Hit me but why not hit you?

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The opinions on whether or not to be able to hit your children .

Submitted: November 04, 2015

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Angelica Rodriguez

10/24/15

English 9 period 7

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 Hit me but why not hit you ?

 

In 1990 a boy named Ricky LeTourneau  was said  to be “ disciplined to death” by his foster mother Deborah Wolfenden. She had said she lost control of her temper. What had started as a simple spank turned out to take a child's life away. Then is it ok to hit  your kids? No, parents should not be allowed to hit their kids. Just look at the way this turned out Deborah  didn't mean to kill her son she loved him a lot, but she couldn't control herself because of the  anger, and  frustration. The truth is neither the parent nor the child know what this could lead ,to the key here is to know when to draw the line to the point where you're take it too far. This goes for both the parents and the child.

In all the things we do in our daily lives it has been common sense as to never use violence as the answer. Then why when it comes to your kids you can hit your kids just because you find no other easy way out. Maybe if every person in the world knew by March 23 , 2014 1,850 kids died a year from physical child abuse then we might think twice before we lay a hand on a child. As the pediatrician T. Berry Brazelton said “ As soon as you start using violence to settle something with a child, you’re saying violence is the way to go,”(Edlem pg.1 ). Then this leads to your kids terrified of you plus you set the example for them in the future.

Most of the time who do we think of as spanked, hit, or abused. The truth is anybody can be an equal target with anybody else. In 2012 it  stated  48.5% were boys while 51.2% were girls  most of these kids came from families of the Pacific Islands and African American homes. What horrifies me the most is  children under the age of 5 and 3 are the easiest targets , but  because they can’t speak out or understand what is going on. To me  this isn’t fair  at this age and at this point these kids don’t know the difference between right and wrong.

In most cases women or mothers are the ones who abuse their children the most they, are between the age of 25 to 34. There are other ways to deal with these situations rather than hit your kids. In fact there are 5 other main things to do 1- get calm, 2 - withdraw from the conflict ,3- be kind but firm, 4- use logical consequences and , 5- give them warnings ahead of time. Most of the time people hit their kids because of frustration, anger, stress, depression,  inability to communicate, alcohol, and drugs. While others hit their kids because this might have been the way they were raised , or they could of had a bad experience. How do we know when someone in our family or across the street is abused. Some of the signs are the physical ones like bruises or cuts.  There are also signs like the ones which include acting different emotionally but most especially excuses to cover up for others.

Even in its darkest passages , the heart is unconquerable. It is important that the body survives , but it is more meaningful that the human spirit prevails

( A child called it ).

Even here we see  kids hurt on the outside but they hurt even more on the inside especially when it's someone you  love. This will  hurt the child. Also the parent  with further outcomes like jail , prison, or therapy. What we can do if we do see or know someone in a spot  like this is 1 don’t follow these same footsteps, 2 report it to anyone you trust, and  3 be there for the person who went through all this so you can support them.

“ Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun ; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul” ( A child called it ). Parents should not be allowed to hit their kids period. It’s wrong and it could lead to things you will never imagine. Spanking is the first key step which leads to physical child abuse. You may not believe me now , but  just wait until your discipline results don’t come out as planned. Make this world a better place for the future of those to come.

 


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