Work And Your Identity

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Status: In Progress  |  Genre: Non-Fiction  |  House: Booksie Classic


Layoffs, job shortages, cutbacks, retirement all add up to one thing.  You are faced with not having a job.  Having is a keyword here.  Notice I did not say you are faced with not being your job or living your job.  Focus on what you can do.  Now, stop rolling your eyes back in your head.  I know exactly what I am talking about.  Focus on being productive and you may find a different type of work than you are used to doing or finding some training in something you really want to do.
 
I have retired twice.  I retired from teaching many years ago.  Went back to school and became an auditor for a national chain.  I took early retirement from that career due to some physical problems.  My early retirement was busy taking care of my mom, her sister, and my many critters and responsibilities.  After my husband, my mother, and her sister passed away I was suddenly left with no one to take care of but me and my remaining animals.
 
 I allowed depression and laziness to move in and rob me of some precious time.  I died on March 11, 2016, from a pulmonary embolism.  Since I am an organ donor I was kept on life support until my organs could be harvested.  I woke up within an hour of the surgery to remove my organs.When I finally got back home I spent 2 years frightened to leave my house.  I ordered everything online.  I did not talk to anyone except a very nosy neighbor.  She really just wanted to make sure I was all right but to me, at the time I thought she was nosy.  Long story short I had retired from life.
 
A volunteer came by to bring me lunch one day.  I thanked them and closed the door quickly.  My house was a mess and I wanted no one inside.  Time passed.  This individual came by every day for 4 days each week and brought me something to eat.  Then I fell and hurt my ankle.  I could not answer the door.  I decided I would unlock my front door and yell for them to come inside.  I would just make a joke about the maid's day out and they would give me my lunch and then leave.
 
The knock came at the door, I yelled for them to come inside.  A very nice man came in holding my lunch.  I was sitting on the sofa with a TV tray set up in front of me.  He asked me where I kept my flatware.  I noticed he made no facial signs that he even noticed the mess the house was in but just went to the kitchen and brought me the fork and spoon I would need to eat.  He sat down.  We started chatting.  This practiced continued for well over six months.  I got to where I looked forward to him coming by to visit with me.  When I asked him to he even prayed with me.  It was not a big thing to him but was a really big thing to me.  I had been drowning in hopelessness that had grown like cancer and spread into no caring about much of anything except my animals.
 
My visits from the volunteer turned the light on for me in the darkness I was living in.  I could see the light at the end of the tunnel and it was not a freight train.  I started writing down some of the stories I had been telling him.  My memory started coming back.  Not that I had lost actual memory but I had forgotten all the goodness that I had blessed with throughout my life. The more I shared it the more I remembered.
 
I have been totally retired since I was 58.  I am 68 now so it has taken me 10 years to finally get the hang of it.  Don't let it take you that long.  Learn from my mistakes.  Heck, learn from my mistakes.  I started volunteering to help others and suddenly my life became very busy. I had friends.  I had people who actually cared.  It did not take much a few minutes of my time.  Then again... what else did I have to give them.  I was in reality giving myself more time.  My life had been spared but it took a volunteer, who wanted nothing from me, to wake me up.
 
If you are bogged down with the thought of retirement, volunteer somewhere.  Are you facing unemployment?  Are you in between jobs?  That does not mean you cannot be productive.  Volunteer work opens you to new horizons.  Deliver groceries, help with the handicapped.  Find something productive and you will be surprised if someone you help does not tell someone else about the nice person they met who needs a job.  This is an excellent time to regroup and expand your mind to new possibilities.
 
Read to the blind, visit nursing homes and talk to tenants at a senior citizen center.  Participate in life.  That little visit could change your ending as well as someone else's.  It makes no difference what you talk about, just being there is the key.
 
You now have the time to live and appreciate the life you have been given.  Show others their life matters too.  Don't take ten years to learn that you have retired from work.  Do not retire from life.  Your work does not define who you are as a person.  Believe in yourself and allow yourself to grow.  You are the only one who can make you happy.
 
I found this paragraph a while back.  I have no idea who the author is but I read it every day.
 
When you pray, sometimes you get what you want.  Then there are times, you receive a lesson in patience, timing, alignment, empathy, compassion, faith, perseverance, resilience, humility, trust, meaning, awareness, resistance, purpose, clarity, grief, beauty, and life.  Either way, you win.


Submitted: July 03, 2021

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