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Status: In Progress  |  Genre: Romance  |  House: Booksie Classic
Impulse, Money, Extravagant, Value etc
Happiness with limited resources

Submitted: April 16, 2017

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Submitted: April 16, 2017



Recently, I was driving on the National Highways to Tindivanam, and the FM radio went off the air as I crossed the city limits. 

I thought, I must have brought my iPod. Then suddenly I realized that I have not used my iPod in last 6 months. And then… more things, Handy cam in last 2 years, Digital Camera in last 9 months, DVD player in last 2 years, Treadmill, antiques and many more. 

Now I can say that I bought that these things just out of impulse. I have used it only a few times in last 4 years. So, what’s wrong and where? 

When I look at myself or my friends, I can see this everywhere. I am not happy with what I have but I am stressed and not happy for the things I don’t have. I had a Maruti Alto, but I wanted a Swift… I bought a Swift, then I wanted to have a sedan, Astar, Ford Fiesta and now I have a Verna Fluidic. But I want to buy a Duster or a Yeti, and this may never stop. Just like, after buying a new phone, I needed another one. Better laptop, bigger TV, faster car, bigger house, more money and so on. I mean, these examples are endless. The point is, does it actually worth? Do we ever think if we actually need those things before we want them? 

After this, I was forced to think what I need and what I don’t. May be I didn’t need this Handy cam or the iPod or that DVD player. Back home, when I see my mother, she has a simple BPL colour TV, she doesn’t need 32? Sony LED wall mount like me. She has a cell phone worth Rs 3,500. Whenever I ask her to change the phone, she would always say… “Its a phone, I need this just for calls.” And believe me; she is much happier in life than me with those limited resources and simple gadgets. The very basic reason why she is happy with so little is that she doesn’t want things to make her life luxurious, but she wants only those things which are making her life easier. It’s a very fine line between these two, but after looking at my mother’s life style closely, I got the point. She needs a cell phone but not an iPhone. She needs a TV but not the 32? LED. She needs a car but not an expensive one. 

Initially, I had lot of questions.
I am blessed with a decent income, still I am not happy…...why ?
I am blessed with many luxuries, still I am stressed.... ....... why ?
I have great weekends, still I am feeling tired...... why?

I met lot of people. I thought over it again and again. I still don’t know if I got the answers. But, certainly figured out few things. 

I realize that one thing which is keeping me stressed is the “Stay Connected” syndrome. I realized that, even at home I am logged in on messengers, checking mails, using social networks, and on the top of that, the iPhone is not letting me to stay placid. And that is keeping my mind always stressed. I realized that I am always worried about money and more money. I am stressed about job and business and salary and spends. 

May be, many of you will call my approach a “not progressive attitude“, but I want my life back. Ultimately it’s a single life, and a day gone is a day gone. I believe if I am not happy tonight, I’ll never be happy tomorrow morning. 

I finally realized that meeting friends, spending quality time with my loved one’s; spending time with myself are the most important things in life. If on a Sunday, I am alone and I don’t have anybody to talk with, then all that luxuries in life & all that money is wasted. May be cutting down my requirements, re-calculating my future goal in the light of today’s happiness is a worthwhile thing to do. May be selling off my Verna and buying a Duster or a Yeti is not a good idea. Now I believe putting my happiness ahead of money is the choice I need to make. 

Real life is to pull a chair to the balcony while it's raining and watch it with your spouse and children with heart filled of gratitude to Almighty.  

Real Life is finding abundant joy in feeding a kitten which just strayed into your garden losing its mom. 

Real Life's feeding a destitute in hunger with the most sumptuous food WE LIKE and look into their eyes with empathy while he/she  thanks us with tears. 

Real Life's, being able to attend all our phone calls without any fear, if it's the money/lender. 

Real Life's raising our children in such a way that whenever they return home they come to us spontaneously and share with us what happened while they were out and find solace in us. 

Real Life lies in so many minuscule things like this and not in mere accumulation and multiplication of wealth on money obtained on interest. 

Finally, real life is not living on others hard earned money but out of our own hard earned 'halal' money. 

I think, a lot can be said and done but what I need the most is re-evaluation of the value of happiness and time I am giving to my life and people associated with it. 

With a firm decision made during my drive, I finally reached back and parked my car at the garage and I put my index finger into the door bell switch, the main door of my house, sorry home, swung open; and my 13 year old son, with great synchronisation to my mind and thought hugged me around my neck tightly and yelled while leading me inside the house, “daddy, where have you been for sooooo long on a holiday, I missed you for the whole day”. I realised that my life is still not lost, Alhamdulillah!

M Abbas Naushad

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