GET UP, IT'S TIME FOR A CHANGE!!!

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The article discusses several ways by which one could be a better person by consciously engaging in self development.

Submitted: October 09, 2012

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GET UP; IT’S TIME FOR A CHANGE!!!

Yeah, yeah…I can hear people saying, ‘puh-lease what has she got to say now?’. But really the ball is in your court whether to listen or not. I am just a concerned and patriotic Nigerian looking for an avenue to make a difference. This article is basically for youths and I can only hope that as you read through what I have say, you will realize that it is not all about how current you are about certain issues, trends or fashion but about how current you are in looking for ways to make yourself a better person and also to be the motivation others need.

Well, since I am not a lecturer or a life coach, I am just going to give you some tips that I have been fortunate to come across. The truth is that these tips, can be applied by everyone but for the purpose of this article, I would want to concentrate on us, the youths.

The first tip is, having to decide what you consider a better person. Like the bible rightly says, we have the power to choose between good and bad. Nowadays, most youths have been misled because of the bad choice they made. Hey, I am no preacher, but the truth has to be told and this truth has been said over and over again, but I just feel the need to reiterate it. The best way to decide what you consider a better person is by observing those who you love and respect. By observing them, you stand the chance to sift through their attitudes or behaviors and then realize their best qualities and admirable traits. The attitudes you consider good are then implemented on your personality. Girl (guy), you’ve got to be smart about this so you don’t implement the wrong attitude, because trust me; it is easier to opt for the wrong attitude!

The next is deciding if YOU really want to be a better person. This is done by keeping good company. As the common saying goes, ‘show me your friend and I will tell you who you are’. Don’t make the mistake most people make as I am not telling you to be friends with saints! (Their attitudes are suspicious and most times questionable). The only help you can render yourself is by choosing friends you know would add value to the ones you possess although nobody is perfect and people make mistakes because they can’t see the virtues their friends find in them but at the same time, know what qualities you desire and be choosy. Okay, what I am really trying to say is that one of the things you should be cautious about is who you choose to be friends with, because they can either make you a better person or mar the values you possess. Remember your friends are a pointer to who you really are!

Also, old habits die hard. Your nagging attitude, inability to say no to certain things, gluttony, anger issues and the list goes on and on. But the truth is that you have to make changes slowly. The first step in this process is realizing you have a problem, then, you can outgrow this issue yourself by making conscious efforts not to engage in your old habits again. For instance, I know that sometimes I tend to get angry over issues that are inconsequential. For someone like me (who has realized that I have such a challenge), my plans towards being a better person is by trying to clear my head and staying calm whenever I feel that I am getting upset and also getting good books in the long run to help battle the anger (……don’t worry, I am getting there by God’s grace). Try one new behavior at a time. It is impossible to be a better person overnight and that is because it takes steps and these steps takes time, in other words, it is a process. You should change your habits and your mind will follow suit, because your mentality as well as thinking capability will change. I have read somewhere that a habit forms and breaks with one month…..so please get started!

You know, when I was younger, I wanted to be a medical doctor (…yeah I know, everyone wanted to be a doctor or a lawyer). Anyway, as I grew older and life hit me real hard, I realized that life goals can change, and who you are can change as well. At first, I fought so hard to maintain my stand on what I wanted to be, but it didn’t work out as I planned (a typical case of ‘man proposes and God disposes’). And so, I sat down and really thought about what I could do that wouldn’t compromise my goals, faith and stand (although not necessarily in that order). Now, I am an estate surveyor and I still have my goals. The bottom line is to never fail to re-evaluate and rediscover yourself, who knows you might be the better for it.

Love is giving and vice versa. Although, this is a very sensitive issue but I won’t hesitate to talk about it, I will just be careful with the way I relay the message to you. Please do not be selfish. If there is someone that works or lives near you that seems devoid of a friend, reach out and help them. It is incredible the difference one person can make if they become someone's friend. Give personal time, advice, clothes, food and if you have none of these, please give your listening ears. You never can tell who you have prevented from committing suicide because you decided to make a difference by giving one or all of these.

Many people are in delusion thinking that reading ends in the secondary school or at the tertiary institution but it would do them good to change their mind set. Read! Broaden your intellectual ability! Spend a good amount of your time reading about something beneficial towards your intelligence and keep updated about the society. You know there are times when you are to argue a particular point out but just because you don’t have enough information to back up your beliefs, you lose the argument even if you are right. I know I am not the only one who admires smart people because I know I stand the chance to gain more from them. Read something that would boost the gifts you have as well as help in realizing your goals.

No one can love you more than your family. They correct you lovingly when you have behaved below expectations and praise you when you’ve behaved above expectations. Spend time with your family. It is truly a learning experience to everyone. Doing this, helps you to probe into or explore the minds and hearts of your loved ones, allowing you to help them with any problems they may be experiencing and getting to genuinely know them. The family is the most important unit in the world. Stay close to your family and give each member a helping hand when there is need; this helps you have a better understanding of what love and care are which are essential attributes needed to be a better person.

When I was younger, I had the tendency to speak fast before thinking and my dad always said I ran my mouth in motion. Think before you speak. A good listener tends to be a good person, and trust from others will follow. When you have the power of someone’s trust, do not take it for granted. Use this trust, to help people better themselves. Please do not run your mouth in motion because there is always the tendency for you to make a fool of yourself.

And here, I draw the curtains. I sincerely hope that as you consciously apply the afore-mentioned tips, you will get mind blowing results…Get up girl (guy), it’s time for you to change!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

GET UP; IT’S TIME FOR A CHANGE!!!

Yeah, yeah…I can hear people saying, ‘puh-lease what has she got to say now?’. But really the ball is in your court whether to listen or not. I am just a concerned and patriotic Nigerian looking for an avenue to make a difference. This article is basically for youths and I can only hope that as you read through what I have say, you will realize that it is not all about how current you are about certain issues, trends or fashion but about how current you are in looking for ways to make yourself a better person and also to be the motivation others need.

Well, since I am not a lecturer or a life coach, I am just going to give you some tips that I have been fortunate to come across. The truth is that these tips, can be applied by everyone but for the purpose of this article, I would want to concentrate on us, the youths.

The first tip is, having to decide what you consider a better person. Like the bible rightly says, we have the power to choose between good and bad. Nowadays, most youths have been misled because of the bad choice they made. Hey, I am no preacher, but the truth has to be told and this truth has been said over and over again, but I just feel the need to reiterate it. The best way to decide what you consider a better person is by observing those who you love and respect. By observing them, you stand the chance to sift through their attitudes or behaviors and then realize their best qualities and admirable traits. The attitudes you consider good are then implemented on your personality. Girl (guy), you’ve got to be smart about this so you don’t implement the wrong attitude, because trust me; it is easier to opt for the wrong attitude!

The next is deciding if YOU really want to be a better person. This is done by keeping good company. As the common saying goes, ‘show me your friend and I will tell you who you are’. Don’t make the mistake most people make as I am not telling you to be friends with saints! (Their attitudes are suspicious and most times questionable). The only help you can render yourself is by choosing friends you know would add value to the ones you possess although nobody is perfect and people make mistakes because they can’t see the virtues their friends find in them but at the same time, know what qualities you desire and be choosy. Okay, what I am really trying to say is that one of the things you should be cautious about is who you choose to be friends with, because they can either make you a better person or mar the values you possess. Remember your friends are a pointer to who you really are!

Also, old habits die hard. Your nagging attitude, inability to say no to certain things, gluttony, anger issues and the list goes on and on. But the truth is that you have to make changes slowly. The first step in this process is realizing you have a problem, then, you can outgrow this issue yourself by making conscious efforts not to engage in your old habits again. For instance, I know that sometimes I tend to get angry over issues that are inconsequential. For someone like me (who has realized that I have such a challenge), my plans towards being a better person is by trying to clear my head and staying calm whenever I feel that I am getting upset and also getting good books in the long run to help battle the anger (……don’t worry, I am getting there by God’s grace). Try one new behavior at a time. It is impossible to be a better person overnight and that is because it takes steps and these steps takes time, in other words, it is a process. You should change your habits and your mind will follow suit, because your mentality as well as thinking capability will change. I have read somewhere that a habit forms and breaks with one month…..so please get started!

You know, when I was younger, I wanted to be a medical doctor (…yeah I know, everyone wanted to be a doctor or a lawyer). Anyway, as I grew older and life hit me real hard, I realized that life goals can change, and who you are can change as well. At first, I fought so hard to maintain my stand on what I wanted to be, but it didn’t work out as I planned (a typical case of ‘man proposes and God disposes’). And so, I sat down and really thought about what I could do that wouldn’t compromise my goals, faith and stand (although not necessarily in that order). Now, I am an estate surveyor and I still have my goals. The bottom line is to never fail to re-evaluate and rediscover yourself, who knows you might be the better for it.

Love is giving and vice versa. Although, this is a very sensitive issue but I won’t hesitate to talk about it, I will just be careful with the way I relay the message to you. Please do not be selfish. If there is someone that works or lives near you that seems devoid of a friend, reach out and help them. It is incredible the difference one person can make if they become someone's friend. Give personal time, advice, clothes, food and if you have none of these, please give your listening ears. You never can tell who you have prevented from committing suicide because you decided to make a difference by giving one or all of these.

Many people are in delusion thinking that reading ends in the secondary school or at the tertiary institution but it would do them good to change their mind set. Read! Broaden your intellectual ability! Spend a good amount of your time reading about something beneficial towards your intelligence and keep updated about the society. You know there are times when you are to argue a particular point out but just because you don’t have enough information to back up your beliefs, you lose the argument even if you are right. I know I am not the only one who admires smart people because I know I stand the chance to gain more from them. Read something that would boost the gifts you have as well as help in realizing your goals.

No one can love you more than your family. They correct you lovingly when you have behaved below expectations and praise you when you’ve behaved above expectations. Spend time with your family. It is truly a learning experience to everyone. Doing this, helps you to probe into or explore the minds and hearts of your loved ones, allowing you to help them with any problems they may be experiencing and getting to genuinely know them. The family is the most important unit in the world. Stay close to your family and give each member a helping hand when there is need; this helps you have a better understanding of what love and care are which are essential attributes needed to be a better person.

When I was younger, I had the tendency to speak fast before thinking and my dad always said I ran my mouth in motion. Think before you speak. A good listener tends to be a good person, and trust from others will follow. When you have the power of someone’s trust, do not take it for granted. Use this trust, to help people better themselves. Please do not run your mouth in motion because there is always the tendency for you to make a fool of yourself.

And here, I draw the curtains. I sincerely hope that as you consciously apply the afore-mentioned tips, you will get mind blowing results…Get up girl (guy), it’s time for you to change!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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