Lies Men Tell: Michelle's Method Part #12: Why Men Love Crazy, Beautiful, Borderline TYpes

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Part #12 in my series on Men and Dating, Lies Men Tell

Lies Men Tell: Why Men Love Beautiful, Crazy, Borderline Types

 

Michelle’s Method Part #12: Dealing with Men 101

 

The real reason men like beautiful, crazy, troubled women is that they are immediately placed in a position of power above a troubled woman when they seek to exploit her with fake friendship and understanding. The drama this woman creates may seem self-serving or attention-getting, but that behavior is really a cry for help. Without psychiatric intervention and professional guidance, these women are prone to desperate measures. 

 

The biochemical reaction between the brain and body is overwhelming for mentally troubled people, who must spend most of their time discerning between reality and what is going on in their heads. They also have to develop coping mechanisms to get through the day and can feel overwhelmed by their illness. They often lack full control over their actions. Daily life and decision-making can be difficult due to the distraction of a serious, permanent, and disabling condition. 

 

It is the perfect scenario for a narcissistic man with self-serving motivations to walk right. He may pretend to be the hero or helper. The hero or helper role may take on being a supporter, a ‘guidance counselor’, assistant, driver, cook, doctor, or some other role. These men move right in with the assumption that they can get some from the girl by pretending to be nice. 

 

No matter how you dress it up, the basic motivation is sex. Men spread rumors about wild, hot, crazy sex from troubled women. Men are not interested in unattractive, troubled women. They want the ones who are seen as hot, attractive, and sexy. They do not pursue normal, attractive women. 

 

Normal women have barriers and judgment skills. In this sense, men who prey on troubled women for sex are essentially violating their territories and taking advantage of their weaknesses in order to get the big shaft up and get some action. Some a person with sinister motivations should be criticized, not glorified as a helper. 

 

Sometimes, they attempt to create fake relationships with these women, but those relations go south quickly. The women are unable to gain control over themselves and are not fighting with a supposedly NICE GUY ™ who is a control freak, enabler, and exploiter. It is very hard to wrestle for control in a relationship when everyone else believes he is a great guy and you feel exploited, all the while dealing with exploitation and uncontrolled mental illness.

 

Borderlines tend to overdramatize and misinterpret the intimacy in relationships. They are sensitive to criticism and possess both psychotic and neurotic traits. They may engage in self-harm and addictive behaviors. They are not prone to violence, exploitation, or verbal abuse. Many are victims of sexual abuse and have battled with depression. Their sense of self is weak and while they usually have a grip on reality, they often cope with anxiety and feelings of worthlessness, rejection, and difficulties in perception. 

 

They are the perfect group for supposedly ‘normal’ men who lie about their motivations. These men zone in on them with ‘sympathy’. Pity and sympathy are often based on exploitation. Of course, there is nothing wrong with a kind, thoughtful man taking an interest in a woman’s problems if his motivations are friendship or empathy. There are plenty of normal, honest men without ulterior motivations, who wish to offer support, assistance, and a good listening ear. These men are sensitive, respectful, and understanding. They are not prone to abusing mentally ill women for some snatch. 

 

The exploitative types can use these women, then make them out to be ‘crazy’ or ‘terrible’ if things don’t go their way, if they have a reaction, if there is an argument. Some of these men will even try to keep these women away from family, their jobs, apartments, friends, treatment, and counseling. If these men were so caring, they would help these women get treatment, leave them in the hands of friends, family members, and experts, and then get lost except for the occasional bedside visit or ‘Get Well’ card.

 


Submitted: November 23, 2020

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