Middle Child Syndrome

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Birth order matters. Middle child syndrome is a condition in which affects the child who is the middle of the eldest sibling and youngest sibling. It usually happens in family's of three but some are to that exception, which are the family's of five or seven.

Submitted: July 13, 2010

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Middle Child syndrome
Ever heard about this condition before? Middle child syndrome. Many, but not all, middle children experience this. This condition is mainly about a child whose birth is in between his or her eldest sibling and younger sibling.
In a family whose siblings has three, is going to be harsh. The oldest, middle, and the youngest.
Having to deal with sibling rivalry and fighting for attention. But why does the middle child, never gets any attention? Always be the odd-man out? Why does the middle always get compared to, from the oldest or from the youngest? Why not the oldest and youngest get compared to? Having to be the remaining of what is left for their parents love? Or just don't know how to build a relationship with others?
From experience, coming from a family whose has three siblings, I know how it feels.
The middle child syndrome is real and more and more in this generation, I've been noticing a lot of family's who’s had siblings at the number of three. It's going to be hard.
This is because of the battles you have to overcome just to fight for the attention you weren't ever given. The success you weren't ever praised for and the loneliness you ever feel because the family only would pay attention to the oldest or youngest.
Sitting in the middle isn't going to be all fun and games. It takes a lot for a person in a family of 3 to overcome. This is because the wave of loss for it feels as if no one cares and no place in this world for you because the parents would only pay attention to the oldest or youngest.
Then that makes it worse because you feel like the odd-ball in your family. Having your older sibling as the 'important one' and having your younger sibling as the 'baby', it's going to feel as if you are the 'nothing'.
People who suffer from Middle Child Syndrome have low self-esteem. They feel unwanted and uncared for. Some children even continue to suffer from lack of self-belief growing up in their adult years.
Just when it couldn't get worst to see as that the middle child never gets attention, they're always being compared to their older sibling, or to their younger sibling. It usually works that way.
But never in my short life has any person ever compare my younger sister to my older one. It was always I, the one being compared to. The middle child.
But why?
The main reason for all this is not because your parent doesn’t like you, I'll bet they love you but they do that subconsciously.
Having doing that, the middle child is always in the shadow of their older sibling in which if the older sibling did, it wasn't important to the parents that the middle child because it was already achieved by the older one. So, they are constantly ignored by or named off by being the same as another sibling.
I've heard and read in many sources stating that middle children are under achievers. Though, I find that to be false. I am a middle child, I go with the flow, but I do try my best, just to try to get the attention I wanted. Though, even if I wasn't at all, noticed by my parents-it's usually going to be noticed by someone else. That's the Brightside.
Many people find that usually middle children are really artistic and creative. I don't know about other middle children but I am one of those, which make that creative group. I love my music ability’s. I also love all kinds of arts, from writing to drawing, even if I can't do it well.
Middle children are often named as loners. This comes in which they feel as if they do not belong and the trust issues in which follows. They feel like the outcasts or loners in the family and it follows them outside of their home.
The people with this condition usually have no sense of direction. Middle children start many projects but they tend to lose interest fast which sometimes never finishes. If they are forced to use their ability’s they work really well, but does not work under pressure.
This condition if not detected early can be harmful. Seeing as that many is insecure and has low-self stem. Being it is an emotional condition and not fixed early in their lives many middle children lives with it even through their adult lives.
Are you a middle child too? Wanna know if you have a severe case of the Middle child syndrome? I found this little test or whatever somewhere and it helps you know where you stand.
The 10 Symptoms (Answer Truthfully!)
Directions: Answer Yes or No to all of these questions.
 
1). Do you feel alienated from your family?
2). Do you feel alienated from your friends?
3). Do you often lock yourself inside your room?
4). Ever felt used by friends?
5). Do you get easily depressed from criticism?
6). Have you ever dreamed of something but didn’t have the courage to pursue it?
7). Do you feel envy and even hatred towards your parents or siblings?
8). Have you ever done things just to be accepted or noticed by others?
9). Did you feel that you were pushed to achieve things that you did not enjoy your childhood?
10). Ever felt that you did not belong and no one loves you and the world will be better without you?
Meaning of my scores: Count the number of YES‘s to the questions above
 
0-3
Congratulations! You’re perfectly normal.
 
4-5
You just suffer low self-esteem. Nothing weird, go fix your hair and you will do fine.
 
6-8
Do not be scared. It seems you have mild Middle Child Personality. Self-help and guidance will often cure the condition.
 
9-10
Unfortunately, you suffer a severe condition of Middle Child Syndrome, try not to do anything rash. Emotional support from love ones along with psychiatric help will solve this.
 
Well, it sucks to be me, right? I got 9. Though, I got help! That really works. Rely on the ones you love, don’t take everything onto yourself. I learned you can’t just rely on yourself; you have to let others help you even with the trust issues.
I hope I got this article right, or you enjoyed it. If you didn’t, well, I don’t take criticism well but you’re still welcome to do so. Have a great day and thank you for reading.
 


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