What Fat People Want to Tell You

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My second article is about something that needs to be said.

Submitted: August 03, 2016

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What Fat People Want to Tell You

 

While it’s true that we’ve come a long way from not giving women the right to vote and discriminating non-whites, there’s still some aspects of life that as a society, we still don’t really know how to deal with.

One of them is the number that shows up on a scale.

Somebody reading this is going to think: "Really, you’re putting serious topics like sexism and racism in the same box with being overweight?”

Yes, really, because society owes me some explanations.

Exactly how is my weight everyone’s business? Why does that every time I expose some skin, somebody is gonna be like: “You’d look better if you were thin.” Or “You have pretty legs, it’d be a shame if you don't lose some weight.”

Those sentences don’t even compare to comments I used to get back when I was in freakin’ primary school. “Cow”, “ogre”… because apparently not having a flat stomach means you’re not a human being. Imagine an eight year old girl having to deal with being dehumanized.

That’s without mentioning all the people who used to tell me that I need to lose weight. Back when the main concern in my life was to not miss the after-school cartoons.

Look, if your kid is still, well, a kid, weight loss is not their concern. If you’re worried that little Timmy can’t fit in those kid sized jeans, then the only solution is to take him to a dietician or that you fix his diet yourself. Children don’t have a negative body image, they don’t think their appearance is “wrong”. If your child always gets told to lose weight, and gets called mean names by their peers, they’re not going to respond well because they don’t see what’s wrong with their bodies. Your kid is just getting set up to insecurity and possible eating disorders once they reach their teen years, because nobody wants to remember their childhood and recall all that body shaming.

And trust me, insecurity is not easy to get rid of. To this day, I can’t accept compliments about my body such as: “Wow, you’ve lost some weight!” In fact, any comment about my body is going to make me want to throw up my lunch and have a glass of water for dinner. That’s what years of body shaming does to you.

Also, I think it’s funny how some people get offended by us fat folks. Because fat people and especially obese people are “shameful”. “They need to get their asses off of the sofa and start being healthy!”

If it was that easy to lose weight, nobody would be fat. We’d all look like Victoria’s Secret models.

Do you know why it’s hard to lose weight? Because food is everywhere; on billboards, on the TV, in carts in the streets, in your kitchen… You can go jogging outside, but you’ll whiff out a smell of food from restaurants and bakeries, because life is full of ironies. It’s like being a junkie trying to quit, but you see cocaine everywhere you go.

If someone is on a diet, they have every right to complain about cravings. If you’ve never found yourself craving some lasagna or a chocolate bar or whatever, then you’re the one who needs to shut up because you’re lying. Just because your BMI says you’re healthy doesn’t mean your cravings are more valid than mine.

If you’re one of those gym rats, and you and your “bros” spot a fat person trying to work out, you have absolutely no right to make fun of him or her. Making fun of fat people at the gym is like making fun of sick people in a hospital.

Encourage overweight people to become healthy. Instead of telling your fat friend: “Just stop eating so much”, why don’t you say something like: “I heard drinking water helps with cravings.” Or “Why don’t you and I go jogging together?” Or maybe even “On your cheat day I’ll take you out for some ice-cream.”

Ostracizing overweight people won’t help them lose weight, and neither will treating them like lesser than humans.

We have a saying in Lebanon: “One hand can’t clap on its own.” If you want your society to become healthier, then you need to lend a hand. If you don’t understand metaphors, I’m just saying you need to help people on their journeys toward a healthier lifestyle, because believe it or not, we humans need each other to achieve our goals.

And to my childhood bullies: Someday I’m going to lose weight, and I’ll look better than ever. But you’ll still be stuck with a shitty personality, and I really don’t know how you can get rid of that.

Sorry. ¯\_(^-^)_/¯

 

 

 


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