The Ministry of Marriage

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The Ministry of Marriage is a book which describes in detail how marriage is a ministry on its own, how spouses can minister through their marriage. It also explains the importance of courtship
before marriage.

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Relationship as a gateway to the ministry of marriage

Submitted: June 18, 2018


"You don't marry one person, you marry three:the person you think they are, the person they are and the person they are going to become as a result of being married to you." ~Richard Needman ~


There is probably no topic which has captivated people throughout the centuries and from most every culture than the topic of love. We put a man on the moon, broke the speed of sound and mapped
thehuman genome but, love remains a complete mystery. Science has not been able to explain it. Mathematics cannot predict it. Poets still wrestle with adequate words to describe it. Victor
Franklsaid, "Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. God is love and He demonstrated His love in John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he
gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. From this scripture it is evident that love originated from God Himself and He is love. Love gives
birth to a relationship. The first institution in God's kingdom is relationship. The reason why God had to send his one and only Son to die on the cross was so as to mend the broken relationship
between him and man (humanity). Everyone is a product of some sort of relationship. Therefore love will result into a relationship and eventually marriage.


As l mentioned earlier on, the first institution in God's kingdom is relationship. God values relationship so much that he had to sacrifice his only Son in order to restore the broken relationship
between him and his children. The question that may pop up in one's mind is: what is a relationship to begin with? There are quite different definitions of the word relationship. Relationship can
be defined as a connection or association, the condition of being related. It can also be kinship, that is being related by blood or marriage and lastly it can be a romantic or sexual involvement.


However, my main focus is on the "intimate" kind of relationship that eventually leads to marriage. Intimacy is the feeling or atmosphere of closeness and openness towards someone else, not
necessarily involving sexuality. One may ask, what is the sole purpose of being in a relationship? The reason of being in a relationship is for courtship and the sole purpose of courtship is
marriage. So before jumping into a relationship, first investigate or at least get a glimpse and find out the limelight of why you're really supposed to be in it.


It is also important that you not jump into a relationship half-heartedly. Being in a relationship is not the end but just the beginning and it's not a guarantee that you are going to stay with
that person forever. Successful relationships take determination, sacrifice, compromise and dedication. It is not the absence of love but rather an absence of fellowship that makes troubled
relational unions. Having realistic expectations is a key component of a healthy happy relationship. Many relationship problems stem from unrealistic expectations.


We are conditioned from early childhood to believe in a knight in shinning armour and a beautiful (flawless) princess riding off into the sunset together to live happily ever after. As if it is not
enough, as we grow older, the internet and media continue to bombard us with images of breath-taking, gorgeous celebrities and hunky heartthrobs with "perfect" lives. That is no wonder why so many
people get caught up in the idealistic idea of a "perfect" relationship. Part of being in a mature relationship is to recognize from the get go that your partner is a human and has flaws as you do.


There is going to be conflict at times (l will go deeper on that later). Your partner cannot read your mind. Your relationship will not always be filled with romantic bliss and candle light
dinners. That wonderful "l'm so in love" feeling will wax and wane (progress through phases) but, hopefully overtime it will be replaced with a more mature, stable love that is strong and secure. I
mentioned earlier on that having realistic expectations is a key component of a healthy relationship but, don't get me wrong, they're not to be confused with settling for a mediocre relationship or
tolerating bad behavior from your partner.


Having realistic expectations does mean that you don't expect your partner to be your source of happiness or to meet all your needs. I quote from Denis Waitley, "Happiness cannot be travelled to,
owned, earned, worn out or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude." A great relationship can bring much joy but, your happiness needs
to come from within you and not be dependent upon your partner. Proverbs 15:13 says," A happy heart makes the face cheerful but, heartache crushes the spirit. "You cannot rely on any person to "
make you happy. " You need to find may different ways to get your needs met. That is why it is so important that you work to develop a healthy self-esteem, develop close relationships with family
and friends and have activities & hobbies outside your relationship that are fulfilling and gratifying. By doing this you take the pressure off your partner to be your "everything" (which is an
impossible burden to bear).


That pressure can quickly stifle a relationship and will ultimately kill or at best make it miserable for the both of you. When it's no longer there, your relationship can thrive and grow to reach
its true potential which is marriage. If your relationship is in trouble, take some time to consider if any of the problems maybe due to naïve unrealistic expectations. If you are not sure you can
talk to a trusted friend, family member or a therapist. The sooner you let go of unrealistic expectations, the sooner your relationship can be back on track.


Take note of this, your relationship is a serious investment ;if you are willing to make the necessary changes, it will have a much better chance of surviving any crisis you may have and of
becoming stronger as a result. YOU are the one who must make some changes. Do not wait (or expect) your partner to. I quote from Ben Irwin, "Most of us spend our lives as if we have another one in
the bank." Always remember you are valuable, worthwhile human being who deserves to be happy and loved. The more you believe this about yourself, the more likely it is that you will have a happy,
fulfilling relationship which will eventually guides you to a successful marriage.
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Trust is an important ingredient of a good Relationship

Submitted: July 09, 2018


Trust is one of the greatest components of a good relationship. It takes a lifetime to build it but, just a minute to "crumble" it. Find out more as you read through the chapter.
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How to resolve conflict in a relationship effectively

Submitted: July 10, 2018


"Unresolved conflict is like a cut on your finger that becomes infected. Even if it starts very small, it can quickly become very painful and cause a lot of distress. Cleaning out the wound may be
painful initially but, it is necessary if the wound is ever going to heal. "~Anonymous~
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The Ministry of Marriage

Submitted: July 10, 2018


~Your Marriage is your first Ministry~
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How can we minister through our marriages?

Submitted: July 10, 2018


Your Marriage is not something that you can compartmentalize as having less priority in giving your attention to it, in light your ministry to your church family.
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The Ministry of Marriage is not an "easy" road (you are bound to encounter obstacles on the way)

Submitted: July 11, 2018


There is no gain without pain, no crown without cross, no sweet without sweat. It all takes hard work and determination.
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Preparation is one of the vital tools before entering the Ministry of Marriage

Submitted: August 03, 2018


Failing to prepare is preparing to fail. Find out why preparation is needed before entering into marriage.
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Finding A Godly Mate

Submitted: October 18, 2018


Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.
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God's Plan for Marriage

Submitted: October 21, 2018


God's Plan for Marriage is found in the book of Genesis 2:24 which says, Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh. Marriage
has often been compared to a triangle with God at the peak and the husband and wife on the sides.
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Characteristics of a Spirit-filled Marriage

Submitted: October 31, 2018


When spouses are walking in the Spirit and being controlled by Him (The Holy Spirit), they will see wonderful fruits in marriage.
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