Daddy No More

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Submitted: December 19, 2011

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Hi my name is Adam and I am 28yrs old. I am writing this in the hope that my story could save someone or many people the hurt and suffering I am currently going through. I will be contacting other news programs and newspapers in the hope that my story is heard. 
 
On the 15th November 2010 my beautiful baby girl was brought into this world. This was the happiest day of my life. Finally I got to see my baby girl for the first time. My partner and I named her Kyra Rose Brentnall. Kyra was named after my 84yr old grandmother. You can just imagine the excitement my grandmother felt when she found out that her great granddaughter was going to be named after her. My mother, brother and my 2 sisters were also very excited. My mother was finally a grandmother and my siblings finally had a niece that they could love and spoil. The 15th of November was now a pretty significant date as this is also my younger brothers birthday. 
 
My ex partner and I got together in December 2009. A few months later we found out she was pregnant (this was not a planned pregnancy). We did attend a counselling session to discuss the possibility of an abortion we obviously came to the conclusion that we were going to bring this child into the world and both love and support this child for the rest of our lives.
 
The first few months of Kyra's life was tough to say the least. Working full-time and getting so little sleep took its toll but it was worth it. It was so amazing to watch Kyra smile for the first time. It was amazing to watch her when she discovered her hands and her feet the list goes on. She is such a happy baby. 
 
Everyday at work all I could think about was getting home to spend time with my precious little girl. I would come home from work and hug and hold her from the moment I walked in the front door. She was always so excited to see me. I cared for her when she was sick. I used to bath her just about every night. I would rock her to sleep I would sing to her. I was a great Dad and she may only be 1yr old but we definitely have a special bond. Every time I see her, her eyes light up. 
 
I'll try not to drag this out for too long as I'm sure you can understand how much I love this little girl.
 
Over time my relationship with my partner started to fall apart. There was hardly any intimacy and all we seemed to do was argue and bring out the worst in each other. 
 
Around the 10th of September 2011 my partner told me that she wasn't happy and that she wanted to separate. We came to a verbal agreement that Kyra would spend 3 nights a week with me and 4 nights a week with her mother. I told my ex that I wanted this arrangement written up in a court order and she agreed. 
 
On the 23rd September 2011 I received a phone call from my ex partner who was in Taree at the time visiting her sister. She said to me on the phone that she had something to tell me and continued to say that she is really sorry but you not Kyra's biological father and that she had ordered a home paternity test and had done this with the alleged father and the probability of him being Kyra's father was 99.9999%. This news was devastating not just for me but for all of my family who love that little girl so much. All it took was one phone call and my whole world came crashing down. 
 
Apparently Kyra's biological father has since relocated to Darwin and hasn't shown much interest to be in Kyra's life.
 
Up until recently Kyra's mother would allow my family and I 1 visit a week with Kyra for an hour in a public place of her choosing. On the 25th November I received a text message from the mother saying " I would prefer that all contact with me be directed through your lawyer. And I'm sorry but I won't be arranging any more visitation until we see what happens in mediation. 
 
Mediation was today I can not go into too much detail about what was said due to confidentiality. But the mother and I had 2 totally different views.
 
 
My lawyer has advised me that I have 2 options. 
 
1 is to walk away (how can someone walk away from a baby that you have loved and still love as your own?). 
 
2 is to take things to court he has also advised me that I would not be entitled to legal aid and that just to get it to the hearing stage would cost me approximately $7K. I work in retail and I earn minimum wage I'm not too sure how I am expected to come up with that sort of money.
 
It feels as though Kyra has died the grief is so unbearable. I have gone from seeing her everyday for the first 11 months of her life to not seeing her at all. 
 
I have never experienced this kind of hurt in my life and I never want to experience this again. I would not wish any of this upon my worst enemy.
 
Anyone can be a sperm donor and in my eyes I have been Kyra's father from the day she was born I am currently still listed on her birth certificate. I lived every minute of every day for this little girl. If that's not being a father what is?
 
How can someone get away with something that is so morally wrong?
 
How can someone hurt so many people to such a severity and not suffer any consequences?
 
Where is the justic in this world?
 
All I am left with now is a nursury full of baby things and a broken heart.
 
Please check out my video I created
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgvcxHxU3zY
 
 

 


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