Thin Waist

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Why, Thin Waist?

Submitted: February 12, 2010

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What is it about being thin, that really makes people obsess over it? Why is it that women's sizes are the issue of the whole public, society and the whole damn world? Something I was never able to understand. Any channel you turn on to, you are feed of thin, young, rich and beautiful women. As if they're synonymous. Or, its some psychologist, nutritionist, doctor who professes the miracles of someone of size zero. Come again?

Now, I've never been fat in my life. So, it's probably a lot easier for me to sit down and criticize people for wanting to be skinny. I've never been really on the other side of the coin for that matter. However, I have never been a size zero either. But, I still can't understand women who strive to be a size zero. Before, you go ahead and start bashing my article, please read till the end. I was always petite, my bone structure is something I can't change, no matter how much I eat, how much weight I put on, and how much I work out. I was born small and am still small. Inevitably, I will always be small. My height is average for a Turkish girl, but it's a bit short for American standards. My weight, on the other hand is another issue. I was always hyper active, running around and climbing on top of trees my mother would beg me not to go near. I never sat down for longer than a minute, that I am sure. On top of that, I spent my youth, my childhood and teenage years competitively swimming. Those who does not know much about swimming might think it's an easy sport. It really isn't. Four in the morning practices, running with weights on for ten miles a day, weight lifting, strict diet, and three hours of swimming can be and is hard to follow through, day after day. I had the pleasure of working with the toughest. It's great when you win those degrees and medals, but your body aches constantly because of four, five or six hours a day practices, seven days a week. Your hair and skin reeks of chlorine. You learn to live with it. Yes, that was my life until I got into college, and finally could not afford to swim competitively for teams due to time restraints with my time. For that, I've always been quite lean and muscular. But even in my lowest, I was never a size zero. I've always been between size three and four, and a size six at my highest. I've never went below size three, and I never went above size six. Pretty darn average.

After I hit college, I gained weight constantly. I ate more, and I didn't exercise as much anymore. I stuck to running for a long time, but even that got reduced to walking at a fast pace. Have I mentioned that I am Turkish? I am, and whether we like it or not, our cultures play a big role on how we view ourselves and how we shape our image. Turkish culture loves “thicker”women. I point to bodies of women like Shakira and Beyonce. Not size ten but, Turkish women naturally tend to be a little bit thicker to their meat, with a little bit more of “junk” and curvaceous. So, in return I understand the phenomena with being size zero is also cultural. It is deemed important and is part of the mating ritual for many. Being skinny is something prized in women in the Western part of the world. Although I understand the reasoning and the appeal, I am severely worried about a large number of young girls and women who are changing their whole bodies and lives just to be size zero. I think it is very unhealthy both physically and psychologically.

To me, curves are beautiful. I am Turkish, and unfortunately that's what I have been fed; vivaciousness. Ah, cultures. I also do not believe in just trying to be curvaceous because your culture deems it important. I fervently believe that women should not change their body sizes and eating habits just to please those around them. Your body shape has more to do with your genetics than what you eat. You can change your muscle mass, you can tone your body, lower your body fat index, but you cannot change the shape of your body by eating and exercising. It's what we're born with. Ah, how I would love to be taller. How I would love to be a bit bigger. Genes, prevails and therefore I am not any one of those things.

When a woman has curves and is not afraid of embracing them; that is beauty in my eyes. This does not mean to pose of play boy or other such magazines, as I find that very derogatory. But that is another topic, for another day. Curves, and circles, are deemed beautiful in my eyes. There are certain parts of my body that I too, am not happy with like every body else. I could name so many! It is also true that I have been lucky enough to possess certain genes which has enabled me to have a certain body type that I am quite fond of. Yes, I am petite, and as of now, I am size four, and I do have curves. Curves does not mean you're fat. It just means your body is not in the shape of a rectangle. As far as that, I am quite happy with my body. I would like a few extra pounds though as I find it I function better under stress when I am around size six, and overall am happier.

Just like I am a bit curvaceous from birth, regardless of the weight I carry, there are women who can't escape their bone structures and body forms, like me. I happen to be born to the fuller side due to my heritage. Some women are naturally skinny. They are petite and naturally a size zero. Just like I can't change my bone frame, these women cannot change their bone frames either. It doesn't work that way. These women, without the extra effort are like the way they are. I, in no way am trying to pick a fight with them. To me, when women are naturally skinny and embrace that fact, they too are beautiful. We can't help our nature. All those women are exempted from the things I am saying and trying to prove in this article.

I wanted to explain to those all who read this article, what I am like, before I get attacked on my physicality. So, maybe you can understand where I am coming from. The purpose of this article is not to stereo type, judge, marginalize or to offend anyone. I believe in empowering women and that women come in all shapes and sizes. As someone who believes such a philosophy, I am always intrigued by women who always wish to be a size zero, exercise relentlessly and eat celery all day long. For what? Guys' appeasement? It is not healthy to over dose on exercise as it can have negative effects on your body. And whether you'd like to admit this or not, but your body needs, protein, carbohydrates, sugar, salt, fat, and such to function properly. Excess of anything is never good. I am not saying you should eat fat like it's a free thing. You also shouldn't slurp through that salt can. Your body needs certain amount of carbohydrates and salt so that you can keep your muscle mass, and you need sugar for your brain and cells to work properly. Brain uses glucose(sugar) for energy. Your cells also need glucose to keep dividing and to heal. That's why geeks like me, eat lots of snacks, chocolate and other sugary substances while we study for hours, locked up in a library individual room. You also need milk products to keep your bones, teeth, and heart healthy. You need certain amount of fat to keep you warm, and for women, to keep menstruating. Menstruating as much as we might hate it, is a hormonal thing and is required thing for healthy females. Especially for a balanced body. You're probably seeing where I am getting at.

The purpose of this article isn't to make people, especially women to feel horrible. It is not to enforce one look over the other. People, in my view should be the way they feel the happiest at. If you're happier when you're thinner, than be thin. If you're happier when you're fuller, than be that. Ultimately, it should be a woman's choice; not the societies. It shouldn't be what your boyfriend or husband expects of you to satiate his own lust and ego. My problem is how society and our media feeds such crap to young girls who ultimately battle their whole lives with their appearance and their personalities. We can' be all Type A personalities. We can't all be blonde, blue eyed and a size zero. Besides the fact that it is very unhealthy, shaping all women according to one picture in mind is unethical, wrong and oppressive to women. If anything, this should be banned. We feel that bondage, corsets, Chasity belts are against women's rights. It is shaping them in the manner a man wants them to be. Women are their own people and can decide what size and shape they want to be. We don't need to hear it from you. I thought as the human race we had gotten over that challenge. It is very apparent that we have not.

Now, models and actors and what not, most are at size zero, as it is very competitive in their world. Body image comes at great costs and means getting hired for movies and whatever else they're doing. I don't really follow celebrities and their world. So forgive me for being vague. I have, better things to do with my time, than to follow a fellow human being. Through the television, while being a size zero and wearing elegant clothes and go through thousand dollar facials, use extremely expensive skin care regimens and just as expensive make up products to appear fabulous and glamorous in front of the camera. The way the lights are held and angled, only act nicer towards the face and the body. Bad lighting could make you look horrendous. Good lighting can make you look quite nice. Have I mentioned that the camera adds ten pounds on anyone? So, when you see them looking that delicious, they're actually ten pounds lighter than what they appear. That's a whole size or two. That's a lot of pounds. When you see them in reality, they do not look as fabulous. Secondly and most importantly, it's not healthy! I think I've already made that point by now.

So why is it that women constantly strive to be a size zero? I haven't the slightest clue. I should know, I am a woman and I try to read articles regarding women. My best answer is that, men judge women solely on their physicality and they prefer women with very thin waists. Now, that can't be all true, because from my own experience I know a lot of men who like women that are a bit meaty. I know a lot of men who prefer a little meat, curves and well, that slight belly fat. They find women beautiful with their fuller thighs. I also know a lot of men who couldn't care less about the way a woman looked. It's their personalities that makes them beautiful to their boyfriends and husbands. But then life is not always so subjective. Men keep telling that they like women in smaller sizes. Or so, I keep hearing and reading. Models who are five eight, or taller, when ninety pounds look delirious to me. Like someone who just walked out of a Rwandan genocide, dying of hunger. Anyone remember WWII? The death camps? Why would you starve yourself willingly? It is a cruel act when other groups of people or governments do it to other groups of people and governments! I have the impulse to try to feed models and what not, through television. As each day goes by, I have the feeling that women try to look more like younger girls, and more androgynous than women, or feminine. Frailty has always been linked to women's characteristics as we tend not to be as fit as our male counterparts for the most part. Surely, frailty is not meant to be literally to be blown away by an unexpected wind. But, you don't have to be frail is the truth. If you don't want to. You can be sturdy too, if you want to. Women and femininity are taken and the idea, conception has changed much over the years. As of late, it is to be skinny. To answer my own question, I still haven't really figured it out. My money is on the psychology it puts men into when they are with skinnier women. Ego boost, does it give the upper hand? I really have no idea, but my money is on that.

Women are beautiful with their different shapes, different sizes, different colors and different weights. I have never understood societies making women try to appear in one way or the other as it always seemed to be a rather ridiculous thing to put all women into one big ditch and make them the same as if we're all produced at the same factory. There were the infamous corsets at one point in time, where they all tried to give women hour glass figure. We're not products, we're human beings. We can't all come in the same shape and size. For a good reason too. The puffy hair, this and that. Blah. Why is it that our societies are constantly trying to shape our bodies, appearances and the way we should be viewed instead of the way we are? I am afraid the answer goes far beyond philosophy, sociology, psychology and anthropology. I am even more afraid that part of our humanity will never change as long as we shall live in communities.

Why try to look like a prepubescent girl just to appease men's ego, who can look bigger and have more authority to you through physical intimidation? Is it some lingering notion left over from long ago, to be more providing and to appear more authoritative? But even a fifty years ago, women were fuller and bigger. Marilyn Monroe was said to be bigger than size ten and she still is a sex icon today. I am not sure why women strive to be so thin and look like a prepubescent girls, I am pretty sure though on the male part of the equation it has everything to do with authority, power, intimidation and psychology to appear more “providing”.

Remember when you're counting those calories, think of your health rather than how people will judge you. Also, it is a known anthropological fact that when a society or a nation obsesses over the appearance of their women, objectifying them signals toward the declining of a culture and a nation.


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