Shit about equality and stuff

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Hello people, ignore me please, I'm just ranting. Hope you have a nice Friday :)

March 19th is in Finland known as Minna Canth’s Day and Day of Equality. If you don’t know who Canth (yes, her name is pronounced pretty much as “cunt”, don’t mind that) was, she was a writer, journalist and is considered the first feminist in Finland. She lived in the 19th century and addressed a lot of gender equality issues such as domestic violence, poverty and education for women in her writing. Hence why the day is also to celebrate equality. I wish I could say I’ve read more than one of her books, but to be honest, I haven’t. But then again, I’m going to argue most Finns haven’t. I’m also going to argue it’s because Finland in the 19th century sounds like a boring setting for any type of story. But she was a realist and that made her so special.

I had to spend some time at school waiting for a bus today and me and my friend, like the responsible and very adult-ish adults we are, ended up laughing our asses off when we found Kama Sutra on the bookshelf and read it. I didn’t expect to find that book in a school library, but of course it’s there. Sexuality is an important part of health. Since it’s Minna Canth’s Day, we ended up discussing this whole thing and wow, the Indian people were so much more liberal than Europeans in the 16th century (sorry, been reading some Hilary Mantel again) and now, after two glasses of wine I’m feeling I need to write about random shit I’ve thought about during the last week or so.

I absolutely hate and love being a woman at the same time. Hate, because okay. Period sucks. Having boobs sucks because it means I have to wear a bra to be comfortable if I leave my bed but wearing a bra sucks. Also, bras are way too expensive, even the totally-not-sexy ones I only wear when I know no one is gonna see me suffer with taking them off and that’s just bullshit. Society expecting me to shave my legs sucks, but thank fuck it’s winter and I don’t have to do that on a daily basis. Having to shave everywhere else also sucks, but that’s more of my own preference. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck though.

Being a woman is awesome because women are so supportive and open. Like, it’s completely normal for me and my friends to talk about how one of us (not me, thankfully) took a moon cup out of her pussy and threw it at her boyfriend when she was drunk. It’s okay for us to talk about how men always come so fast it’s annoying and how men always comment when they take a shit and then analyze it. Like, bro, no I don’t wanna hear that, it’s gross. I’ve never been the kind of person to hang out with girls. When in kindergarten, I didn’t wanna play princess with the other girls. Nope, I went and played ninjas with the guys.

Being a woman in the 21st century is awesome because I can have guy friends without all my relatives asking if that’s my boyfriend. If your relatives didn’t ask you that when you were an awkward teenager, you’re luckier than you know. And I was one. I’m sure 99 % of people are awkward when they’re teenagers, but I had shitty self esteem. It’s odd thinking about it now because I’m more than okay with myself.

On some level I know why that is. I’m more myself now than I was 5 years ago. I’m happier. I have my own interests and I’m surrounded by people that I actually like. And those people let me be me. Hell, they even value me or like me. I don’t realize this myself, not often. Maybe that’s due to bad self esteem but I had a very eye-opening (and a bit awkward) conversation with a friend/dom and he’s amazing for making me realize shit about myself. We did a scene on Sunday and afterwards were eating and chatting and he knows I can be really shy and self conscious about myself, especially my body. I’m super thin and it annoys me. I have a lot of scars on my body and I’ve never really minded them as a kid but the second I started having sex with people, I’ve been kind of annoyed by them.  Especially the one from my heart surgery from last year because it’s still oddly red at the top and sure, no one actually pays attention to what’s between a woman’s boobs when there are boobs present, but it still annoys me. So it oddly boosts my confidence when he randomly grabs my ass or boobs and gets turned on by it. I don’t really get it. Sure, I can appreciate someone having a nice body but to me that’s not the main point, I get more turned on if someone knows what they’re doing and is confident in themselves. Especially if it leads to me being held down and having a dildo up my ass, but that’s beside the point.

While I can talk about all this anonymously online, I probably couldn’t do it with my name. We’ve come a long way with gender equality, but there are a lot of taboos for women in society. If I go around sleeping with men, that’s considered weird and something I shouldn’t really do, even if guys do it. A guy is gonna be considered cool for that, I’m gonna be a whore. I’ll still probably have to work harder for the same money men get for the same job in the future. If I don’t get married and have kids in the next 15 years, I’m probably going to be questioned more than a guy would. If I decide to study more and maybe have a career, I’m going to sound selfish to some people. If I were to become a politician I would get belittled for being a woman and would be deemed unfit for the job because I worked as a cleaner when I was 18. If I end up in any way in a crappy situation in my life, it’s more likely going to be my own fault than it would be of the guy’s if he was in the same situation. It’s infuriating to think we’re in that situation in 2021 and yes, Finland has done amazingly well when it comes to gender equality but we’re still unequal. I could name a hundred things that are wrong and still affect women in a way that I most of the time don’t even acknowledge. Canth would probably turn in her grave (that’s actually about 300 meters from where I live, I should probably check it out) if she heard we’re still in a pretty 

Submitted: March 19, 2021

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Unfair or unequal... life is not fair.

Well, if you look at all the different religions, governments and social environments, it's all a giant pyramid scheme. No equality period. Just a pipe dream. The ones who complain about it are overshadowing the narrative and forgetting or unaware they are not any more entitled to get their fair share than the ones who are moving along and living thein lives as luck of the draw dictates. It's all about who you know and what bed you slept in, to get there. Simple as that.

Fri, March 19th, 2021 10:40pm

88 fingers

Earlier today I read a story from CNN where Finland was rated the happiest country in the world.
But after reading your story, you kinda of blew that out of the water.
Just be the best person you can be. Fuck the expectations that others expect from you.
Do your own shit and if you feel good at the end of the day, that's all that matters.

Fri, March 19th, 2021 11:29pm


To be honest, the happiest country in the world was cool four years ago. Now the discussion goes like this:
"Wow, happiest country in the world, you must be awesome!"
"We're depressed, drunk, it's always dark and cold here. The only reason we're happy is because everyone else commits suicide."
"Well, at least you've done well with corona virus."
"No we haven't just shut the fuck up and let us sulk because we're such horrible people and can't do shit right."
Of course we're kind of proud of that title but then again, it's what you compare us to. We're doing well but that's only because everyone else is shit. We're just less shit. What really matters is we that we beat Sweden, no one cares about anything else.

Sat, March 20th, 2021 3:11am

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