Masks

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Submitted: September 16, 2020

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"We understand how dangerous a mask can be. We all become what we pretend to be". – Patrick Rothfuss


 

Masks

 

I guess that sometimes a person can really turn into being the mask they wear. If you continually pretend to feel a way, maybe after a while you’ll get so familiar with that attitude or behaviour that it will replace your original personality.

I think it would be far more correct to say that: ‘We all become seen as being what we pretend to be.” Does that make sense? I’m going to try and come up with a couple of examples to explain my point in a bit more depth.

Take for instance a man who has lost his wife, or a parent. Not wanting to be seen as weak, as unmanly, he hides the grief that he is feeling, and his friends and family believe that he is coping far better than he really is. Hiding grief does not get rid of it; in fact it can make it grow unchecked until you reach or even pass breaking point.

In a similar way, the woman who always seems well turned out, confident and attractive might be leading a very different private life. Many abuse victims become so good at acting that no one suspects what they are going through, and some even become so adept at hiding things that, should they try to open up to someone, they will be met with disbelief.

In both the above cases, masks were used to hide behind. The individuals were not changing what was happening, or who they were, but were making sure that the truth wouldn’t be perceived by others. By doing so they deprived themselves of a lot of essential support.

A possible exception (maybe what the quote was originally intended to mean, I don’t know) would be wearing the mask of a victim. If you try to appear weaker than you are you often become victimized. However, in my experience no one intentionally acts the victim for long without there being some truth in it, no matter how well-hidden the cause might be. There are plenty of people that will prey on those that are already upset.

Going back to the original quote, I can’t help but see a bit of wishful thinking there. Wear a mask that says ‘Success’ you will achieve it. Likewise, appear to be rich and you will become rich. This is the kind of ‘inspirational’ or ‘motivational’ nonsense that tends to get spouted out which unwittingly does further damage to the confidence of so many who already are struggling.


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