The Day Dementia Came

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Poetry  |  House: Booksie Classic

Having the strength, coping with someone with dementia and trying to reassure them, but in their mind it all seems so real.

Words are nothing

Without recollection

Just a jumble

As the memories crumble.

 

Yesterday's became distant

Nothing's too blame

In this world of twilight

The day dementia came.

 

Amused yet confused

The stars no longer shine

To you everything seems normal

All around seems fine.

 

In your world

There's much confusion

A cerebral illusion

No hint of doubt.

 

In my world

All’s commotion

That makes me

Want to shout.

 

The things you say

Seem so far away

As dementia

Plays it’s part.

 

Your decline

Creates a sadness

In the chasms

Of my heart.

 

©

Mr. Watson

 July 2017

 

 


Submitted: July 14, 2017

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jaylisbeth

How sad this piece is. But it's very well written. I like your structure and the very concise lines.

Fri, July 14th, 2017 1:31pm

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Sad but true i'm afraid, it's an emotional rollercoaster at the moment. I write from the heart jaylisbeth.
I'm pleased you saw the sad truths.

Fri, July 14th, 2017 1:35pm

Jane Atkinson

Wonderful job capturing the devastation of dealing with dementia. I watched my mother quickly slide into the grips of Alzheimer's. She died two years ago.

Fri, July 14th, 2017 3:07pm

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Thank you for those kind words Jane. My mum is 84 and virtually housebound, I managed to get her an appointment at the memory clinic in December and the diagnosis is the same as your mothers.
She needs help with everyday chores but won't accept any help, it's so frustrating being in this situation but social services are unable to take control at the moment because she's of sound mind in their eyes, yet today
a support worker from the clinic telephoned me and said she seemed confused. Now they are going to revise the situation.

Fri, July 14th, 2017 1:48pm

hullabaloo22

It's a tough thing to watch, Mr Watson. A tough thing for everyone concerned.

Fri, July 14th, 2017 4:38pm

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The hardest part for me is when the support worker from the memory clinic visits and she seems all there, yet the conversations me and my brother have with her, people are coming in the house and a little girl who lives next door was stood in her bedroom taking her lucozade bottle, in her eyes it's real and happening, she even moved her medication to a higher shelf incase she mistook them for sweets. she lives in a pensioners bungalow.
Today the support worker visited her then telephoned me saying my mother seemed confused ! finally i'm getting somewhere.
Thanks for reading Hully, i'm just letting off steam and sharing my feelings

Fri, July 14th, 2017 1:26pm

Mrs Cowell

Awww. That's sad but true. A lovely read tho. My friends mum has it. I'm going to print it off for her. X

Sat, July 15th, 2017 5:22am

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She's in hospital at the moment, she had a fall on monday and is more confused than ever, life can be cruel at times. Thanks for looking in Mrs.C. X

Tue, July 18th, 2017 12:33pm

Oleg Roschin

Very sad... Heartfelt. And, as always - beautifully composed. The word "chasms" in the end is like a heavy stone, sealing everything. It depressed me and made me think. I'll be praying...

Sat, July 15th, 2017 8:16am

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Thank you for those kind words Oleg. my mother is 84 and although she wants to be independent things are getting more and more harder to do, she needs care and attention. Unfortunately when the memory clinic and social services visit her home, she doesn't seem as confused but I do the shopping and know that she isn't eating and is finding it hard doing everyday tasks and remembering to take her medication.
She had a fall yesterday so she's hospitalised and more confused than ever at the moment, hopefully things will be put in place now.

Tue, July 18th, 2017 12:47pm

B Douglas Slack

A sad commentary on what is a growing problem today. Fortunately, no one in my family has been afflicted with this horrible thing. I can see, though, how devastating it might be to observers and caretakers. I have frinds in this position and it is heartbreaking to watch them cope. This is especially true when a parent doesn't even recognize a child or other relative. I feel for you, man.

Bill

Sun, July 16th, 2017 11:36pm

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It's a hard situation to be in Bill, knowing that they need help and assurance but no matter what you do or say things only get worse, yet in her mind it's all real, forgetting what the time day or date is and when to eat makes matters worse. She's in hospital after having a fall on monday more confused than ever, things are going to change me and my brother will have to discuss getting some type of carer in as it's all getting too much to handle.
Thank's for reading and understanding.

Tue, July 18th, 2017 12:59pm

Chris Green

Chilling summary of the inevitable decline once dementia begins to take hold, Mr Watson. But this is the way that it is. Good poem.
Regards
Chris

Mon, July 17th, 2017 6:01am

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We noticed a change last year Chris. Since then things have declined progressively. It's a long road ahead with many a twist and turns, some very hard decisions are going to have to be made.
Thank's for looking in.

Tue, July 18th, 2017 1:50pm

Jeff Bezaire

A touching, sad piece, Mr. Watson. It certainly nails home the effect of dementia both on the victim's mind and on their loved ones.
My great aunt passed away due to dementia a number of years ago. It's frightening how crippling and ultimately lethal the disease can be, but it's only so lethal because our minds are so powerful.
I'm sending positive thoughts to you and your mum. May you find more happy days with her ahead.

Mon, July 17th, 2017 6:31am

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My Grandma had dementia as well, in those days the only solution was a mental hospital, things are different these days Jeff, theres more care in the community, things are going to have to be put in place and solutions found until the inevitable happens, then i'll have no choice in the matter, unfortunately.
Thanks for commenting.

Tue, July 18th, 2017 1:57pm

BlackMyst

This piece is scary. An inevitable fall that you cannot do anything about, no matter how hard you try, pills you take, etc.

Excellent work, Watson.

Sun, October 1st, 2017 2:40pm

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Sorry about the late reply BlackMyst.
She's in a home now being well cared for.

Mon, November 6th, 2017 10:21am

Insane Membrane

We lost our mother to do dementia , dead for years before she died. I hope that your words are of a comfort to others going through the same . lovely poem beautifully said

Sun, October 8th, 2017 7:41am

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Thanks for commenting Insane. I hope people can relate to my words, going by the comments on here a lot of you have had faced the same situation that i'm going through at the moment.
She's in a care home now, where she can be looked after properly and in a dignified way.
It got a little scary towards the end, her living on her own and being confused and hearing voices and people moving things in the house even though no one was there, but in her mind it was all happening.

Sun, October 22nd, 2017 5:29am

Chris Cross

Beautifully written, Mr Watson. As one doesn't seem to be able to do anything against such a plague, the best way to cope may be to write about it. And you did it well.

Wed, November 1st, 2017 3:28pm

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I tried to let my emotions out in this one Chris. When your going round in circles and not getting anywhere fast certainly takes it out of you mentally and physically. You have to make decisions that not only involve you but your loved ones, who you are watching deteriorate, and lacks any understanding of even the simplest tasks.

Mon, November 6th, 2017 10:28am

J Woods

I've dealt with this with my parents before they passed recently.

Wonderful portrayal, well written, but I'd be lying if I didn't say it touched home and conjured emotions

Wed, December 27th, 2017 11:34am

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Thanks for reading Jason, when your stuck between a rock and a hard place , what can you do!

Fri, January 5th, 2018 8:13am

Bert Broomberg

The void created by the loss of memory must be horrific. You put it into words in such a wonderful way.

Wed, October 17th, 2018 2:47pm

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She's just celebrated her 84th birthday, sometimes she's with us, other times in a world of her own.
Thanks for looking in Bert.

Sun, October 28th, 2018 12:50pm

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