IS IT LOVE?

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An article about love that sought to add a twist to the definitions that argues basically that love is not just about you and your spouse but many people by using the love story story of king Edward VIII as a case study.

Submitted: October 14, 2016

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Until the word “LOVE” is streamlined to include the remarkable contributions of all those who have given their versions of definitions of the word, many do not intend to either recognize or believe the same. And not even 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 which encompass everything concerning love, in my estimation, has been able to cure the minds of these people from their nemesis.

Perhaps the recent definition in practice which is “the magical feeling that occurs when you meet your MR. or MRS right”, is what they can make do with for now. And this definition stems from the fact that everyone who walked and/or walks the face of this earth had and/or has specific qualities they consider before they chose or will choose a partner. It is termed checklist. So if you find someone who meets your checklist, it is believed you have found love. Not the least of the fact that if there is a breakup, same couple who were ones intoxicated in love still finds other suitable persons with akin qualities to love.

If you are unfortunate to find someone on your checklist, however, there is another option of learning to love someone who consider you suitable to his/her qualities (or love you). So this stands to reason that you can channel your own love base on the parameters you set for yourself.

I am not writing this piece to compound the controversies already churned out by more erudite personalities, but to find out how the greatest love of all looks like. And I would like to use the love story of King Edward VIII as a case study. According to the British media, that decision was more of a mental problem than a love one. But for the benefit of those who have not heard and/or read about King Edward VIII, below is a brief history of an action by the aforementioned that changed the royal lineage of the Great Britain.

Edward, Prince of Wales, succeeded to the throne on January 20, 1936 on the death of his father, George V. For about 2 years he had been having an affair with the American socialite, Wallis Simpson, and during 1936, both decided to marry. Ms. Simpson was once divorced and her second divorce was going through the courts. But it was unthinkable for the governor of the Church of England to marry a divorcee, although not illegal. So the government informed the king to choose between the throne and Ms. Simpson, and he opted for the latter, saying “I tell you that I have found it impossible to carry the heavy burden of responsibilities and to discharge my duties as king as I would wish to do without the help and support of the woman I love. The decision I have made has been mine and mine alone”.

To the foregoing effect, the royal lineage changed hands from him to his brother and descendants. And as he pointed out, the decision was his, alone, not that of his descendants who would later succeed him and ascend to the enviable throne of the Great Britain. And I am not in any way going to criticize a decision by a dead and gone person, albeit, if I face similar situation today, I will not do same.

My question is how far can one go with what they consider as love? Is what King Edward did the greatest love of all? Or rather, is his decision the benchmark for every form of love man can ever express?
With some little knowledge I have acquired from some books and audio/visual materials about marriage, I have learnt that love is just an ingredient to marriage. Marriage comprises of many other ingredients. Your decision to marry should not be influenced by love alone. Character and attitude are arguably more important ingredients in marriage than love. And marriage is not just about you and your spouse but the mergence of two families. Therefore you can’t say you love your spouse and hate his/her family.

If you do something for your spouse or children, it can be considered as a mere honor of responsibility since the law makes some of these responsibilities mandatory. However, if you do something for a stranger, you have indisputably distinguished yourself among the heroes of change.

That is why the Nobel peace prize award is not awarded to personalities who cause changes in their own families, but to personalities who caused changes in the lives of strangers. The Good Samaritan in the bible is often referenced and revered because of the love he showed to a total stranger. When the injured man was by the road side, priests passed by, and clansmen passed by, only for his help to come from an unexpected person from a different tribe in the good Samaritan.

In sum, we must all pay close attention to what is captured in john 15:13 which goes, “Greater love hath no man that a man will lay down his life for his friends”. Friends referring to every living soul since Christ died for all, which means you can’t express great love if you only channel it to your spouse, children, family and cronies without considering the homeless and needy fellow human beings just as Jesus did.


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