Dealing With Difficult Times

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Non-Fiction  |  House: Booksie Classic

Dealing with difficult moments during life.

In life, we all go through difficult moments. I’ve been through difficult moments, I’m sure many of you have and you are probably going through a tricky time as you read this.

Difficult moments do not necessarily have to be life-changing experiences, but it could be things that we care deeply about that haven’t gone to plan or aren’t working. This could be:

  • Losing a loved one/friend
  • Losing your job
  • Financial problems/challenges
  • Relationship breakdown
  • Educational challenges
  • Medical issues/mental challenges

There are a range of worries that we go through, some may be major and some may actually be so minor that we look back and think: “Why was I so worried about that?”

I remember during the early course of 2012, when I was rejected from my first-choice university, I was gutted. I was on course to achieve what was required, and they didn’t even give me a chance to achieve the grades, before rejecting me.

From about the end of February to April, I was so worried I wouldn’t get into university. I was looking at alternatives to university, considering apprenticeships and so on. I would get very nervous every-time I would receive a notification from UCAS to tell me something has changed on my application.

In the end I receive 2-3 offers from other universities, graduated and began my journey in the world of work. Looking back, I needed to have more hope and belief in my abilities to get there.

It happens sometimes, the tiniest of things can become the be-all and end-all of our lives. We place it as number one, and if it doesn’t go to plan, our lives can’t go on. We should definitely remember that every setback in life is not the end of it.  I’ve spoken to a few people who have had difficulties and become depressed over things in their lives. I used to think: “Why are you stressed about this?” but I then remembered, I too, have been there at one point.

2020 has been a horrible year (understatement, I know) and we can’t wait to see the back of it. People have lost loved-ones to Covid-19 and other tragedies. People have lost their jobs and now face financial uncertainty. As we approach Christmas, they will be thinking how they will feed their families, buy gifts for their loved-ones and just have a positive end to the year.

Some have seen their careers take a dive, after only just starting, due to losing their jobs. How do they find another job? Where will their careers go? Where’s my confidence gone? These are all thoughts that hit you after going through this.

There are also those that suffer with mental challenges. This can’t be helped and any small setback or tragedy can trigger those thoughts, which lead to difficult periods.

The saying: “Tough times don’t last, tough people do”, is true, but I also feel that there are so many circumstances, often ones we haven’t prepared for, that hit us so hard and leave us low.

Tough periods do not last, and that’s true. Whatever difficulties someone may be going through, always remember that one way or another, it won’t last. You’ll find your feet again, get your next opportunity and become well.

According to The Guardian, male suicide in England and Wales in 2019 was the highest for two decades – that’s insane. I’d definitely like to encourage us to try and open up about any difficulties people may have. It won’t hurt your pride, in fact, it’ll hurt you even more than opening up and being honest. I’ve always liked to offer myself as a listener to friends and family who need advice or just someone to talk to. If anyone needs advice, I’m happy to help if I can.

Whether you’re older or younger than me, I’m just happy that you’d be happy to confide in me or if this piece helps you, fantastic.

It’s really difficult to have those positive thoughts at times though, and the internet can at times make us feel worse. If you’ve got the power or tools to help someone feel better and bring about some positivity, then do it There’s enough that’s wrong going on in the world and too many people that need help. You can’t help every single person, but by helping one person, could make a massive difference.

For people of my generation, social media is where we spend most of our time and try to seek comfort. Some people may look at celebrities or influencers and think they’re “perfect”, that’s not always the case. Those on social media will only post what’s going right in their lives. We can’t compare ourselves to them and I think sometimes that’s the mistake we make. If you’re insecure about your weight, looking at fitness models may either motivate you or make you feel worse. If you’re struggling financially and see an influencer or celeb with a car, you’ll be thinking: “How has he got all of that from sitting behind a camera?” It’s normal.

Focus on you. Give yourself some encouragement each day. Life will definitely provide tough moments and I wouldn’t know what it’s like in someone else’s shoes and depending what you’re faced with, there can be a way forward.

Richard.


Submitted: November 24, 2020

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LE. Berry

Helpful piece Richard.

Tue, November 24th, 2020 10:59pm

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