My Life's Messages

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Status: In Progress  |  Genre: Memoir  |  House: Booksie Classic
Excerpts from my life: beliefs, ideas, opinions and experiences. Pain and hardship, sorrows and joys, every day in our lives is an opportunity for us to improve. Every day is an opportunity to learn, an opportunity to love, sacrifice and help, an opportunity to make mistakes and try to correct these mistakes and learn from them.

Submitted: April 14, 2017

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Part_1: Hardships 

Hardships were not found to be felt pity for us but they were found to be referred to us, to be said that we are strong. The best people in our lives are those who have suffered so much, who have known misery, known defeat, grief, loss and despair. If you face hardship in your life, smile, because if you are smart to turn these difficulties into achievements then you are one of the best people. But if you are not smart enough to turn them into better things then you are like the one who has never had difficulties in his life and who easily reached his goals. You will not feel the value of what you get if you do not struggle to get it. So all these difficulties make us feel the value of what we got. Your faith in yourself and your faith that you can do a lot, your belief that nothing is impossible but things beyond our ability, your faith in all these is very important. You can. Put the fears away and try the things you fear most so you can kill the fear inside you. Fear will never make you progress. You will stay in your place if you do not face it. Never let it decide your future.

 

 

 

Part_2: Failure 

It  has  been  a  while  since  the  last time I  wrote something useful. One year,  lots of  things have changed  and  I'm  glad  that  I  didn't write anything because now when I'm  thinking  about  the  things  I wanted  to  write  during  the  last year,  I  realize  they're  all  bullshits. One thing I've learnt from life,  I never  faced failure like I  did during 2017, It taught me how to begin again. Beginning again is one of the hardest things  but I'm trying to learn how to do it. Someday I'll write my story with “begin  again”.  People  may  think it's a waste of time but if we have enough  patience to wait for the results  we're  going  to  realize  it's not waste of  time at all  to  begin again.  One  of  the thirteen  things mentally strong people don't do is that they're not expecting immediate results. I  will wait and see what this life will  gift me.

 

 

 

Part_3: Success 

I  don't  want  to  die  before  I  do something everyone talks about, before everyone knows my name, I've  always  promised  myself  to  do something but it's hard to  do  so. I'm  trying  my  best.  When  I  read about  successful  people,  I  feel hopeful  about  life  and  someday  I'll achieve  what  I  want.

 

 

 

Part_4: Marriage 

I'm afraid of myself. When I was a teenager I had some wrong beliefs on marriage. I believed that it’s fine to get married to a person whom I don’t love as long as he has more wealth than I do. What a shame! I hate that I used to think this way. Thankfully my beliefs have changed! Perhaps money is the thing I was messing, but whenever I grow up, I realize that money isn’t everything. I do have my allowance and for me it’s enough since it can cover all my needs. I find it hard to ask for money from my parents! This’s why I’m thankful that I have my allowance, I feel independent. I can’t marry someone just because of his money, whenever someone proposes I say no; because I can’t imagine living my whole life with someone I don’t love plus I have high standards in choosing people but I must worth something before applying those standards. Perhaps I'm not meant for marriage. Sometimes I feel that I want to achieve a lot in my life, I want to worth something. I feel marriage may prevent me from achieving what I want. My best friends and closest cousins advised me to get married before thirty and all of them are reproaching me whenever I say that I don’t want to get married; they all know that I’m not familiar with the idea of getting married. One of the reasons as well is that I’m afraid of divorce and its consequences, I don’t want to experience it. When I have kids, I don’t want them to go through such a thing, it might destroy them! Honestly, I can't have kids. Having kids is a responsibility and I do have enough responsibilities to take care of. I do want kids and I extremely adore them but I really can’t have them for that they may take my time, I’m afraid to forget myself. Having kids means sacrificing for them and I feel I’m not ready for such a thing. 

Before people think of getting married, they must know that they’re choosing a whole-life partner and a mother/father for their kids. They must know that the spouse’s family will be their family and they must learn how to love them as they do to their own family. Divorce must be the last solution when there’re no solutions ever. They must know that divorce is affecting kids and the rest of the family. In marriage, there must be sacrifices and surrenders. Lots of things should be considered. I’m not saying marriage is a scary thing but it’s something SERIOUS... 

 

 

 

 

Part_5: Not To My Liking 

Sometimes I have this feeling that I can’t bear some people, I can’t get along with them even of they’re not doing anything bad to me. Those people are not bad at all, some of them are known to be friendly and kind. Sometimes the problem is with me, I’m too strict when it comes to several things. Like I can’t overlook some flaws. Flaws like saying wrong things about me to my face while not knowing me very well, this can make me angry for weeks and sometimes for months. I can overlook such flaws when it comes to my people but I can’t do it when it comes to someone whom I have formal relationship with. I never show people any discomfort to what they say and usually I don’t correct them. However, concealment kills and I’m trying to change that. Sometimes I believe that some statements should be ignored, yet, the effect of a bad word is painful. There’re other things I don’t approve, like talking to me about people whom I know but not interested in knowing their situation and those whom I don’t know and have no interest in them. Basically I don’t like having conversations about people, what they’ve done, what they say...etc, except for few people. I’m only interested in my people. Honestly, I’m considered to be too selective, even if I have so many colleagues that consider me as a friend, I don’t accept them as friends except for some whom I approve. I have high standards in choosing friends because for me friendship is something precious, not everyone should be let into my friends circle. 

I’m not saying that you should be too selective, I’m just saying that humans must choose their people and get rid of anyone brings negative feelings. Trust me, the best thing you can do to yourself is trying to stay away from anyone frustrating you. Once you stay away from them, beautiful things will happen to you off-hand. 

 

 

 

Part_6: Study Matters

After I have done my high school and after I got my final grades report, it was the time to decide what I’m going to study and at which university. I’ve always wanted to be a physician but at the last minute I changed my mind. I wanted to be a physician because my mom and my aunts wanted me to do medicine. But I wanted to do something related to science, I’m a big fan of sciences and scientists so geology was my choice. In my religion, there’s a prayer called “Estikhara” prayer meaning the prayer of consultation, in which muslims consult god “Allah” in serious matters. After I prayed “Estikhara” prayer for many times, I felt more comfortable with my decision. I’ve consulted my aunt’s spouse who’s used to work as a mechanical engineer, he encouraged me to do geology. Mom was trying to convince me to choose medicine instead but I’m known as the most stubborn person in the whole family. Stubbornness is considered as flaw in some cases because sometimes because of my stubbornness I don’t take any advice and remarks and I don’t accept any sort of criticism unless I want to or I’m forced to. When I started doing this major, I was lost, because I had to learn loads of new things and information, it became easier later on, I was in love with geophysics and geology. After one semester of studying, I had few personal issues and I was completely lost again, I lost my goals, my way, my ambitions, my people. It was the hardest time in my whole life. I was not living but trying to survive. I had thoughts of leaving everything behind and starting new life in a new isolated place where I see NO ONE. I thought that geology isn’t the right major for me. Back then, my mom and my female cousin, who’s 10 years older than me, advised me to take a one year leave. It was the first time I listened to someone’s advice. My other cousin who’s a psychologist encouraged me to take a leave as well. I didn’t want to take a leave because this means that I’ll be one year late till graduation. Now, I don’t regret taking a rest, I could collect myself and my thoughts. Most importantly, I found new ways, new goals, new ambitions. I’m extremely satisfied.

Sometimes, during the time you’re trying to face hardships related to your specialization/discipline/major, you might feel that you’re in the wrong place and what you’re studying is not meant for you. Having hard time dealing with study matters doesn’t mean you can’t do it, AT ALL, one of the thirteen things mentally strong people don’t do is that they don’t give up after the first failure.

 


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