Alone on Valentine's Day?

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Young Adult  |  House: Booksie Classic
Valentine's day has an unsettling effect for everyone who is single. But is it really that bad to be alone on this special day?

Submitted: February 14, 2015

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Alone on Valentine’s day?
 

As I look outside of the window at this gloomy February day I take a long drag from my cigarette. “There it goes again” I think as I watch the smoke go up and gradually vanishing. Of course I knew this day was coming, how could I not? Posters and songs, ecstatic and jealous posts on facebook, friends planning something “special”. I had never been a fan of the day. But this is the first in four years that I am single in Valentine’s day. Not that I have ever celebrated it, giving and receiving gifts and making plans. But now I am forced to look at it from the other side. And it kind of sucks doesn’t it? Being home with the company of cigarettes and countless cups of black coffee making plans with a bunch of other single girls for the night. You can’t help it; you think.

 

Is it so bad to be single? Apart from this damned day? I for one can’t help feeling alone once in a while. Not only today. Certainly not every day. But sometimes when I go to bed alone at night I can’t help wishing someone was there to give me a hug and sleep with me. Sometimes this someone has a name but mostly it is a general feeling. However the next morning I am really glad to be the only person on a king sized bed, stretching like a cat.

So, the question remains unanswered; Is it so bad to be single? One can only answer it if he or she identifies the reasons that led to the choice and mainly if it is actually a choice. If you are single because the object of your affections is not interested in you then you are most certainly not happy. If you are single because you haven’t met the right person but you are searching for him or her then you will be mostly happy. But if you are single because you have chosen to be on your own then you have every reason to be happy.

What exactly “chose to be on your own means”? It means that you consciously choose not to be in a relationship with another person. That can be because you want to focus on yourself, your job, your family or just because you want to enjoy yourself doing all sort of crazy things you can’t do when you have a relationship. Of course there is nothing wrong with having a relationship. It is actually a wonderful thing. But let’s face it: When you choose to settle down you are responsible for the other person’s feelings. If you don’t want them to get hurt you can’t go around doing everything you like without thinking. Also, when you get into a relationship the amount of time you have for your friends and hobbies decreases dramatically. As it is, starting a relationship is a drastic change.  

I have always appreciated couples who have a healthy relationship. I have almost envied those couples who have a healthy relationship and have fun together. However it was only after I became aware of the flaws in my relationship that I began to develop a genuine respect for every person who decides not to fall into the trap of compromise in a relationship and sets off on his or her own. Those people not only respect the true essence of a relationship but they also truly respect and value themselves. Because let’s face it: It takes a lot to have the balls to look the truth straight in the eye and admit that you want everything and won’t settle down for anything less. And in the meantime all that is left to do is have a great time from all the experiences you have.

As I stamp the cigarette on the ashtray I realize that the most pathetic thing about Valentine’s Day is that it is forced on people. If you are in a relationship you have to celebrate. If you are single you have to be sorry for yourself, envious of the other’s happiness and a real bitch the whole day. But like in any other case the only solution is to be true to yourself and your emotions and if you have one, your partner. As I figure this out I smile at my own idiocy for allowing myself to feel even the tiniest bit sorry for my choices. And I realize that I am late. Late for my date with my friends, who have proved to be more reliable that most of my boyfriends and late for my date with another great night.

 

 

 

 


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