overcoming obstacles

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Non-Fiction  |  House: Booksie Classic

Submitted: May 17, 2016

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Submitted: May 17, 2016



We all face obstacles everyday of our lives and although some people may face them more than others but we all need to have the strength and virtues to overcome them. To keep pushing forward through our problems, we must have commitment, confidence, and trust. When I faced my first large obstacle I was very young. I have lived with my  grandparents my entire life and it didn't bother me much in the beginning, but as I got older I started realizing that my life was different from other people. It bothered me to see others grow up with their actual parents and knowing my parents didn’t want any part of my life. After my grandparents got divorced it became much more difficult to keep staying positive. I then lived strictly with my grandmother and I didn’t even have a father figure to help me. I did go see my grandpa once in awhile but it was never the same as living there. Holidays were especially hard. This was a huge impact on my life. A few years after the divorce, my dad left the state without even saying goodbye. Before he had left I was able to see him once a week or once every couple weeks and it was really nice to spend time with him. We usually went fishing or shopping when I spent time with him.

Shortly after he left, my mother came back into my life. She decided she wanted to be a mom after roughly seven years of being absent. It was nice to have her in my life but it was like meeting a stranger. I didn’t know her and she didn’t know me. My grandmother was very wary of Jennifer coming back into our lives but she accepted it. As months passed, Jennifer started acting differently and didn’t visit us as often. That is when she dropped the big bomb: Jennifer was going to start fighting for custody of my sisters and me. I remember feeling the hurt inside all the time and my stomach always churning whenever it was brought up. I was young but Jennifer still pressured us. I remember her always saying, “You girls are going to live with me soon, your real mom.” I never liked the sound of that, and still to this day I don't like it. After this news, a huge custody battle erupted. I remember everybody being very emotional about the entire situation. My grandmother then told me that I am safe from having to leave as she had adopted me a few years before. She has raised my sisters and I since the day we came out of the hospital and it was a relief that I didn’t have to leave. I didn’t want to lose my sisters and my grandma knew that. When I was able to attend a court session, I remember my grandmother telling the judge that they couldn’t separate us, it would be wrong. The case lasted for a long time. My grandmother was able to stay committed. She didn’t give up at all and fought until she won the battle.

My grandmother drove everybody to come on her side and everybody left the side of my Biological mother. She did this by explaining that Jennifer was completely unfit to be raising kids by showing raw evidence of Jennifer getting into a lot of trouble with the law. My grandma was able to win this fight and now has full custody of my sisters and me. Just recently, Jennifer and my biological dad tried contacting me. While I was reading the messages from my parents, I came to the realization that I can give them forgiveness, but not let either of them be a part of my life because I can’t trust them. I told them that I know they made mistakes by abandoning me and that I forgive them but I don’t want them in my life at all. Since then, they still repeatedly message me and try to get me to accept them again but I have come to peace with the situation and leaving poisonous people in my past is the best way to go. Many people do not agree with me for making this decision but those people have never been in my situation and they don’t know what it is like to have your parents abandon you for the majority of your life. I will be turning 18 this year and my parents are strangers to me. They left me before I was even out of elementary school and in my opinion they don’t have the right to come back into my life when I am almost an adult. I have been able to trust myself through this and I have been able to cut the poisonous people out of my life, it is difficult to stay committed to this when I am always dealing with people trying to convince me to let my biological parents back into my life.

Although our problems we face have impacts on our lives, some people face decisions that could impact the country. Abraham Lincoln was known as “honest abe” because he was able to stick to his heart and not give in to others pressure. When he was trying to push for the thirteenth amendment, everybody was going against him. He put his foot down for what he believed was right and that was to put the country back together and abolish slavery. Lincoln nearly ruined his marriage by trying to bring the country together. He never considered bringing his family together. Lincoln was a  very strong willed president who always fought for what was the right thing. He believed that the country should be brought together as one and not separate. He describes the union and confederates as being the same even if they don’t see it. “ Both read the same Bible and pray to the same God, and each invokes His aid against the other.” (Second Inaugural Address.) Lincoln looked past the thoughts of others even though it was a life threatening issue simply because he believed it was right. He had strength to even overcome his son’s death and keep looking forward simply for the country’s sake.

Although Lincoln’s decisions had massive impacts on the country, Martin Luther King Jr. made choices that had a great impact on the subject of racism. King was alive during a time where blacks and whites were not created equal and were segregated completely. At times they couldn’t even go to the same restaurant. King had a lot of commitment and he was able to accept the punishment for simply doing the right thing. He never went against what his heart believed because he trusted it was the right way to go. While King was in Birmingham, he was arrested due to his ideas being “unwise and untimely.” King heard the clergymen saying that King was being impatient to get the results he wanted, but many people before King had been fighting for the same rights for quite some time, they wanted equality. King explained in his letter to the clergymen why he was in Birmingham and he showed complete respect. “Several months ago the affiliate here in Birmingham asked us to be on call to engage in a nonviolent direct action program if such were deemed necessary. We readily consented, and when the hour came we lived up to our promise. So I, along with several members of my staff, am here because I was invited here. I am here because I have organizational ties here.” (Letter to Birmingham Jail.) King fought for what he believed for quite some time and he did this in nonviolent ways. King believed there was “injustice” in Birmingham and it needed help. Due to the actions taken being called “untimely” King says “In any nonviolent campaign there are four basic steps: collection of the facts to determine whether injustices exist; negotiation; self purification; and direct action. We have gone through all these steps in Birmingham. There can be no gainsaying the fact that racial injustice engulfs this community. Birmingham is probably the most thoroughly segregated city in the United States.” King’s letter had a huge impact because they were able to see what the African Americans are fighting for and why they are having to take action, they had been waiting patiently for the terrible segregation laws to pass by and they never did. Nobody should have to live in misery and King was able to fight for the rights of his people and stay completely committed even when he was given punishments, he never gave up.

Overall, we all have weaknesses and if we don’t have the strength to push past the difficulties we face then we will be in a hole we can’t escape. I have never met a person who hasn't gone through challenges in life and those challenges make people stronger in the long run as long as they have the strength to simply look beyond the negative and to the positive things they have going for them. For some, it is much harder to find those certain traits that help you overcome obstacles and those people aren’t very stable and they can’t find anything positive in their lives. To be mentally strong and almost bull-headed is something we all have but some of us just don’t let it out and are then pushed around. An obstacle will come out depending on how the person looks at it, either it can be a small hill to push over or the same obstacle can be seen as a mountain that is impossible to climb, it is all about perspective. “We merely bring to the surface the hidden tension that is already alive. We bring it out in the open, where it can be seen and dealt with. Like a boil that can never be cured so long as it is covered up but must be opened with all its ugliness to the natural medicines of air and light, injustice must be exposed, with all the tension its exposure creates, to the light of human conscience and the air of national opinion before it can be cured.”

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