Even Good Ones Are Hard, Relationships

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A short essay on relationships.

Submitted: July 02, 2012

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Submitted: July 02, 2012



Of all the aspects of this life there may be none more difficult to achieve a level of success with than relationships.  First off, there are so many different kinds that all require different levels of commitment, time, and energy to maintain. Often it seems we do not have enough of any of these ingredients to properly maintain any of them, in short....we become overwhelmed.  When this happens all of our relationships suffer and if we cannot find a balance, some relationships fail....catastrophically. 

  So how do we initiate, foster, and maintain relationships that will enrich our experience in this place?  I believe the first step is understanding the nature of these relationships when they begin.  First you must realize that not all relationships you have will be positive ones.  Because we are so limited in our ability to perceive the world around us, (our five senses, intuition, experience, and knowledge), we make many mistakes.  We allow people into our lives that will not leave a positive memory when they are gone.  This is particularly true when we are young, inexperienced, and vulnerable.  We can be, and sometimes are, taken advantage of.  This is why it is so important to learn from your mistakes.....so that you do not repeat them in the future.  Secondly, you must understand that all healthy relationships require compromise....no exceptions!  Good relationships of any nature must include this aspect.  It is the balance that benefits both parties.  The last part is perhaps the one that determines how long or if the relationship will last.  That part is commitment.  How far are both parties willing to go to maintain the relationship? 

  Partnerships dissolve, marriages end in divorce, friends walk away, even family members disown each other.  Relationships are hard....even the good ones.  Individuals are so unique in their approach to surviving and prospering here that it is a miracle that any of us find common ground enough to form a lasting bond.  And yet there is love.  Love conquers all they say and there is evidence to support that statement.  We see it in our daily lives and the lives of others around us.  Love is sometimes a double-edged sword though.  It has the ability to blind us to the danger that exists in a toxic relationship....sometimes unto our demise.  And yet....this very day partnerships will be formed, couples will exchange vows, friends will travel to visit, and families will hold reunions. 

  For all their complexities, struggles, and sad endings, relationships endure.  They endure because they are an integral part of this experience we call life. 

  Remember....you were given a big brain for a reason.....so use it.  Approach your relationships with a balance between emotion and logic and they will have a good chance of succeeding.  On the contrary, if you start a relationship during a night of drunken debauchery it will have a very low chance of ending well.  Humans are a curious lot.  It seems we cannot trust to be happy in life until after we have experienced a degree of unhappiness.  It is this duality that the universe demands to maintain a lasting balance.

  So my friends.....live, love, and be happy, and cherish the good relationships you have.  They are the stuff poets have written about for centuries, enjoy them while they last!

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