The Woman-Eater

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Non-Fiction  |  House: Booksie Classic
Should we try to escape the Casanovas and Don Juans of this world?

Submitted: May 21, 2010

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Oh, Marlon Brando when he was young and just DELICIOUS. Wow, he is adorning this article even though it's not about him, but about someone else. Marlon only visits us because he is so damn sexy and so is our Mr. Devourer, the woman-eater: Don Juan, Casanova or whatever. If he weren't that delicious he couldn't seduce, abuse and then leave a long string of the most nice, beautiful and all in all wonderful women as if his actions were something that went by clock work: Seduction at 10 in the morning, boredom at 11, then other women start to appear on the scenery, and in the afternoon there are his desperate attempts at flight from those loving embraces as well as new seductions.

That's the program for our classical seducer, the Don Juan of Mozart's opera or the young Casanova who is the undisputed hero of his own "Mémoires". To the Seducer the seduction is the most important part of a relationship. If he lives by the old sex rôles he sees this as his having neutralized what tantalizes him because his brain is set in war patterns: "I desire this woman, she holds an upper hand because of my feelings, but I can turn the table upon her by seduction. Having been seduced she is seen as defeated and I'm the victor of this battle." This works fine for the seducer, but certainly not for most of his lady friends who may get hurt and heart-sick from this male behaviour. They feel "used" and thus exploited as well as ridiculed if they too adhere to the old sex rôles which always set the woman as the prey of the male. In reality it's much more intricate than that, but it's not as obvious because it goes by some kind of secret codes.

For instance: When the Danish writer Karen Blixen (Isak Dinesen) was young there were strict rules for the everyday social association of the sexes. Most often we see the rules as subjecting women, but it has been said that one of her sisters got herself a rich husband by exploiting them - or that they simply worked in her favor. When she, somewhere around 1910, was in her late twenties she still wasn't engaged to get married, but then, she climbed a ladder to fetch something on a shelf. By doing so she exposed her ankles and a little of her slip. More or less by accident this was witnessed by a rich, young man who felt obliged to marry her for having seen this sight. Had he not done so it would have been considered quite indecent and one wonders: Did the bright, young woman know what she did when she stepped up on that ladder or was it a sheer accident that this man saw her slip and her ankles? If she knew what she was doing then she was a special kind of a female man-eater, even a seductress, whereas he was anything but a Don Juan.
This system only works with men and women who adhere to the old socio-sexual patterns. Those women who don't are not seduced into subjection, but into "fun". That's what they expect, and, to the chagrin of the Don Juan, they may not have more feelings invested in him than he has in them. Should we shun this male character? Yes, if we are easily hurt, otherwise no, we don't have to as long as we keep our eyes open to his machinations and perhaps are one, two or even 100 steps ahead of him as the sister of Karen Blixen was. By the way, according to all reports the marriage was very happy ....

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