My hair has been natural for ten years. I remember when I first started my locks they were braided like Celie's hair in the Color Purple. I had no idea what I was doing; but I wanted a new transformation.
After being natural for some time, I then let a close friend lock my hair; I memorized the technique... I would take the new growth of my hair and twist it around my braids; it was theraputic. It is spiritual when you start the process of locking, I am glad I knew her, and we had a good friendship.
Of course, it takes forever to get them to grow in the way that you want, and you go through some things in life: they grow, or they may not. Mine grew like crazy. I went through so much with them that they became like a companion. I kept them up, neglected them at times, polished them, washed them, trimmed them, twirled them in my hand.
Transition creeped in the relationship...
I packed my bags, moved to Houston, got my degree, I realized that I was not that kYm anymore after December 2008. She is now someone else, on a different plane, and has a new mindset. I finally decided to do what I felt like I should-cut my locks off. I began to feel free once I began cutting each one off; I stripped a lot of hurt, pain, and memories that I wanted to forget.
Though it may sound vain, I do not want to look like anyone else. I actually got tired of looking at people with locks too, because many do not know that it is a journey that you go through-realizing who you are and from wince you came (for Black people especially).
Therefore, you have to be ahead of the game, do what you feel, and make that change! I am moving right along with the mantra.
Since cutting my locks, I've had people to stop by to see how I look "now" as though I would not be the same kYm that they new a year ago. Women have asked me why I cut my "long" hair. The questions started to rattle me, but I understand, because many women and men can not own up to what they feel is right for their life. Moreover, they have to have validation from others to feel whole-that ain't me.
Today, I say do what you feel like you need to do to be happy. If it is a change that you need to embark upon, go right ahead; do what you want. Who else is going to be happy for you-but you? I believe that I did what I needed in order to transition in to the next phase in my life.
I am who I am.
By kYmberly Keeton©