The Story Of A Denied Mother

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It takes a village to raise a child

The Story of a Denied Mother

The most important woman in a man or woman’s life, is a mother. This narrative is in regards to the story of a ‘A Denied Mother.’ By Dorothy Norwood.

The song is based on a church song I heard when I was just a child. If you ever get a moment, listen to it.

Mother according to Webster’s Dictionary; bring up (a child) with care and affection.

Could you imagine, how many people of today, take their mother for granted? I would take a moment to address this very complex issue.

In this generation of the baby boomers, and the techno generations, the chemical dependency addicts, who thrust their children in the limelight of the grandparents, or within the foster care system, and the baby-making public assistance generational syndrome recipients?

Why does the responsibility of the second generation to keep the family unity afloat, always comes down to mothers lending a helping hand; money handouts, or temporary residency, for not only their grandchildren, but their grown children as the package deal?

In my opinion, when a mother has raised her children to have their own children. Should she be held accountable to shoulder the burden of the next generation, when her own child has lost him or her way?

This is a very simple question with different variables, deepening on who is reading this, versus who is interpreting this.

There has to be a time, when a grown child needs to take some form of responsibility to make sensible and reasonable choices, of who fathers the child with them, teaching their children education skills; as well as respecting their own homestead, instead of lending a hand in tearing it down.

In this day and age, so many mothers, have lost the way, or do not fully understand the concept of what it means to be a responsible parent.

You now have more teenagers having babies at an early age, whereas, their mentality tends to make their realty much harsh. Therefore, to make up the absence of having the children stay within a dysfunctional home. More grandmothers are stepping to plate.

Although, it’s a great environment for the children to thrive, however, the grandparents golden years are being stolen.

I have witnessed various grandparents in my everyday waking life, who have taken on the role of not only grandmother, but the role as the financial provider, the protector within the same breath, within the same rite.

My opinion is not to condone the right of passage of the grandmother’s role in any child’s life. What I am saying is. The rocky road to bad decisions, has dire consequences. Consequences, which may be beneficial to the parent at that given time, but could be a hardship placed upon others.

Where are the days, when grandparents are around to instill the lineage of values to the third generation when in doubt, parental guidance is not being emitted within some of these broken homes.

The children of today, who any noble parent have taken the time to rear into adulthood is a blessing; mainly when your grown child have adopted the concept, to do as they will, and forgo the penalties that follows.

 But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.

News flash. These so called parents who can’t difference what is the duty of a parent, and it does not excuse the fact, if you are rearing your children alone, or within a two parent household. Have far better reasons to abort that concept of failing yourself than being guilty of living it.

I am fully aware of the concept it takes a village to raise a child. Nevertheless, within that same village, it tends to collapse when members of that village do not understand the role that is looked upon.  

The responsibilities to be a parent is a gift from God. Not all women will have this fortunate role to uphold or bear.

Which is why I must add. Women if you are fortunate enough to have your own children. Rear them well with universal love. Because the parents within my present, are out in the clubs dancing their life way, destroying the fibers of their very being, and as usual, grandparents are at home overseeing your child’s welfare. When the mother is addicted to drugs, and refuse to get some form of counseling, once again, the grandparents have taken temporary custody.

This epidemic not only befalls women.

You have men making babies out of wedlock, and abandoning their purpose, once their seed has been dropped, once again, no Pampers to provide, no money to buy baby formula, and living in cramped quarters that’s not spacious for the child and mother, who has been left behind to rear that child on her own, once again, returning to their parents’ home until they could do better.

Isn’t it bad enough when you can’t help yourself, now you have another mouth to feed and to care for. I wish economical classes are taught in high schools across America to advise the future generation to wait until you are married to have kids.

Please do not get me wrong this narrative may not apply to everyone who reads this situation; however, if you’re not ready to have a child, you’re just not ready to be parent.

Education first, and the ring will surely follow. Then you will not have children, and then decide you want a cushion life without the responsibilities; in the midst of such an unfounded excuse, you now allow your parent(s) to raise your children, as you go on with your merry life.

Be smart and make wise decisions, it only helps you, instead of hindering you in the long run.

Proverbs 22:6 If a child is trained up in the right way, even when he is old he will not be turned away from it.

Submitted: April 09, 2018

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