Why people my age are rude

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This is in no way based on anything scientific. This is just my point of view and if you get mad because you don't fit this or disagree, good for you.

Submitted: August 27, 2019

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I’m in a hospital and fuck my life. I have to share a room with some granny, which wouldn’t be an issue but she’s an asshole. She can’t hear shit so I have to yell at her to make my point. The problem is that she watches TV. The whole time. Even when she’s asleep. I don’t mind, but yesterday I asked if she could turn it off because it’s 7.30. Some people would like to sleep. She said it’s already as low as possible for her to hear it and she doesn’t want to miss the news. I said she can fucking read them on her phone or just watch them later. She didn’t do anything about is so I settled on being passive-aggressive and sending vey pissed snaps to my friends when she was asleep. Just a moment ago I was reading a book and she was fast asleep, still the fucking TV on. I woke her up and said it’d be really nice if you shut it off because your snoring is enough noise. She said she just fell asleep and likes the noise in the background. I said that cool, but there are others and I’m nice enough to use headphones. Don’t be a shitbag.

This lead to her being horrified, because “in my youth kids didn’t talk like that to elders”. Cool. It’s 2019. I don’t have to show any kind of respect to you just because you’re about 60 years older than I am. I hate old people who think we live in their youth. We’re a totally different generation. Maybe it depends on where you live, but in Finland the culture is not as strict with that. No one calls anyone sir/ma’am/mrs./ms. etc. ever. Safe for in the military, but that’s like the only place. Okay, older people sometimes tend to formally address people, and that’s super awkward, because to me it always seems so forced and sarcastic. It’s like using he/she pronoun of a person instead of it.

So this led me to think. Showing some kind of respect is a weird thing. I’m probably very disrespectful in my speech, because I swear and as I said, I’m passive-aggressive. I heard this random granny in the same room believes in god and all that, so just to piss her off, I had a very interesting conversation about how Christianity is the shittiest religion ever, and how I am completely thinking about becoming a Muslim so I don’t have to eat some of the food here because it’s not halal, with a friend of mine via snapchat. Although I failed to mention that when I came here, because c’mon. This is the largest hospital in Finland. They have halal food, all you have to do is ask for it.

Not only do elders think I just outright respect them, so do people who might have done something. I was at a bar a few weeks ago, with a bunch of friends. We were celebrating two birthdays, school starting for some of us soon, some graduating basic training, all kinds of things that new high school graduates might celebrate at a shitty bar. It was fun, but me and a guy went outside for smokes and a guy walked over to me, saying he couldn’t help but overhear. He was drunk, but hey, we all were, but he was pissed that my friend was explaining something he wanted to do in the military for the next few months. The guy told us to fuck off, because we have no right to talk about it, like my friend isn’t serving right now a like I didn’t work in the chow hall. Because fuck you, I just got home from Afghanistan. We just looked at him like, okay, cool, and went on with our conversation. Because no one cares. Or maybe people care, but you have no right to tell us to fuck off if you’re arrogant about something you’ve done. We’re literally just kids.

This was super funny, because the guy went on to ask if kids these days (he was maybe five years older than us) have no respect for veterans. Of course we do. But you haven’t done shit for us. You’re fighting America’s stupid war. It’s not your fault, but no one forced you. I respect veterans, but soon I don’t even have to because they’re all dead in a decade, most likely. Two, maybe. If you’ve defended Finland and my freedom to grow up here, then good. Taleban doesn’t have much to do with it. The guy was pissed about that too, but I said that’s how I see it. He went on to say my parents raised me like shit, and all I said was my dad didn’t really raise me, and my mom has lived her teenage years in the Egypt, Israel and Iraq because her father was a peacekeeper. He didn’t believe me, but it’s whatever. It’s true, but it’s not like I can call my grandfather and ask him to prove me right because he’s been dead for 22 years. So when this guy was getting pissed, we just left the scene to go back inside and told the guard at the door that guy threatened to hit us. Fucking great.

But people my age hear this a lot. We’re rude. Maybe it’s the culture we grew up in. I’ve lived my whole life in a very equal society. I have the right to say my opinions and do all the things any other person here can. I’m a woman, but we’re pretty equal with men. The only shitty thing about that is conscription, but I’m unfit to serve, have been my whole life, so even if women had to something, I could just chill and not do anything. Not only am I equal with my male counterparts, but teenagers see themselves as equal to adults. Which is true. We’re all humans. No one can expect me to treat anyone like they are somehow superior to me. Politicians maybe, but then again, all the times I’ve had the chance to talk to politicians, they treat us teenagers just as normal people like they themselves. Most people are on first-name basis with each other from the second they meet. And that’s great.

This is also super funny, because Finns are rude. We swear a lot. If you never swear, you are considered a weird person. It also shows when we speak English, because there is no please in Finnish. Not in the same way as English. To some people it seems weird I will order a coffee saying just the word, while the British person I met and is with me uses more than just one word to do say same thing. Seems useless to me, but minimal social contact is what I aim for. And also the first-name thing. I find it funny is someone calls me Ms. Enter Surname Here because no one says that. But whenever I get emails from abroad or something, I can’t help but laugh at that. I mean yeah, I’m used to being called by my last name, but that’s only because I have a friend with the same name and we get mixed up, so our friends call her by her first name, me by my last, jus to avoid confusion. Adding Ms. to is sounds super sarcastic and like the person is fucking with me.


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