Lost Friendship

Reads: 20  | Likes: 0  | Shelves: 0  | Comments: 0

  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Reddit
  • Pinterest
  • Invite

Status: Finished  |  Genre: Memoir  |  House: Booksie Classic

Why would anyone want or keep a friend that puts boundaries on what you can and cannot say? Why would a friend even think of doing that?

LOST FRIENDSHIP

By Al Garcia

Some time ago someone I thought to be a friend (another combat journalist) called me out on a post I sent in response to an email he had sent to me.  He had emailed me the following great words of inspiration:

There is an ancient Sufi saying referred to as, The Four Gates (depending on varying versions and sources.) It proposes a contemplation, and brings awareness to how we might offer our contributions to others through our communication.  Before you speak, let your words pass through these gates: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? Does it improve upon the silence?

My rather quick, funny and unthinking response, but yet one I felt comfortable with, because he was my friend, was: 

“PLEASE pass these words on to Trump.”

And with that response, so ended a friendship I thought I had.

My “friend” berated me for my disrespect and in so many words advised me that he would not tolerate, he would not hear, and he would not read anything I had to say along these lines.  We could continue with our ongoing communications and the project we were working on, but they could not contain my feelings or my thoughts that bordered on the hottest topic of the day (politics or Trump).  Yet everything we hear and see and everywhere we go, it’s about politics, it’s about Trump.  That is the time we’re living in.

My question is a rather simple one:  Why would anyone want or keep a friend that puts boundaries on what you can and cannot say?  Why would a friend even think of doing that?  Because in every word, every thought, every feeling that we share with a friend, we expose ourselves, knowing that a friend will listen, will hear, and will read the written words he may receive, and he will understand without judgment, without censure, without attack.

Friendship is built on faith, principles and acceptance of views that may not always mesh.  Life is simply too short and too precious to waste time censoring what you say or what you write to a “friend.”  Friendship imposes no boundaries.  Friendship is exemplified in the words this very “friend” emailed to me – “truth, sharing, being kind and caring, and most of all about uplifting and improving the silence and loneliness that surrounds us.”  And so ended that friendship and the project we were working on. 

Friends don’t set up walls or barricades.  Friends help each other paint the fence they both helped to build.


Submitted: June 05, 2021

© Copyright 2021 A.Garcia. All rights reserved.

  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Reddit
  • Pinterest
  • Invite

Add Your Comments:


Facebook Comments

More Memoir Short Stories

Other Content by A.Garcia

Essay / Editorial and Opinion