why do relationships break in today's time ?

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When we love something……… e.g. a flower….we water it, nurture it. When we like something……. e.g. a flower…we pluck it!



We forget that we make friendships out of mutual love for each other! We fall in love with each other out of mutual love for each other! Friendship/love = being there for each other, doing
everything to make the other person stronger, happier, feel loved and understood, doing what is right for that person even if it makes you look bad, just like a parent!.............. that’s
love!..................................................



imagine saying “ i like someone”……that is dangerous ….he he



Heer ranjha, soni – mahiwal, laila majnu to even a lot of couples from my grandparents time ……ishq ke liye pehle log qurbani dete the, or fight for their love …….…. aaj hum sayane hogaye hain!



You see we are so concerned about our self concerns (insecurities) that we are running after money, fame, marriage, networking as things to fill the void in us…….



We get married = to make ourselves happy , We get divorced = to make ourselves happy……haaaa!



Why do you think relationship break? ( love, friendship, office colleagues, relatives)



They don’t get what they want out of you. if they got it, why would anybody leave you?… Even this big thing of managing people’s expectation in corporate world for growth is this only….



Sirf ek baar , think about what the other person wants from you. if she wants only your time and you give her everything else….will she be happy?



If you say you love her – then make her feel loved. be there for her, know what she wants, be a part of her life, share with her - your emotions and you share hers.



Hum shout or scream kyun karte hain…..because we have distanced the person so much from us internally…that we have to shout to tell him what we feel…………. i have a very beautiful friend who told me
once “ yaar if you fight with your parents, do you leave them? then …….why leave your wife/husband? ”….is socch ko salaam! i am so grateful to have a friend like you. Falling in love is so
beautiful…………! it can actually make your life bloom in every aspect (if you don’t agree wake up sid! dekho) . it is sad that relationships don’t even survive the first few tests of life and fall
apart even before reaching god’s feet for approval in the temple. koi bolta hai – commitment issue, koi bolta hai –ladka theek nahi tha, some blame families…. koi yeh nahi socchta ki pyaar toh tha
hi nahi……… people were getting married for selfish reasons...to make themselves happy.



Arranged marriage mein samajh aata hai – too many people involved & too many variables apart from what is truly important i.e. girl and boy can understand each other or not…..but today even love
marriages are facing this… people fall in love date 1 or 2 years and decide to get married and jab tak parents tak baat pahunchi ..dhaai dhaai dhakkar dhakkar…gai bhais paani mein. hats off to some
of my friends who have had inter-caste marriages, who have fallen in love for? iska jawab kisi ke paas nahi hai…………but have stuck it out no matter what….they dated 4-5 years and then decided for
marriage ( itna time lagta hai to make something firm) , parents revolted – no problems they spent another year trying to manao them and tried everything saam daam dand bhed…..and
won!.......parents also want your happiness, but they must also be assured that you are sure of yourself & what you getting into )



If they truly loved each other, wouldn’t they fight for what they believe in?



Its good to fight sometimes, if you have fun making up later in the night! kya hota hai – we fight, somebody said something bad, we get hurt…… what to do we do? only two reaction



1. withdrawal (silent punishment, we start blaming ourselves), 2. attack ( we blame the other for our hurt and lash out). 3. option 3 kisi ne soccha hi nahi……….you both are right from your own view
points. just wear each other’s shoes and life for once to understand each other’s perspective. saara siyaapa hi khatam!



This is funny………..really funny…… how stupid we have become!



One girl put up a matrimonial ad saying “ i want to marry someone rich who make a million dollar because living in new york is expensive…and so and so”………….. a banker replied “ Ms. pretty…i read
your post and i am someone who earns over a million dollar which meets your requirement, so i hope you believe i am not wasting my time here….please allow me to analyze your situation as a
professional investor. from a standpoint of business person, it is bad decision to marry you. put details aside, what you are trying to do is an exchange of beauty & money. person a provides money,
and person b provides beauty. there is a problem here, your beauty will fade but my money will keep growing. my income will keep increasing year to year, but you can’t get prettier year to year. i
am an appreciation asset and you are a depreciation asset.and your value in 10 years will be quite worse. in trading terms, we say everything has a trading position. if trade value drops long term,
we either sell it or lease an asset. anyone earning a million dollars is not a fool, we would only date you and not marry you. my advice is stop looking for a guy with million dollars, but rather
make yourself to become a rich person earning a million dollars. this has a better chance than finding a rich fool! hope this reply helps:

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When we LOVE something…e.g. a Flower...We water it, Nuture It! When we LIKE Something……. e.g. a Flower…We Pluck It!

We Forget That We make Friendships Out of Mutual Love for each Other! We fall in Love with each other out of mutual Love for each other!

Friendship/Love = Being there for each other, doing everything to make the other person stronger, happier, feel loved and understood, doing what is right for that person even if it makes you look bad, just like a parent!.............. That’s LOVE!..

Imagine saying “ I like someone” ……that is dangerous ….Ha Ha ...Serious!

Heer Ranjha, Soni – Mahiwal, Laila Majnu - to even a lot of couples from my grandparents time…………Ishq ke liye pehle log qurbani dete the, or fight for their love …….…. Aaj hum Sayane hogaye Hain!

You see we are so concerned about our self concerns (insecurities) that we are running after Money, Fame, Marriage, Networking as things to fill the void in us…….

We get married = to make ourselves Happy ,

We get divorced = to make ourselves Happy……Haaaa!

WHY DO YOU THINK RELATIONSHIP BREAK? ( Love, Friendship, Office Colleagues, Relatives)

They don’t get what they want out of you. If they got it, Why would anybody leave you……………….? Even this big thing of managing People’s Expectation in Corporate world for Growth is this only….

Sirf Ek Baar , Think About What the Other Person wants from You. If she wants only your time and you give her everything else….Will she be happy?

If You Say you Love Her – then make her FEEL LOVED. Be there For her, Know what she wants, Be a part of her life, Share with Her - your emotions and you share hers.

Hum Shout or Scream kyun karte hain…..because we have distanced the person so much from us internally…That we have to shout to tell him what we feel………….

I have a very beautiful friend who told me once Yaar if you fight with your parents, do you leave them? Then …….Why leave your wife/husband? ”….Is Socch ko Salaam! I am so grateful to have a friend like you.

Falling in Love is so BEAUTIFUL…………! It can actually make your life bloom in every aspect (if you don’t agree WAKE UP SID! Dekho) .  It is sad that relationships don’t even survive the first few tests of life and fall apart even before reaching God’s feet for approval in the temple. Koi bolta hai – commitment issue, koi bolta hai – ladka theek nahi tha, some blame families…. Koi yeh nahi socchta ki PYAAR TOH THA HI NAHI……… People were getting married for selfish reasons...to make themselves happy.

 Arranged marriage mein Samajh aata hai – too many people involved & too many variables apart from what is truly important i.e. girl and boy can understand each other or not…..But today even Love Marriages are facing this… People fall in love date 1 or 2 years and decide to get married and jab tak parents tak baat pahunchi ..Dhaai Dhaai Dhakkar Dhakkar…gai bhais paani mein. Hats off to some of my friends who have had inter-caste marriages, who have fallen in love for? Iska jawab kisi ke paas nahi hai…………but have stuck it out no matter what….they dated 4-5 years and then decided for marriage( itna time lagta hai to make something firm) , parents revolted – no problems they spent another year trying to manao them and tried everything Saam Daam Dand Bhed…..and Won!.......Parents also want your happiness, but they must also be assured that YOU ARE SURE OF YOURSELF & WHAT YOU GETTING INTO )

If they truly Loved each other, wouldn’t they Fight for what they believe in?

Its Good To Fight sometimes, If you have fun making up later in the night! Kya hota hai – we fight, somebody said something bad, We get Hurt…… What to do we do? Only two reaction

1. Withdrawal (Silent Punishment, we start blaming ourselves),

2. Attack ( we blame the other for our hurt and lash out).

3. Option 3 kisi ne soccha hi nahi……….You both are right from your own view points. Just wear each other’s Shoes and Life for once to understand each other’s perspective. Saara Siyaapa hi khatam!

This is Funny………..Really Funny…… How Stupid we have become!

One girl put up a matrimonial ad saying “ I want to marry someone rich who make a million dollar because living in New York is expensive…and so and so”………….. A Banker replied “ Ms. Pretty…I read your post and I am someone who earns over a million dollar which meets your requirement, so I hope you believe I am not wasting my time here….Please allow me to analyze your situation as a professional investor. From a standpoint of business person, it is bad decision to marry you. Put details aside, what you are trying to do is an exchange of BEAUTY & MONEY. Person A provides MONEY, and Person B provides BEAUTY. There is a problem here, your beauty will fade but my money will keep growing. My income will keep increasing year to year, but you can’t get prettier year to year. I am an Appreciation Asset and you are a DEPRECIATION ASSET. And your value in 10 years will be quite worse. In trading terms, we say everything has a trading position. If trade value drops long term, we either sell it or lease an asset. Anyone earning a million dollars is not a fool, we would only DATE you and not marry you. My advice is stop looking for a guy with million dollars, but rather make yourself to become a rich person earning a million dollars.  This has a better chance than finding a rich fool!

Hope this reply helps:

Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha.............i Know Shit Happens Like This....................

See i know How much it Hurts! I been married three years and got divorced. But i am grateful to Almighty i had a happy divorce! I loved my Wife and still do....You see i never stopped her from wearing anything, or asking her where she is going, not putting any stereotype limitations on her, or trying to make her mine. I Trusted her and supported her and fell in love with each aspect of her's - her way of cleaning - irritating but i loved it, her silliness - it made me charged up and enjoy life more, her unique sense of humor - she never got jokes as fast as normal janta.........ha ha........ But she understood me and stood up for right reasons. She equally loved me and gave me freedom to do my own things in life. She supported me in every thing. Our marriage didnt work out for many other reasons.............But it led to a happy divorce....we laughed all the way through our divorce and are still friends who can have a good conversation and i can still make her laugh...........You see we never had any HATRED for each other in our hearts and still dont..........We only want each other to be happy!.....................

Being Married is so beautiful.............its so much fun living with someone day in and day out.....you get so used to him/her................ whenever you get upset with him/her down your marriage after 3-5 years.........Just Remember All The Things About Him/Her that made you Fall in LOVE with that Person in the First Place!

But Fact remains that our relationship broke up because we never gave each other what we wanted from each other inspite of respecting and supporting each other!

Zindagi ki kitaab se maine bhi yeh anmol sabak seekha......Aur Kuch Anmol Kho ke!.......

 


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