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my attempt to explain the inexplicable--not meant to make light of some very serious disorders.

Submitted: March 16, 2017

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Surly, several of the following help explain.

(You may be right, and don't call me Shirley!)

 

 

Paranoia:

 

A mental condition characterized by delusions of persecution, unwarranted jealousy, or exaggerated self-importance, typically elaborated into an organized system. It may be an aspect of chronic personality disorder, of drug abuse, or of a serious condition such as schizophrenia in which the person loses touch with reality." Can cause the overwhelming desire to lash out at your perceived enemies in a tweet at 3 am. (I added that last part to the definition!)

 

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Psychosis

 

A severe mental disorder in which thought and emotions are so impaired that contact is lost with external reality.

 

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Egomaniac

 

A person whose ego exceeds both his intelligence and his capacity to see beyond his own personal interests.

 

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Immaturity

 

Behavior that is appropriate to someone younger," say, 15? (Or, your brain stops maturing at 15, and your body doesn't.)--not in quotes, I added myself, but it may help explain the inexplicable!

 

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Emotional volatility

 

Sufferers may; throw temper tantrums, like screaming, yelling, breaking things or hitting others; get upset extremely easily; have a low frustration level;
respond out of proportion, that is, making a mountain out of a mole hill;
are unable to take criticism, rather taking it too personally or taking yourself too seriously;
suffer extreme jealousy; are unwilling to forgive; have unpredictable fluctuation of moods

 

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Narcissistic personality disorder


 

A long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated sense of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding the feelings of others. People affected by it often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success, or about their appearance. They often take advantage of the people around them. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations.

Signs and symptoms:

People with narcissistic personality disorder are characterized by their persistent grandiosity, excessive need for admiration, and a disdain and lack of empathy for others. These individuals often display arrogance, a sense of superiority, and power-seeking behaviors. Narcissistic personality disorder is different from having a strong sense of self-confidence; people with NPD typically value themselves over others to the extent that they disregard the feelings and wishes of others and expect to be treated as superior regardless of their actual status or achievements. In addition, people with NPD may exhibit fragile ego's, an inability to tolerate criticism, and a tendency to belittle others in an attempt to validate their own superiority.

Individuals with NPD have most or all of the following symptoms, typically without commensurate qualities or accomplishments:

  1. Grandiosity with expectations of superior treatment from others

  2. Fixated on fantasies of power, success, intelligence, attractiveness, etc.

  3. Self-perception of being unique, superior and associated with high-status people and institutions

  4. Needing constant admiration from others

  5. Sense of entitlement to special treatment and to obedience from others

  6. Exploitative of others to achieve personal gain

  7. Unwilling to empathize with others' feelings, wishes, or needs

  8. Intensely envious of others and the belief that others are equally envious of them

  9. Pompous and arrogant demeanor

 

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Bully

A blustering, browbeating person; especially one who is habitually cruel, insulting, or threatening to others who are perceived to be weaker, smaller, or in some way vulnerable

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Signs Of Self-Absorbed People

 

Casey Imafidon

No one likes a self-absorbed person- at least most people I know don’t. Self-absorbed people do portray certain patterns that are similar to narcissistic people, and getting close to such people can hurt your self-esteem.

However realizing certain elements that define their character can make us more prepared for dealing with them.

Here are signs of self-absorbed people:

They are always on the defensive

They do not see the world from another person’s eyes. They would rather see it from theirs and protect their flaws and image with everything they’ve got.

They don’t see the big picture

A self-absorbed person thinks the world is just about them. Thus, the world, from their point of view, is a place comprising them and perhaps a few persons around them who they can control. How the world affects other people really doesn’t concern them.

They are imposing

They frequently use words like “should” or “must.” They want to dominate in any relationship because they see relationships as a tool for getting what they want and making themselves the center of attention.

They feel insecure sometimes

They are not complete. They always have a missing gap in their world. And you may be the person they try to use to fill those gaps.

They always think they are superior to others

They are so consumed by their own world and self image that it is near impossible for other people to measure up to their standards. They maintain a superiority complex that most commonly leads to them devaluing others.

They consider friendships a tool for getting what they want

Don’t assume that they are overly concerned with the friendship that they have with you. This is why they have so many friends and are not overly concerned with the number of friends they have: they view friends as tools for getting what they want.

They are extremely opinionated

It is always about their opinions. They do not want to consider the opinions of others; due to their self-absorption they are consumed by their own point of view, self-image, desires and preferences.

They do not have long lasting relationships

Since their relationships are built around the idea of quantity and using people as tools to get what they want, they do not have long lasting relationships or quality ones.

They do not have a real sense of empathy

Since their display of sympathy or compassion is usually conditional, it is difficult for them to understand the depth of true empathy or what this concept really means.

They hide their insecurities behind a cloak of success

The truth is that no matter what sort of success they have, they will always feel inadequate internally. While they may appear successful or confident based on appearances and external achievements, internally, they fears relating to self-esteem.

They devalue others

Constructive criticism is okay, but self-absorbed people always take criticism too far and use it as a weapon to allow them to devalue others.

They can be (are) arrogant

This is because they feel they are so important and better than every other person. A self-absorbed person can often be egotistical.

They hide who they are

They will present the best and most captivating part of their personality to you. As they are so self-absorbed, they do not want you to see the hidden elements that make them feel secretly insecure. This can lead to them coming across as pretentious and them failing to be vulnerable in relationships. Every human is selfish. But there are certain occasions when you have to make exceptions and take actions without expecting anything in return. This is not so for the self-absorbed person.

They think they are great and the world out there is wrong

They do not self-heal. If they have been hurt they would rather rebuke the world for this rather than self-heal. For the self-absorbed person the problem is either “you” or the “other”- never “me”. Most of the time it will seem like no form of self-healing or therapy would suit them as they are focused on all the wrongs the world has done to them, never accepting any responsibility.

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Dominate Personality

To control, govern, or rule by superior authority or perceived power

 

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Attention-seeking adult;

By M. Farouk Radwan, MSc.

 

Attention seeking adult; whenever you find someone acting on the extreme side know that he is compensating for something on the other side. Some adults strive for attention and pay any price just to get it. Those attention seeking adults may do inappropriate things like lying just to get attention or they may engage in a more constructive behavior like striving for success and recognition just for the sake of getting attention.

 

Not all attention seekers are doing so because of a personal disorder but if the person started to sacrifice some of his values for the sake of attention then its probably the result of an underlying disorder. Why do some people strive for attention? If as a child, the person did not receive much attention from his parents or his peers then he may grow up feeling neglected. Those feelings will then be the main drive behind the person's attention seeking behavior. Abusive parents and parents who are always absent usually make their children feel that they are overlooked and so the child may grow up becoming an attention seeking adult. Sometimes adults seek attention because of jealousy. When someone finds himself threatened by another person who takes all the attention he is supposed to get he may respond with attention seeking behavior.

 

Feeling overlooked can be another cause for attention seeking behavior. Some people think that they are overlooked and so they think that the only solution to restore their balance is to bring back the lost attention. The attention they will get in this case will provide them with reassurance and will help them think that they are worthy.

 

Overconfident and arrogant people may seek attention because they have the feeling that they deserve to be in the center of attention. Because they aren’t mature enough they still think with their inner child’s mentality which makes them believe that they are the center of the world.

 

Usually the child thinks that he is the center of the universe around which all other objects revolve. If the child’s way of thinking didn’t mature he will grow up thinking that he is the center of the world and so he will be an attention seeking adult.

Narcissists are also attention seekers. They consider this attention a good source of narcissistic supply and so they strive to get it. If you ignored a narcissist he will definitely hate you especially if he was hoping to get some attention from you.

 

 


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