Rejected Essay #1: The Problem with Men

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The reason why this was rejected by my English teach was because it wasn't a rhetorical analysis, or review, of Tough Guise 2. You want a review, here it is: it's a good documentary. It has good editing, interesting arguments and it doesn't shy away from showing the brutality of men. That really didn't require me to write 6 pages explaining everything about the film on why it's good, now did it? -.-

Submitted: March 30, 2016

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Submitted: March 30, 2016



The Problem With Men

The definition of “man” or “men” is (as stated in the dictionary) “an adult male person, as distinguished from a boy or woman.” That definition is incomplete; a man is not just a male person. In fact, I’d make the argument that a man is more animal than a person; what, with all the violence and mistreatment against woman, is it really difficult to see why? Now this is not to say all men are animals; if they were, then we wouldn’t have men like Martin Luther King, Michael Jackson, Ronald Regan or Abraham Lincoln. With that said, the actions of men speak for themselves and as a man myself, I feel embarrassed by these creatures who dare call themselves men.

War…it’s killed millions of people over the past century and even more ever since the dawn of man. In World War 2, we lost 60 million people worldwide; that’s 3% of the world’s population at the time. And it’s not just war, it’s also shootings, murders, bombings, assaults; many of which are caused by men and their violent emotions and influences. Let’s take a look at Julien Barreaux, a man who killed someone who killed his video game avatar in Counter Strike. I’m not kidding, a man actually killed someone over a video game; if you think that’s stupid, that’s nothing compared to the thousands of black killed by the Ku Klux Klan. In the span of 86 years, men in white sheets killed 3446 other men simply for the color of their skin; racism, so stupid it kills people.

With all that said, video games and racism aren’t the only contributors to men’s violent behavior; fear, anger and mistreatment as a child also factor in the violence of men. In terms of fear, some men are afraid of being caught or being ashamed for what people will think of them. They’ll either kill someone to hide the truth or kill themselves to hide their shame. Anger is a very common theme for men’s violence, which can lead to some of the most notorious killings or murders in history. One infamous murder with anger as the motivation that comes to mind is the death of Abraham Lincoln after he successfully brought the Civil War to an end. In an act of revenge, John Wilkes Booth shot the President in a theater before running off and getting arrested shortly afterwards. Lastly, some men become violent because that’s how they were raised; kill or be killed, everyone is your enemy, etc.. And if it’s not how they were raised, then it was certainly how they were bullied growing up; we’ll get into more detail later, but for now let’s just say there’s a reason why kids are bullied every day.

About 2 years ago, just before I turned 18, I was called a pervert by these 2 girls and 1 boy that were roughly the same age as me. I was very much insulted because I was not a pervert; yes I watch porn, but I don’t grab a woman’s butt cheek or call her things like “good lookin’” or “sweet thang;” that’s is something an actual pervert does. Would you believe that the only thing I said to those kids was “Hi?” It’s wasn’t a creepy “hi” or a grumpy “hi,” it was a simple “nice to meet you, I’m a nice guy, wanna be friends?” “hi.”

Now real men who are perverted won’t just say “hi” to a woman; they’ll sexually harass her until she threatens to call the cops. The way men treat woman is disgusting and degrading as the female person is seen as nothing more than a prop in the eyes of a man. While it is natural for a man to want to have sex with a woman, it’s literally illegal to for a man to force a woman into having sex with her (and vice versa).  The reason behind a man’s perverted man can be described best in one word: lust.

The stereotype of men viewing woman as objects has been seen in movies, TV shows, music videos, song lyrics, video games, books, and most infamously pornography over a century. One of the most controversial of cases (besides porn) is the music video for Tip Drill or E.I. (Remix) by Nelly featuring St. Lunatics. In the video, the R&B singer and rap group is seen throwing money at the camera while a hoard of woman are twerking in the background. When the video was released, students from Spelman College in Atlanta, Georgia protested against it for objectifying women. Even though Nelly’s own daughter hasn’t seen the video, it’s still seen as a pseudo porn video.

Speak of porn, a large number of women that star in porn are treated like props and are abused constantly when the cameras are rolling (and when they’re not). Linda Susan Boreman, known professionally as Linda Lovelace, claimed that her then husband (Chuck Traynor) held a gun to her head while she was filming one of the biggest porn films of the time, Deep Throat. After Linda left the porn industry behind her, she disowned Deep Throat saying, quote, “Virtually every time someone watches that movie, they’re watching me being raped.” Many women in the porn industry advocate against the porn industry because of the way they were treated on and off set; Vanessa Belmond, Traci Lords and Shelley Lubben are just 3 of many women protesting against the porn industry after they suffered face slapping, mouth gagging, fist punching, anal raping careers that will scar them for life.

When you’re with your guy friends and they dare you to do something dangerous, would you do it? Say the dare was to smash a stranger’s expensive car with a baseball bat; if you did, you’d get arrested and charged with a fine. If you didn’t, your friends would label you as a “p****” or a “f*****;” this is what we call peer pressure, which is a form of bullying.

Now, some men tend to see themselves as jocks or so tough that they can do whatever they want. They are so caught up in their ego that they see every other men as weak and inferior. Bullies are a common form of this stereotype; they pick on everyone that’s either weak or helpless just because they can. I was bullied in the 1st grade, so I know personally how it feels to be abused when the adults aren’t watching.

There’s a difference between being strong and being tough and most men seem to think that they’re the same thing. Being strong, depending on the context, means that you are physically able to do something. Being tough, on the other hand, means that you see yourself as being able to do something. Gaston from Beauty and the Beast is the very definition of a tough guy as he thinks just because he has muscular arms that means he could win Belle over. In contrast of that, the Beast is strong in not just physically, but emotionally because he showed Belle kindness and compassion in the second half of the film. To quote Zeus from Hercules, “A true [man] is measured not by the size of his strength, but by the strength of his heart.”

Throughout history, men have been shown to be violent, sexually aggressive, egotistical, and cold hearted animals that have only set their minds on their own selfish desires. To say that all men are evil, though, is a bit of an exaggeration if anything else. I mean, I’m 19 going on 20; I’ve gotten into a fight, got detention twice in high school and maid my sister cry more times than I can count. But at least I’m not shooting people I don’t like, sexually harassing women or forcing people into doing things they don’t want to do; I might not be perfect, but I’m not a barbaric animal either. Men may act like animals, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be more than what society sees them as. “The good man is the man who, no matter how morally unworthy he has been, is moving to become better.”  -John Dewey



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