19 lessons I learned in 2019

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These definitely aren't the only things 2019 taught me. It's been one hell of a year for everyone, I imagine. What did you learn this year?

Submitted: December 02, 2019

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19 Lessons I Learned in 2019:

 

1.  People will gossip about me and say hurtful things, and it's not my fault at all. They can say whatever they want, but eventually, the truth always rises to the surface. This behavior doesn't deserve my attention, nor it should concern me.

2.  I don't need people in my life who are only my friends for convenience. A lack of genuineness is inexcusable.

3.  My purpose isn't to make other people happy, nor is it pleasing them.

4.  I don't have to tolerate someone's negativity if they have nothing else to offer me. I am not a therapist nor a personal diary. Any relationship requires to give and take, and I shouldn't feel like I'm always giving and never receiving.

5.  We're all flawed. Sometimes, the good in someone is worth overlooking the bad.

6.  We're everchanging, and we're capable of inducing a change in ourselves, which is why we have to acknowledge our mistakes and learn from them. There is no set character or predestined qualities. We are capable of change.

7.  Life might not always go as planned. We might have to forsake some comforts, but that's not necessarily bad. The only way to know is to go through with it.

8.  Sometimes I will feel things I don't understand. It doesn't mean my feelings aren't valid.

9.  It's okay to feel afraid. What's not okay is to not live because of fear.

10.  There will always be a little bit of sadness in my heart, and that's okay. Maybe it's the price of being sensitive.

11.  I can't change the past or erase the things that haunt me still. It'll always follow me, but it doesn't have to be a burden. Instead of carrying it on my shoulders, the past can walk by my side.

12.  I'm not responsible for my parents' happiness. I sympathize with their pain, but I can't carry their burdens when I have no power to help them.

13.  It's alright if I can't be friends with my family. Love is love. It doesn't need as many conditions to exist as we believe.

14.  Not everyone should see my deeper layers. It's emotionally excruciating to be vulnerable in front of someone, only for them to leave. People have to earn my trust first, with both actions and words.

15.  I can't be productive every hour of every day, and I don't need to. We tend to imagine life as this long but short race, and we disregard the little comforts of every day for work and responsibilities. But life isn't a race, and we're not turtles nor rabbits.

16.  We don't have a set purpose. We don't have a fate. Life's what we make of it. There are so many choices to make that sometimes it'll feel like life doesn't make sense. It's not supposed to make sense. It's what we make of it. If we want to change the course of our life at 20, 50, or 80, we're perfectly capable of doing so.

17.  Try as many things as you possibly can. To live is to learn. Wear and eat and read and see anything that speaks to you or catches your eye. Go to all the places you never imagined yourself in before.

18.  Take as many pictures as you want. Write diary entries and save dates and keep mementos. When your memory fails you, these things won't.

19.  Speak the truth. Even if your voice shakes, or you're uncertain, or you want to cry, speak the truth. Let it see the light. Join debates, share your opinion, talk to your friends, confess your feelings. Don't let your truths wither in your heart.

 

Christy


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