Secrets of being a good girl

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A girl of dreams, a girl of goals;

that’s who she's. She's a person that believes that dreams and goals are what we live for, facing obstructions and handling them are suspension of live, and what we love is the fuel that keeps us moving toward our dreams. For her life is like a path a long one. A path that has splinters and nails, a path that sometimes is so dark that you don’t know where you’re heading to, but at the end of that path there’s a light the light that we’re all heading to. At that path you meet people on your way; some may leave remarkable things and touches on us. others may leave scares. Along that long path of us, we have faced tigers and lions, wholes and logs, but We never gave up we kept on standing after.

We don’t just want to be a normal surgeon that has a daily routine; she wants to be a person that changed something in the world, a person that invented a new thing on Earth a device, surgery, medicine, or perhaps even just a formula. Simply she wants to be one of a kind, because she knows there is something different in her, something unique, something that makes her different from others. That’s only one of her dreams, but that’s the biggest one. That goal is what she's looking forward to accomplish through her studies. Let’s now look to her passion which is writing. Writing is something she really enjoy, she can sit write and write for hours without even getting tired a bit.

A pen that describes and gets out of you everything she feels about something and just puts it on a paper that’s writing for her. It’s something that gets out of her creativity, gets out of her beautiful things that you might not even know that it’s there.

Although, As Mfuranzima Fred too, writing is my passion its also one of my hobbies, I decided to use writing to inspiring young girls whose are struggling with challenges of nature and choices, to let them know that being positive always pays alot.

Goody goody stereotypes;

Here is her story;


Since she was a little girl, she has always been a rule-follower. She always hated to get in trouble or to break the rules or to have other people be disappointed in her. It was just a part of the way she worked. She was raised to be a Good Girl, and she thought everyone was like her. Back then, it was a great thing to be. She was praised for her behavior, and I loved the way she felt when doing the right thing.
But then she started growing up and going to school and everything changed.
I still remember the very first time she heard the label that haunted her for years: goody-goody. As a fourth grader, she was confused by the negative connotation that this term gave being a Good Girl.

Other names followed too, including teachers pet, goody-two-shoes, and much later, prude. Even though she knew getting good grades, obeying rules, being smart, and staying out of trouble was the right thing to do, she began to question if being good was actually bad.

She struggled with those titles for six years. It made her shy and self-conscious. She felt as though wherever she went she had a repulsive shadow that followed her, haunted her.

It got even worse in middle school. Every day seemed like a battle, trying everything she could to get rid of that negative stereotype. When she was younger, she knew in the back of her head that none of the things people said about her were true and that being a Good Girl should not be a negative label, but as she continued to struggle with the name calling and the association with negative goody-goody stereotypes, that all began to slip away from her head.

By seventh grade, she believed that something was wrong with her. She fell prey to that negative title, accepting that it was something that was truly bad about her and her personality. She had no idea what to do. She was so strongly rooted in being good because it played such a big role in the person she was, but she felt pressure to get rid of the label in order for people to really like her.

When eighth grade came, she tried to do things that would chip away at the stereotype. She stopped sharing her writing and her love of reading, two big parts of her, because she constantly was made fun of for it.

She hid my grades and tried to imitate others in their demeanors and the way they acted and spoke. She felt like the people around her, especially any boy she talked to, tried to hide their friendship with her because they did not want her negative label to bleed onto them.
It broke her heart.

Nothing she did seemed to work. She tried ceaselessly to push herself further and further away from the person she was, thinking that if she could just be different, a little less good, then everything would be okay.

And in that, she lost herself.
It wasnt until last year that she began to see things differently. A few different things contributed to her change in mindset, and for those things and people, she will be forever grateful. The first was a YouTube video of an older girl who she had admired. In the video, she spoke about her high-school experience and how it was hard for her because she had been deemed a goody-goody.

She grew more emotional as the video progressed, and she ended by saying that it was okay to be a Good Girl, to be someone who follows the rules and cares about their grades more than parties or popularity. It brought her to tears. Finally finding someone who knew what it was like to live under those negative stereotypes helped her realize the greatness and beauty that came with being a Good Girl.

She felt something change inside her that night, like a little voice in the back of her head telling her that being good, that being her, was okay.

She ran with that voice,
For a long time, I believed that there was no place for a Good Girl amongst the people she was around every day. After watching that video, she thought a lot about the girls she had looked up to growing up, and she found that all of them were truly Good Girls.

She admired the girls who were smart, hardworking, and obedient, and who also helped other younger girls by being were sweet and accepting. And in that, she found her place. Her dream became to be a role model for younger girls.
She was given an opportunity to achieve that dream when she began to help coach the sixth grade cheerleaders.

Their love and the way they looked to her not only as a coach, but also as a friend that they could talk to about anything, made her see the true beauty of being a Good Girl. Because of them, she was reminded every day that the person shes is a gift. This daily reminder ultimately led her to truly believe it in her heart.

Ever since then, shes wanted to help girls who were like her.

Just a few weeks ago, a younger girl reached out to her, and asked her a question that broke her heart: Do you think its a bad thing to be a Good Girl? She continued to tell her that she was being bullied and teased in school because of it. That girl opened her eyes, showing her that the things that she went through growing up were happening all around her, and other girls were struggling with those same negative titles that she had struggled with for so long.

Which brings her back to the question that has lingered in her head for the majority of her life: Is it bad to be good?
And after years of struggling with it, here is her answer:

No.

Being good is a superpower. Its a special kind of maturity. It is an understanding that life is bigger than what we are living now, and it is having the confidence to be a little different from those around us in order to go hard for our aspirations and dreams.

Being a Good Girl is being strong and resilient.

To all those girls who are struggling with negative stereotypes and titles, she wants you to know that you are you for a reason. There is a reason why you are a Good Girl, a reason why you are a smart, rule-following, good-grade-getting, obedient, and good decision-making girl. Like she found her place as a leader for younger girls, she will find yours too.

And she promise you, it gets better.
When you accept who you are, you will begin to find people who truly love you for the person you are. You wont have to try to be something different for them. Just being you will be enough. Finding those people will change your life.

She knows better than anyone how hard it is to live under the goody-goody stereotype. She lost years of her life trying to be someone she wasnt when her true potential lied within the acceptance of herself and the understanding of the special things about her that she could bring to others.

If you are a good girl, don't allow yourself to fall prey to the negative light that people try to shed on the term. You are strong, smart, beautiful, brave, and resilient. You have purpose, that's the secret of being a good girl.

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goody goody stereotypes

Submitted: May 19, 2019


Since she was a little girl, she has always been a rule-follower. She always hated to get in trouble or to break the rules or to have other people be disappointed in her. It was just a part of the
way she worked. She was raised to be a Good Girl, and she thought everyone was like her. Back then, it was a great thing to be. She was praised for her behavior, and I loved the way she felt when
doing the right thing. But then she started growing up and going to school and everything changed. I still remember the very first time she heard the label that haunted her for years: goody-goody.
As a fourth grader, she was confused by the negative connotation that this term gave being a Good Girl. Other names followed too, including teachers pet, goody-two-shoes, and much later, prude.
Even though she knew getting good grades, obeying rules, being smart, and staying out of trouble was the right thing to do, she began to question if being good was actually bad. She struggled with
those titles for six years. It made her shy and self-conscious. She felt as though wherever she went she had a repulsive shadow that followed her, haunted her. It got even worse in middle school.
Every day seemed like a battle, trying everything she could to get rid of that negative stereotype. When she was younger, she knew in the back of her head that none of the things people said about
her were true and that being a Good Girl should not be a negative label, but as she continued to struggle with the name calling and the association with negative goody-goody stereotypes, that all
began to slip away from her head. By seventh grade, she believed that something was wrong with her. She fell prey to that negative title, accepting that it was something that was truly bad about
her and her personality. She had no idea what to do. She was so strongly rooted in being good because it played such a big role in the person she was, but she felt pressure to get rid of the label
in order for people to really like her. When eighth grade came, she tried to do things that would chip away at the stereotype. She stopped sharing her writing and her love of reading, two big parts
of her, because she constantly was made fun of for it. She hid my grades and tried to imitate others in their demeanors and the way they acted and spoke. She felt like the people around her,
especially any boy she talked to, tried to hide their friendship with her because they did not want her negative label to bleed onto them. It broke her heart. Nothing she did seemed to work. She
tried ceaselessly to push herself further and further away from the person she was, thinking that if she could just be different, a little less good, then everything would be okay. And in that, she
lost herself. It wasnt until last year that she began to see things differently. A few different things contributed to her change in mindset, and for those things and people, she will be forever
grateful. The first was a YouTube video of an older girl who she had admired. In the video, she spoke about her high-school experience and how it was hard for her because she had been deemed a
goody-goody. She grew more emotional as the video progressed, and she ended by saying that it was okay to be a Good Girl, to be someone who follows the rules and cares about their grades more than
parties or popularity. It brought her to tears. Finally finding someone who knew what it was like to live under those negative stereotypes helped her realize the greatness and beauty that came with
being a Good Girl. She felt something change inside her that night, like a little voice in the back of her head telling her that being good, that being her, was okay. She ran with that voice. For a
long time, I believed that there was no place for a Good Girl amongst the people she was around every day. After watching that video, she thought a lot about the girls she had looked up to growing
up, and she found that all of them were truly Good Girls. She admired the girls who were smart, hardworking, and obedient, and who also helped other younger girls by being were sweet and accepting.
And in that, she found her place. Her dream became to be a role model for younger girls. She was given an opportunity to achieve that dream when she began to help coach the sixth grade
cheerleaders. Their love and the way they looked to her not only as a coach, but also as a friend that they could talk to about anything, made her see the true beauty of being a Good Girl. Because
of them, she was reminded every day that the person shes is a gift. This daily reminder ultimately led her to truly believe it in her heart. Ever since then, shes wanted to help girls who were like
her. Just a few weeks ago, a younger girl reached out to her, and asked her a question that broke her heart: Do you think its a bad thing to be a Good Girl? She continued to tell her that she was
being bullied and teased in school because of it. That girl opened her eyes, showing her that the things that she went through growing up were happening all around her, and other girls were
struggling with those same negative titles that she had struggled with for so long. Which brings her back to the question that has lingered in her head for the majority of her life: Is it bad to be
good? And after years of struggling with it, here is her answer: No. Being good is a superpower. Its a special kind of maturity. It is an understanding that life is bigger than what we are living
now, and it is having the confidence to be a little different from those around us in order to go hard for our aspirations and dreams. Being a Good Girl is being strong and resilient. To all those
girls who are struggling with negative stereotypes and titles, she wants you to know that you are you for a reason. There is a reason why you are a Good Girl, a reason why you are a smart,
rule-following, good-grade-getting, obedient, and good decision-making girl. Like she found her place as a leader for younger girls, she will find yours too. And she promise you, it gets better.
When you accept who you are, you will begin to find people who truly love you for the person you are. You wont have to try to be something different for them. Just being you will be enough. Finding
those people will change your life. She knows better than anyone how hard it is to live under the goody-goody stereotype. She lost years of her life trying to be someone she wasnt when her true
potential lied within the acceptance of herself and the understanding of the special things about her that she could bring to others. If you are a good girl, don't allow yourself to fall prey to
the negative light that people try to shed on the term. You are strong, smart, beautiful, brave, and resilient. You have purpose, that's the secret of being a good girl.
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