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SHOP LIFTING..thrill, fun, disease....??

Article By: Pratibha
Young Adult


Last weekend i noticed a young mom dragged away from Shoppers drug mart because she was caught shop lifting.....

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Submitted: May 13, 2008    Reads: 1016    Comments: 33    Likes: 8   


Why Do Shoplifters Steal?
by Peter Berlin
In simple and concise terms... "TO GET SOMETHING FOR NOTHING."

While we all like to get things for free and the stores are constantly promoting and placing merchandise on "SALE" to generate excitement about getting a bargain, most people don't cross over the line and steal the item. But some people do. Why?
The answer is... to most non-professional shoplifters, "getting something for nothing" is like giving themselves a "gift" or "reward," which in turn gives them a "lift." Many people feel they need a "lift" just to get through the week or even the day. A study by MasterCard International found that shopping was second only to dining as the primary way people reward themselves. Take it one step further and you can see how "shoplifting" the merchandise increases the reward.

Getting Something for Nothing
It's important to understand that "getting something for nothing" always represents something more to the shoplifter than the value of the merchandise. For different people it can represent any of the following things:
  • For some, it's a "substitute for loss" because they perceived they were unfairly deprived in some way (i.e., a divorce, a serious illness, death of a loved one, loss of income from a job or investments, or an unexpected expense which can cause people to feel needy). Stealing a bottle of shampoo, for example, can temporarily help to relieve the anxiety about their financial situation and gives them a feeling that they are more in control.
  • For others, it's "justified payback" for all they give to others and how little they get back in return.
  • For some, it's a "relief mechanism" for anxiety, frustration, boredom or depression.
Several studies have found diagnosed depression to exist in approximately 1/3 of the shoplifters studied. Depression was the most frequently found physiological problem. This helps to explain why so many shoplifters steal from stores on their birthday and around holiday times.

Any way you look at it, shoplifters perceive shoplifting as a form of self nourishment or as a way to relieve fear or pain in their life. In truth, shoplifting is self-destructive not self-nourishing, but shoplifters often can’t see the paradox.
For almost all non-professional shoplifters, stealing from stores is basically a reflection of a person's ability (or inability) to cope with a multitude of situations in his or her life. It's a response to their personal life situations. While these unhappy life situations may not easily be changed (or may recur from time to time) shoplifters must learn how to cope with these situations in a way that's not harmful to themselves or others. This may not be easy to achieve, because approximately 27 percent of shoplifters caught for the first time have already developed a shoplifting habit or even an addiction. Many admit that it will be hard for them to stop shoplifting... even after getting caught.
Two Types Of Shoplifters

Professional Shoplifters
These are addicts who steal to buy drugs or hardened criminals who steal for resale and profit as a life-style. These individuals frequently commit other types of crimes and lack any conscience or guilt. To deal with these shoplifters, the approach here is either a drug treatment program or jail.
Non-Professional Shoplifters
These are the people who make up the majority of shoplifters and who steal for a variety of reasons, mostly related to common life situations and their personal ability (or inability) to cope. They include people who are depressed, frustrated, anxious, influenced by peers, thrill seekers or kleptomaniacs.
Non-professional shoplifting is rarely about greed or poverty. It's about individuals struggling with personal conflicts and needs. These individuals know right from wrong, they know there are consequences and they often have the money to pay, but they continue to steal anyway. These people often steal items they don't need and sometimes don't use. They usually have the money to pay for the item, rarely plan their theft in advance and never try to sell the item for profit.
While many non-professional shoplifters steal from stores on a regular basis, they usually have no prior criminal record (except perhaps for shoplifting) and are typically the kind of people who don't commit other types of crimes. Their behavior is less related to criminal intent and more the result of situational, emotional or psychological problems in need of attention.
Psychological profiles and admissions by shoplifters revealed that 1 out of 3 shoplifters are "at risk" of repeating the offense even after getting caught. Research shows that nationwide there are thousands of shoplifters who continually repeat the offense and want to stop...but can't. Their shoplifting has become a habit or even an addiction, and they are too ashamed or afraid to tell anyone, or ask for help. Other shoplifters simply deny they have a problem of any kind.

A person's addiction to shoplifting can develop quickly when the excitement generated from "getting away with it" produces a chemical reaction (i.e. adrenaline, etc.) resulting in what shoplifters describe as an incredible "rush" or "high" feeling, which many shoplifters will tell you is the "true reward," rather than the merchandise itself. In addition to feeling good, shoplifters quickly observe this "high" temporarily eliminates their feelings of anger, frustration, depression or other unhappiness in their life. Realizing how easy it is to get that "high" feeling, they are pulled toward doing it again..."just one more time"...and their addiction begins to develop. Even though most non-professional shoplifters feel guilty, ashamed or remorseful about what they did, and are fearful of getting caught, the pull is too strong for many to resist.
Of course, some people don't see shoplifting as a functional or psychological problem. They say, "What do you mean that a person can't stop shoplifting? Of course they can, they're just greedy". The idea that shoplifting is an addiction, “except for a few kleptomaniacs", is ridiculous, they say. “People who shoplift should go to jail and not be coddled or told they have an addiction.” This is like telling them it's okay to steal because they really can't help it.
The irony is that most shoplifters who have developed a habit or addiction believe they should be punished according to the law when caught. What offenders often resent, however, is when they are simply thrown into jail with hardened career criminals and are not given the help or support they need to help prevent them from repeating the offense.
Juveniles Who Shoplift

Shoplifting among juveniles is remarkably similar to adult shoplifting. However, the primary issues related to shoplifting among youth revolve around family, school and peer pressures.
If you were to ask juveniles caught shoplifting, "Why did you do it"? The most frequent reply would be "I don't know". Like adults, the reasons teens shoplift vary, but most commonly it is because they wanted nice things, felt pressured by friends, wanted to see if they could get away with it, or were angry, depressed, confused or bored. Sometimes they are just mad at the world and want to strike back.
While teens, like adults, usually know the difference between right and wrong, when their life becomes too stressful they become more vulnerable to temptation, peer pressure and other things that can lead them to shoplift. This is especially true when they feel unworthy, angry, depressed, unattractive or not accepted.
alt

In summary, shoplifting for millions of our citizens, is simply another maladaptive way of coping with stressful life circumstances...similar to overeating, drinking, drugs or gambling. It is not an issue of good vs. bad people, rich vs. poor, young vs. old or education vs. illiteracy. At any time, or even many times in a person's life, the temptation to "get something for nothing" and the desire to reward oneself can easily be present. By raising public awareness about the problem and delivering needed programs and services to people who shoplift, communities who engage in prevention efforts will reduce the number of people who become involved and improve the quality of life for all.

altPeter Berlin founded the National Association for Shoplifting Prevention (NASP). He also is an international consultant on retail theft, publisher of newsletters for retailers and the criminal justice system and a former Director of Retail Security.Last weekend i noticed a young mom dragged away from Pharma Plusbecause she was caught shop lifting L'oreal cosmetics....

She had a 3 year olddaughter in the stroller and the kid was crying uncontrollably.

The police tookher away and the kid was sent to a day care...that's allI couldknow. What happened after that , I don;'t know ,

The face of the woman did not evoke anger inside me, strangely though, because being a doctor, i know this is a disease. Many don't do it onpurpose. They just do it....they vbecome fearless for that "one moment" and when that moment is gone, they feel guilty.

I do feel angry onpeople who do it for the sake of fun and thrill and i don't know why that young lady from a well-to-do family did that. All i could remember was the face of the kid.

Please share with me your views on this topic.

Let's have a debate and let's have a healthy discussion and tell us about your views and any incidences u have witnessed in front of your eyes....alt

This is a open forum and I honestly want to know what all of us feel about the issue.
I don't sympathise with the issue, but i feel there is more to it than it looks....like the tip of he iceberg....

what punishment you think should be imparted ?


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Comments:

Hmm, poor kid. I've never been a very political person. I don't think the punishment for shoplifting, at least where this mother is considered, should be that the child be taken away unless she mentally or emotionally unstable. There are enough kids in the system as it is.

I use to work in a music shop and we use to have professional shoplifters come in. I imagine that, that was their conditioning, probably what they’ve been doing since they left school or before even. They probably believe it’s what they do best.

I think every case is different, subject to punishments should take that into consideration. ~ Nixie

Posted: May 13, 2008

Author Comment:

YES NIC, I AGREE WITH THAT...AND I THINK THE MOTHER DID IT IMPULSIVELY....AND SHE WAS NOT A CRIMINAL ....

THANKS NIC, THAT ONE WAS REALLY GOOD. AND THOUGHTFUL....

MANY OF US WILL TEND TO GET ANGRY FOR THE MOM...BUT LIKE YOU, I WAS SAD FOR THE MOM , NOT ANGRY....

Wow, Pratibha, as I had said earlier, you do have a knack of coming up with something or the other unexpected every so often!

I am no expert on the issue at hand, and I have no statistical figures to prove the things that I am going to say; what I am about to discuss is just general observation and reading newspapers, magazines, etc. I would venture to put forth 4 types of people who would shoplift:

(i) As you have rightly said, there ARE a proportion of shoplifters, technically termed 'kleptomaniacs' who are clinically diseased, and cannot help doing what they do, just like a patient harboring a tumor inside his body cannot help having it. These ones, of course, need therapy.

(ii) Then there are some others, who are full-fledged criminals who plan and carry out their lifting in such a deliberate manner that we'd better call it plain robbery.

(iii)What you are trying to highlight, I think, are a class of people who fall into neither of the above two categories - they shoplift not out of complusion, nor as a profession. They do it just for fun, or thrills, as you correctly term it. Do these people belong to a particular class of society - either by age group, gender, socioeconomic status, ethnicity, educational status, occupation, and so on and so forth? Or does this symptom cut across all barriers of class?

As I have mentioned earlier, since I don't have hardcore data regarding this, I would not like to venture into a very strongly formed opinion. What I can do is just guess, which may or may not be correct: I believe that these people suffer from some sort of an inferiority complex (no, no, I am not a shrink!) and have a constant need to reinforce, either to themselves, or to their peer group, that they can perform some acts of bravado which are on the other side of law. They think that it makes them cool.

(iv) Also, I think there is another subgroup of people who do it purely for material gain - they can't afford to purchase the things on display, so they conveniently make off with them, without bothering to pay for it. This is, unfortunately, a symptom seen increasingly in the present day society where people want great rewards without really earning it.

So, what do we do about these people? Once caught, they need to be profiled psychologically to figure out which of the above mentioned categories they belong to. If they belong to:

(i) Get proper treatment.
(ii) Treat as a regular criminal.
(iii) & (iv) - fine them first, then evaluate their psyche, and then take it further according to what is found there; involve their families in their management, and put them on some kind of a 'watch' by a responsible friend or family member who would try to control this habit by monitoring the person closely. Have a first, second and third chance system for these people, with fines becoming heavier with each subsequent chance lost, and eventually carrying criminal implications as well.

It would be interesting to read what other members have to say in this interesting topic of discussion.

Posted: May 13, 2008

Author Comment:

*stunned* *speechless*
I am sure you are a physician...Are you a Psychiatrist?
I am sure you are.
Such an in-depth description of the entire topic...in simple words easy to comprehend and assimilate.
I absolutely went "ga ga" over the comment.....
I loved everything about the comment and I AM 100% SURE ALL THE OTHER BOOKSIANS WILL AGREE WITH ME....

THANKS URJA, THANK YOU SO MUCH....YOU ARE A "SPARK".....
YES "SPARK"....

THE PUNISHMENT PATTERN WHICH YOU STATED WAS SO GOOD.....APT....

MY HEAT WENT OUT FOR THE IMPULSIVE ONES...THE DISEASED ONE THAT YOU MENTIONED....POOR FELLOWS....SO HARD TO 'CONTROL' AND THEY CANNOT DO ANYTHING TO HELP IT....BUT IF THEY APPROACH THE PHYSICIAN,WON'T THE PHYSICIAN TREAT THEM BADLY AND MAKE THEM FEEL EVEN MORE GUILT?

PLEASE TELL US MORE ABOUT THEM...THE DISEASED AND THE IMPULSIVE ONES THAT IS....

wow, so sad for the child. People don't think about their actions enough these days. Well done by bringing the issue to the table. Some people really need to wake up. Well done my friend! I liked it.
Steph(:

Posted: May 13, 2008

Author Comment:

Thanks Steph....i still cannot forget the look in her eyes,....she looked so sad. I am sure she did not do deliberately...it must be terrible for her to go through this....as well
What i guessed is that she wanted that BUT could not afford it....
still it's not justified...i hope as Urja very aptly stated....they would help her....and NOT punish her. They should not have taken the kid away from MOM.

well i feel for the baby. just wish more people should think before their act. as for the mother and her punishment i think she should be fined and have a pysche evaluation

Posted: May 13, 2008

Author Comment:

YES YES, i agree with you....fined and psychic evaluation but the baby should be near her at least for the sake of the baby....Nice thoughts.....
thanks Princess....so very you....

Maybe she was a Kleptomaniac. My friend is one and we have to make sure that anything of important value is basically glued to our person when we go out to dinner with her because she can't control it.
~Kaori

Posted: May 13, 2008

Author Comment:

Dear Kaori, Thanks for sharing this piece of information. Has she been evaluated by a Psychiatrist? She needs help or she might land up in serious problem. Poor kid...can't control...i can understand the situation and empathise

Hi Pratibha ^_^

ok well my beliefe is this;
anytime there is a forceful nature involved in attempting to stop a behavior, situations get worse!
in this case, the poor baby, and on top of the whatever issues the mother had already she will now have huge guilt and shame to top it off making her life even harder that it already is.

I have only one cure which is deep understanding with loving compassion. That's it! simple!

I guess simple is simple huh? Lol!

well that's my opinion and not just on shoplifting but everything. you can see how wide spread things become whenever there is a crackdown of sorts, trying to muffle negative behaviors (drugs, prostitution etc etc). Force is always met with resistance. Why can't more see this reality?
(sigh)
thanks for the discussion table Pratibha. ^_^
~katie

Posted: May 13, 2008

Author Comment:

so true....U r so right Katie...deep understanding with compassion....yeah....
Thanks Katie....
yes this shameful incidence will be hard for the mother to forget .....so sad for both mother and kid and husband too

Hmm...tough one! Yes, we really don't have any idea why that mom was shop lifting. I remember when my sister was in high school she got caught shop lifting with a friend of hers. I think that was more of a peer pressure thing though. It seems like such a small thing in comparison to all those other crimes out there, but at the same time she is a thief. It seems shameful to do that when her child was there too. No easy answer!

Posted: May 13, 2008

Author Comment:

you are right, buddy...indeed a tough one esp with a kid around....hmmm..

This is tough...

For once, if I'm at your place I would shake my head at her stealing while her daughter was with her. But after some times, I would pity her endlessly. Maybe she's got somekind of a problem, or she just- like you said- want to have that fun and thrill...

This is hard...

But people make stupid mistakes sometimes. Even when they are old enough to differ between right and wrong.

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

i agree buddy...even i was sad for a long long time....

Hi Ms.Prathiba,

There are quite a lot of people with good qualities and wealthy do sometimes want to pick them and they think that they are not being noticed.

There is story about a Guru and his followers. After completing their courses, the Guru told the three final year students to go and hide a gold coin where no one can see that.

Each of them went to differrent locations and after a while they came back. Guru came to know from the students that two of them hid their coins and the third one brought the coin back. Guru asked (the student who brought back the coin) why he did not hide the coin. The student said that he was trying different places to hide his coin so that no one can see. But he could not find a place to hide because he felt that God is watching him all over the places.

The moral is if we have the faith in God, we don't aquire diseases like shoplifting and thefts.

May God bless you

Haribol

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

Hare Krishna Krish
That was so amazing comment. Yes, my papa and mama had told me this story when i was young and i was very very touched back then also....
this is so TRUE....

Pratibha, Why not start your own series of "Opinion Articles" where people in booksie can start debating different topics?

I'm sure everyone will like it.^^

Who agrees with me?^^

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

YES YES YES ......wow....that sounds FANTABULOUS....but then will my young bro help me out with topic selection?

Love u love

This is a very interesting idea. I once dated a guy who, in my opinion, was a genuine kleptomaniac. He'd steal anything: food, an air freshener, school supplies, movies, etc. He once even stole a box of thumbtacks that he didn't even need! It was just an obsession with him that he couldn't control. I think people like that who shoplift and get caught just need therapy. They're sick and they need help. But on the other hand, some people do it for the excitement of danger. I think that these people need to be severely punished. They have the ability to recognize right from wrong, but they choose to break the law. I guess the difficulty comes when you have to determine which are the truly sick and which are just thrill-seekers.

Stephanee :)

And I agree with Punishment, you should create an ongoing series of opinion/debate articles. They would be really interesting to read and discuss!

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

Yes, Steph, suh an in depth comment though u r so young....u r right...how to distinguish.....??
So sad, in the process the genuine kleptomaniacs suffer....
we surely will continue with the series and any topic which has intrigued you, you can start as well and let me know....i will be right there behind you.....love you honey....

Hi Pratibha, here I am again, since you asked for it! First of all, I am NOT a psychiatrist, or even a psychologist, for that matter; just an humble student of human nature, hoping to learn more as time goes by.

Brace yourself for another long comment, since you asked for it! Here goes......

Having already said that kleptomaniacs are diseased, and should be treated, I would like to add some further comments about the crime-committing psychiatrically diseased ones in general. Nowadays the trend seems to be to sympathize with the criminal, in a misguided attempt to see the other's point of view. We always try to pity the wrongdoer, and blame it on his/her circumstances/genes/what not. But have you ever thought what it would be like if the criminal had committed the crime against you or your loved ones? If the compulsively shoplifting unfortunate sorry bastard stole your wallet left momentarily unguarded at a supermarket, and the wallet contained your driving licence, all the credit cards, your passport, your identity card/s, and whatever else not... will you be as forgiving or as sorry for that person as you would have been had he/she doing the same to another? I'm sure the answer is an emphatic NO!

What I would like to say is, that yes, agreed that it is a disease, and they can't help it. But at the same time, don't let it be an excuse and allow it to grow further. Even if it is a kleptomaniac who has done the deed, make sure the his/her family gets to know about it, the therapist gets to know about it, the local law-enforcer gets to know about it, and the person actually kept under monitoring and definitely taking treatment rather than just shoving everything under carpet, and pretending nothing has happened.

The un-discouraged psychiatrically deranged people commit murder as well; if they murdered any of your loved one, would you be willing to forgive, attributing it to mere illness? I doubt it.

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

Oh My GOD, yes buddy, never thought in that angle at all....
YES, i don't think i will keep quiet and sympathise if "I" am the victim....

It's so easy to sympathise when others' property is involved BUT we r at the receiving end, we get the "FEEL"....

It sounds so scary.....

It indeed was an eye opener comment Urja....

P.S.: I know that you don't mind my severe comments as well, that's why I have taken the liberty to write what I did. I am prepared for the barrage of difference of opinions......

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

Not at all.....i loved your comments buddy. Ur comments made a lots of difference and i am looking forward to your presence on each of such sessions. Without you there is no spice...and TRUTH .....truth is truth and all you r doing is telling the fact and the TRUTH....

I don't condone it but I believe many of the stores encourage it by putting displays of "trendy" goods within reach and to attract purchase. One of my young sons was encouraged to "pinch" a transformer toy when very young because I wouldn't buy it. Unfortunately (or fortunately) the store manager caught him and gave him such a reprimand and told him the police were coming and he was disgraced ad humiliated by all concerned and given a big talking to by Mum & Dad I am sure the thought never crossed hs mind again. In fact I thought they went over the top with a ten year old when "seasoned" shoplifters get away with it. Just another perspective. I believe it is a disease for some with others I think a way of life unfortunately. How can we distinguish? We can't, therefore all people who steal should be treated as criminals. Thoughtful Prathibha.

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

I agree with you Anna. Not all of them r criminals especially kids who are attracted by toys naturally. It's not criminal at all and they should not have done what they did. It could have been done in a calm manner as well.
YOU r right, "seasoned" ones escape.
honestly buddy, my heart went out for that mother....ANNA thank you so much for sharing your experience...I am honored indeed.

Okay, I'm back, yes my friend has seen a doctor about her "Sticky finger" problem, but unfortunately she refuses to work with anyone to fix it. All we can do is hope she realizes what she's doing and tries to correct the problem before it's too late.
~Kaori

Posted: May 14, 2008

Author Comment:

Yes Kaori, u r right. If she doesnot , then it's going to increase and then nobody can help
don't worry,u tried ur best.
We can pray she realises and accepts this soon. May GOD be with her ....
u r a very warm human being and r taking so much care of her...may GOD bless you always

Unfortuneately, I don't think some people get help for their problem until they are forced to do it. I've got to think she just lost her child until somebody came for the little one. I hope she gets help. That being said there are far worse crimes that really hurt people, but I also know that shoplifting can be a huge problem for the stores. One little mother isn't so much a problem, but when you add up all the shoplifters it can cost a business a huge amount of money.

Posted: May 15, 2008

Author Comment:

Oh Lacey, so very YOU,....
Thanks for such a thoughtful comment.
yes that's true.....drop by drop the glass gets filled..and the loss becomes cumulative...

I wish people take this seriously if they r suffering from disease....honestly....

Unfortunately i know this is a terrible disease, my aunt suffered from it, and within a period of 6 months she had shop lifted over R10 000 ($1 000 approx) worth of goods without being caught, she had to go for shock treatment and ended up losing her memory completely i have to agree with how it angers me when people do it for the hell of it

Posted: May 15, 2008

Author Comment:

Oh no...why did they gave her "shock treatment".....??
this is so sad...she was not doing it on purpose....she was suffering from a disease. She needed love, affection, medications and supervision.....and she would have done fine....so sad buddy
is she alright now?

i AM NOT A DOCTER OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT BUT i AGREE THAT SHOPLIFTING IS A DISEASE BUT i DO THINK THAT KIDS WHO HAVE MOMS THAT SHOPLIFT ARE PROBALEY MOST LIKELY TO SHOPLIFT THEMSELVES WHAT DO YOU THINK????

Posted: May 15, 2008

Author Comment:

yes KB, i agree with this concept because that impulsiveness is there in the kids also ....may genetic....

I think that many things can said about this. Take a child away from his/her mother can be more traumatic for the child. I think that today people get stress , sick and there are a lot who do this for any reason . She should at first be examined by doctors and Psychologists. The Punishment that i think to be better in this situation it is work for the community and help people.
I say that this is the most effective , because here in Brazil who steal a cookie is arrested and stay inside a prison with other who have broken into a bank , so you don't solve the problem you creat another.

Posted: May 15, 2008

Author Comment:

YES, I am touched by this comment Jbortti
*clapping*
You are right, we have to gauge the seriouness of the problem and act accordingly....
and not to CREATE another criminal and also these harmless fellows be treated and evaluated and if found guilty also should notbe kept with a seasoned criminal in the same cell...

Indeed a thoughtful comment...way to go...JBORTTI...

thanks

I once heard that a woman was arrested after hurricane Katrina for stealing some juice from a busted out store. She took it for her kid. now that really bugs me. If only for the sake of the little children could you give these mothers a break? Who knows what some one would do for their kid? Was there a reason ( a logical one) behind the behavior? if so what was that reason? is there anything we can do to assist these women and children?
Well why aren't we doing anything?

Posted: May 15, 2008

Author Comment:

Oh my GOD, during natural calamities also, one is judging a "MOTHER'S" behaviour ??
So sad...she stole 'juice' for hungry kids.
Poor mom....Oh GOD no mother should face this....this brought tears in eyes....can't imagine her being caught for this act...people get away with so many heinous acts.....

thanks ITANIA for sharing this piece of news with us...

Shoplifting for no apparent reason should always frowned upon, stealing is stealing no matter how you look at it. But I on the other hand, understand a person stealing to feed their family. As for the mother being arrested, I think it's totally out of order. I fault the laws in this country, and I think they old and out dated. I also fault the police for taking the mother away in front of her child. Couldn't they have given her a ticket to appear in court? Why do they put hand cuffs on people for stealing something so small. The things children see and deal with these days are ridiculous.

Posted: May 15, 2008

Author Comment:

YES ...Vee...I agree with this concept....they could have given the ticket to her to appear in the court of law instead of dragging her out and humiliating her in front of her kid.
She probably would have neve thought of this...and she was not a 'seasoned' criminal as well...

poor kid was in a state of 'shock'...

hi! pratibha. well, most shoplifters are amateurs and as kaori says, kleptomaniac (interesting). it is the most common crime for the police and courts.

there are many ways it can be controlled but can not be always avoided.

the motive is mostly kleptomania. these people are usually honest but may do it out of personal losses, anger or vengeance.

in 2001 actress Winona Ryder was arrested for shoplifting. in 2003, Will & Grace actress Shelley Morrison was arrested for same.

this is an interesting subject. one should look into the psychological aspects of shoplifting.

keep goimg. ;-)

Posted: May 17, 2008

Author Comment:

Thanks Bubbly for that amazing piece of news....hey i did not know that even stars do so...i am sure that was also like an impulsion.....

u r right....a psychological aspect should be taken into account.

I'd like to add somthing here. As Bubbly says, it can be detected and prevented (controlled). Most retailers have a few of the following devices: CCTV, EAS, phony shoppers, uniformed guards, exit inspections, close customer service, BOB mirrors, locked merchandise, dummy cases, personnel policy, test policy. Despite these preventable measures, shoplifting is still going strong. Why? It is a big why.

Posted: May 18, 2008

Author Comment:

I agree with you, dear....
I don't know why, may be the desire to get the things which one cannot afford to have normally....

I agree with you when you say shoplifting is a diseas.I am not a doctor like you but I am trying to become one. I feel sorry for the little kid.

P.S. What kind of doctor are you?

Posted: May 18, 2008

Author Comment:

Wow, that's great u r going to be a doctor...it's a great ...all the best buddy
I have done my MBBS and then MD in clinical microbiology....
Now, i am at home ...I completed my MD in 2006, then worked for 1 year and then took this break

Coming from a poor background I know what the opposite sometimes feel like, though I myself have never done it I know my sister has out of desperation lifted catfood on occassion or make-up in hopes to get a better job. I don't know how you all feel about it in reality, but when I see something lifted I am conflicted as to what to do mainly because I don't know the situation they are in. If they are shop lifters it is possible that just because they have nice cloths or a decent car doesn't mean they have money. My fiance used to be all uppity about the situation till he realized when looking back that some people get that desperate. When we tried moving to Boston and ran down to like $3.00 in change as our only money and had only our caddilac to sleep in I realized that you can't judge a person based on car and cloths. We looked like we should have money. Nice cloths from our past and an enviable vehicle, but we were dirt poor only having coffee for our breakfast and hoping my girl friends mom would invite us in for dinner. We kept our situation to ourselves until we litterally had nothing left, not even gas to try to get back to my family. I NEVER judge now because it seems when you look down on someones misfortune whatever higher power may be out there seems to put you in the same situation to test you. I try to help if I can when I see someone I know in the situation where they might be tempted to do this. Other do it because they feel cheated, knowing the store is almost quadrupling the price for profit that they got it for. In the end I can't feel bad for the companies, they more than make up for it on those who do buy the product. In the end I think we have to look at ourselves when we go to judge those shop lifting, don't think you know why they are doing it, you don't unless you get the chance to talk to them. With so much job loss and gas prices and food prices what they are even the richest looking person can be someone who really doesn't have the money to get the things they need to get a good job or take care of their kids.

Posted: May 19, 2008

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U know what ...i loved this comment from the bottom of my heart and soul....
well done...

wow, nice article, i really like it...

so for my opinions on the topic of shoplifting. I believe that there are several types of shoplifting and such, but the most one that i know about is just kids having fun.

But some people do it because they have no money and just out right can't afford the thing they want/need, so they think if they take it it would be ok, because they're just getting what they want. In cases like this they need to realize that there is other ways to get food, like at poverty houses and such, and that there are consequences for their actions.

People who don't realize that they're doing it... they're the ones who really need psychological help, but they do realize afterwards.

Then there are people who do it as a profession.. they need some serious help, and the most criminal attention.

And the fun reason, i left this to the last because i know a lot more about it. Back when i was younger about 3 or 4 years ago i had this friend, and she got me to shoplift with her, and i felt so so so guilty over it, and i would hate every time i had to go shopping with this friend, she always got the best of me, and i always listened to her, because i had no other friends, i was alone without her, luckily we slowly drifted away, and i got out of that horrible situation, and now i look back on it and feel overly guilty for it, and never ever want to do it again. I think for a punishment would be like a fine, but nothing too drastic, i never did get caught, but i know for sure that if i did my world would have crashed down, and i would have learned a lot sooner.

anyways just my opinions! hope you got something out of them!

Posted: May 20, 2008

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"got something out of it"

I got the huge courage to admit that i had done this when i was in my teens and was caught also...it was a small town and people knew me as a sincere and hard working girl who was always buried inside books and hence did not take that seriously...It was not exactly shoplifting....i plucked a raw jackfruit from a temple garden....very much similar to shop lifting though....stealing is stealing...right...

Thanks Seesawmae....

i feel bad for the kid, although i come from a family who does this kind of shit... i would never shoplift though, I'd have this awesome feeling inside me as if i did something wrong.. why people have to shoplift is beyond my understanding, its stupid, and wrong.. that mom should of known better >_>

Posted: May 20, 2008

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This is so honest buddy....I am surely going to be a fan of urs after reading this....
u sure have guts to distinguish right from wrong....way to go honey..

I think sometimes they don't think about how that kind of thing affects children. When we are young parents are the people that we think always know all the answers and for the child to be taken away would be very stressful. Interesting topic. Surely if the mother was serious about stealing something she wouldn't take her kid?

Posted: May 22, 2008

Author Comment:

i am touched by this comment.....
lovely....thanks HANNAH

We do have a neighbor who steals but hers is a special case. The act is not motivated by envy or jealousy. She just takes one thing away and puts it somewhere else along with her possession. She doesn't look guilty whenever she does it. There was one time she was confronted about it but she didn't really mind at all. Until we figured out that hers was really a disease. It's kleptomania. Whenever she does it, I just look at her with sympathy and understanding. I know deep within her, she feels humiliated by the act but there's just nothing that she can do about it. She's a victim.

Posted: May 22, 2008

Author Comment:

poor fellow, does she do that in shops as well?? I pray NOT...poor fellow, not many people will be as understanding as you....my heart went out to that neighbour as well....

Not that I'm aware of. But, I hope it won't happen, otherwise, her future will be at risk.

Posted: May 22, 2008

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thank GOD....MAy GOD save her...

I have seen this done for fun before. A test of guts, and I think it is wrong. The people working inside the stores have families to provide for too, and they are actually EARNING their living.

Posted: May 27, 2008

Author Comment:

thanks honey, u indeed r a kind soul to think about those guys....and stealing is stealing ...it's never right....thanks

It seems that any element of "wrong-doing" is seen as exciting by young people. It would be stupid to say that none of us have ever done anything wrong or if mum has said "NO" to something it's given us a naughty streak to do the opposite.

A quandry I always had as regards shoplifting is circumstance, I don't think there can be a one-punishment-fits all. How can you punish one person for stealing because his mates told him to, and apply that same punishment to someone stealing from a supermarket as they can't afford to feed themselves or their family?? Not saying they are the only reasons for shoplifting but I hope you get the comparison.

Posted: Jun 3, 2008

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Yes YES, Jak, i agree and then there is one category which needs serious medical attention because they indulge in shoplifting due to tremendous depression.....
lol...what a tough time the latter group faces ...this group just cannot 'control' the desire like addiction to drugs...

I have shoplifted in my life as a young teenager and was arrested and put in jail. It was no fun. I lied and said I had mononucleosis to keep from being in the group cell. When they took the blood test and it came back negative. I was put in with all the hardened women who had been in for a while. Some were drug addicts, lesbians, and other crimes. I was frightened most of the time. I suffer depression so I can relate to the cause. I did it because I wanted a bathing suit and didn't have money to pay for it. I would steal with my sister and feel so bad because I did not get caught, I would throw everything away. When I was 8 I took a candy bar and my mother found out and made me go back to the store and apologize to the store owner. I had a problem with shoplifting when I was young.

Posted: Oct 7, 2008

Author Comment:

Dear SUSAN, listening to your side of story made me confident to admit that i myself have done that so many times...ur story made me realise that i should make a sincere effort NOT to let that dwell on my mind...being with tough persons in a same cabin is scary and so tough for a kid ...i can empathise with you...it needs so much courage to admit it...hats off to you....



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