You may not be who you think you are. Take a closer look. Part 1

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Submitted: August 25, 2016

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Did you know that you were perfectly designed by God? He drafted your blueprint with distinct characteristics, traits, gifts, and talents and stamped it on your spirit before you were even born. Unfortunately Satan succeeds at concealing our true identity when we are young. He uses an array of influences such as our family, culture, and maybe even the Church to wound and scar us. This not only stifles God’s original design, but we end up engraved with Satan’s trademark. We don’t realize that we’ve been altered because much of Satan’s work is either subtle or completely invisible. Today I want to start exposing some of his tactics.

If we grow up in an ungodly home or even a home where God is acknowledged but not obeyed or invited into our lives, Satan has free reign to do as he pleases. Since Satan wants to destroy us, he starts working to define and shape our identity. We end up with a false image of who we are, making it almost impossible to be who God created us to be and do what He created us to do. And by that, Satan has thwarted God’s plan for our lives.

A major weapon that Satan uses is the family. He may work through the father. A dad might treat his children poorly because he didn’t really want kids or they were “unplanned” or a “mistake.” Some will call their children degrading names, like dumb or stupid, or worse things. They’ll avoid their kids and restrict or refrain completely from giving affection to them. Some dads will criticize their kids for falling below perfect, like getting Bs on their report cards.

Satan can work through mothers in the same ways. Additionally, moms tend to spend more time with their children, so the impact may be greater. Also, moms may focus on their kids physical needs and neglect the emotional aspect. The relationship may lack intimacy or sharing of hearts, and the child’s need for love and acceptance is still not met.

Other family members can be used to negatively shape our self-image. Relatives can speak words of disapproval. We can feel forsaken by older siblings who move out while we are young. We especially look to older siblings for clues about who we are, and sometimes in an attempt to gain acceptance from them, we try to change and become who we think they want us to be.

In Genesis 1:26 “God said, let us make man in our image, after our likeness.” I was created in the image and likeness of God, but I didn’t know that. My understanding of self was defined by my dad’s rejection, my mom’s neglect, my brother’s abandonment, and my sister’s appraisals. In a home without God I grew up feeling worthless, and I saw myself as an unwanted burden. It’s okay, things have changed.

Next week I’ll be writing about how Satan can use the Church and our culture to negatively influence our self-portrait. In the meantime, I encourage you to ask the Holy Spirit to start showing you where your blueprint may have been distorted by your family. I want to caution you though. The topic of who we really are is very deep. And complicated. There are many layers, and like an onion God will slowly peel away at any lies you may have hidden in your heart about who you are. Lies you don’t even know are there. This can be painful. Yet God is gentle.

Here is an excerpt from my book, Original Design: Set Free to be Who God Created about this process:

“Your self-portrait has been pieced together from lies that you’ve accepted as truth. To correct your picture, you have to put the lies in a casket, close the lid, and bury the person you’ve always thought you were. Only then can you become your true self.

“Remember the prodigal son? When he came home, he was wearing filthy rags. Because of his time spent in the pig pen, he didn’t look like his father’s son. But when his father saw him, he ran out and put the best robe on him and a ring on his finger. These symbolized the father’s power, authority, and unconditional love. God has done the same for you, but in your eyes you still live in your trough-stained rags. Those mud-covered clothes can’t be worn in God’s kingdom, and you can’t wear a robe of righteousness over them. You have to take the rags off. This will require a paradigm shift. You need to see yourself as God sees you.”

“How do I do that?” I asked.

“The first steps are for you to understand and acknowledge that you are not who you think you are. You’re a fraud, and everything you know about yourself comes from a fraudulent perspective. That’s why you still wear the rags, because your beliefs about yourself are wrong.”

My mind spun. If I wasn’t who I thought I was, then who was I? I told Ed, “I want to see myself as God sees me, but I’m afraid I can’t.”

“That’s because your skewed picture is so familiar that it seems impossible to change. But in Mark 10:27, Jesus said, ‘With God all things are possible.’ Even so, this transformation won’t happen overnight. It’ll probably take years.”

More to come on this topic next week. Peace to you on your journey of self-discovery,


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