anonymous user "Louisssssaaaaaaa
"UR STORY IS SHIT.
LAME. UGLY. AND WEIRD. I KNOW UR GONNA DLETE THIS CUZ U CANT PUT
UP WITHT THE TRUTH. GOD UR PATHETIC!"
If you think I was even a tiny bit offended
by this message, you're wrong. The only person Louisa offended
here was herself because her message makes her sound like an
idiot. Louisa, I've never known a novel to be ugly unless
you're still far below us in the level of intelligence and is
still reading picture books. Please graduate from Grade 3 before
you talk to me. Thank you.
I think what amused me the most about
Louisa's comment is not the fact that she bashed my novel, but
the fact that she assumed I would delete her message. There's
definitely a reason she put that line there and it's to keep me
from deleting it. Smart, isn't she?
Except I happen to never delete hate mail.
Why? Because if I deleted it, the commenter will never get a
chance to read the nasty remark I wrote about them.
I think the most offensive message I got on
here was by an anonymous user named "<3"
"why dont u
actually put some thought in your comments instead of just,
"haha, thnx."?? its getting relli annoying how when ppl spend a
lot of time in their comment and u reply with a "hahaha,
We managed to resolve this issue-the two of
us-eventually, but when I first read it, I was deeply
offended. First thought: Wow. This girl really knows how to nail
an arrow at you!
My reply (Uninteresting, so feel free
"I hope you
understand the reason ppl leave comments is bc they want to be
updated. About 90% of them dont ever check back for replies. When
ppl state out particular concerns about the novel & etc.
(Such as you are now) I try my best to give them a detailed
If there's nothing wrong with the way things are and they only
state out what they thought was funny or nice, then is it
unlawful for me to answer with "haha thanks?"
It's not a matter of putting thoughts in my comments, but rather
the fact that it's way too time consuming to type it all down for
50 separate messages for each chapter again and again for
Please understand that I DO have a personal life and besides
writing and updating my own novels, I read other people's work
and provide feedback and comments of my own. If I had time, I'd
rather be doing that than to writing a detailed reply that has a
90% chance of the not getting read by the original
I think I'm being pretty legit and if your only excuse as to why
you don't like it is bc you find it "annoying" then you can
simply stop reading. Problem solved."
Personally, not to sound vain, I've always
thought I'm a pretty reasonable person. If you left a message
that only comes off as malicious and spiteful, I will not hold
myself back when I reply to your comment. I don't think there's
any reason to be.
If you leave a comment stating something you
don't like about me or my novel and give me a good reason, no
matter how offensive it might have been, I will reply to you
respectfully and by respectively, I mean by not calling
you a dumb whore.
Which completely brings me to why I decided
to publish this short opinion today of all days and not finish
the last 10 paragraphs of Chapter 36 in It's Not Me, It's You.
The reason is I've got another rather upsetting message today.
This time, surprisingly, it's on the last chapter of my
completed novel SSMS.
"I think you are a
true bitch. I've never read anyone on this site give such mean
comments as you. I can understand if you don't like someone's
work but your comments are down right harsh.
You are a great writer and I'm not going to lie about that but
your attitude is shitty. How do you expect to be a best-selling
author in the future with little respect for other writers?
I have read a couple of stories on this site and the comments
from you were harsh.
Please do not let Booksie hype you up because all of those
writers you're putting down may someday be a best-selling
I'm not hating just stating facts and I think it's about time
somebody does it.
If you don't like someone's work why not just say that the story
didn't interest you or something like that. I know people need to
learn how to take criticism but you don't give constructive
criticism, you're down right RUDE.
You really need to work on your people skills
Have a nice day!"
Because she called me a bitch? No.
I'm offended because she's
wrong. I'm offended because she's assuming I
want to be a writer when I grow up. I'm offended that she thinks
she's above me when she adds the "Have a nice day!" at the
end of the comment.
First, the whole thing about "If you don't like someone's work why not just say
that the story didn't interest you or something like that"
is bogus. It's like seeing someone walk out of the girl's
washroom with toilet paper hanging out of her pants. Do you tell
her? Or do you be nice and wait until she finds out herself which
happens to be when her date meets up with her 10 minutes
What you think you're doing, which is
being nice, is in fact being dishonest and cruel. Do you
think by protecting someone you are essentially being thoughtful
and helping them out? No. Instead you are leading them to their
Second, "I know
people need to learn how to take criticism but you don't give
constructive criticism, you're down right RUDE." I think
before you even say something like that, you need to know both
sides of the story.
I have never given constructive criticism to any novel that I have
willingly read. Occasionally I have suggestions and
advice, but nothing you could even call criticism. BUT if
you drop by my page and request that I read your work and
I have the time and get to it, don't expect me to do a half-ass
job on reading it.
If I like it,
I'll tell you I like it and which parts. If I didn't, then I'd
tell you why I didn't like it and which parts and I don't like to
hold back. I'm not a picky person when it comes to grammar. If I
can understand it and mistakes are occasional, who cares. I know
I make mistakes in mine!
Most of the time,
there is something wrong with the plotline itself and I'm more
interested in picking that apart. Writing improves with time and
practice, plotline and character development I believe, sometimes
takes a third person to tell you whether it's good or
thing though is I haven't had anyone tell me that they thought my
comments were ill intended. Trust me. I get back to those
comments as I realize sometimes my comments might come off as
harsh to some people and I don't want any hard feelings between
About 90% of the
time, people thank me for my advice. I actually have had writers
read over the "RUDE" comments I
give out and ask me if I can read their work as they felt I was
the only one being HONEST on this site!
It seems to me,
pixiedust, that you're the only one who thinks my comments are
too harsh. Here's a popular author we all know,
Phoebe Gardens. During her last novel, I told her that I thought
the way she kept changing between boy and girl POV in one single
chapter was unprofessional. I suggested that she either writes
third person or she should challenge herself by just sticking
with the girl's POV and somehow try to get the boy's thoughts
She told me she
sucks at writing third person, but she happily took up the
challenge mentioned. I'm not sure if she took my advice for
Disney's Dismantled Fairytale, but it's over 20 chapters now and
I've yet to see a male's POV and she's doing a fabulous job with
In the end,
here's what it comes down to. "Please do not let Booksie hype you up because all of
those writers you're putting down may someday be a best-selling
author." If they can't even put
up with some tiny criticism someone like me puts on their
work-then trust me-they WON'T become best-selling
Wherever you go
in life, someone's going to hate you. Someone's going to think
what you do is crap. The thing is, there's no right and there's
no wrong. The only thing you can do is keep on believing in
yourself. You think Miley
Cyrus likes being called a
scandalous slut? You think Stephanie Meyers likes her hard work being called garbage? The only
opinion in the end that matters is what YOU think.
thanks for telling me you think I'm a great writer, but I by no
means have EVER considered to be a writer as a profession.
That's actually probably the worst possible choice of career for
me as I excel in math and science.
As for calling me
a true bitch, if you think I'm a bitch because I'm being
blunt, respectful to a writer by telling him/her what I
really think of their work, and having enough
integrity to remain true to myself and do what I think is right
despite the fact that I WILL get upsetting messages from people
like you-then I think in your sense, being a "bitch" is something
I should definitely be proud of.