GIRL CODE/ GUY CODE

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THIS IS JUST MY OPINION BASED ON PAST EXPERIENCES . I AM SURE THERE ARE MANY REALMS OF OUTTER LIMITS OF SITUATIONS IN WHICH MIGHT NOT FIT INTO WHAT IT IS THAT I PROVIDE AS JUST MY OWN INTERPRETATION OF CERTAIN RELATIONSHIP TURNING POINTS.

Submitted: June 10, 2013

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Guy code/ Girl Code : Girls... SURE tale signs the relationship is a dud firecracker .... he moves in with you after 2 weeks of dating because he is living with his mother and going through a divorce... recently separated due to infidelity and the first one to look you in the eye and feed you something worse than fried bologna and says I love you.... before you do... girl code.... ladies and fellas... Rule : DO NOT LIVE WITH SOMEONE YOUR DATING UNLESS MARRIAGE FOR THE TWO OF YOU IS ON THE HORIZON ... LADIES IF THIS ISN'T THE CASE.... heeeee wants a maid with whom he can also sleep with when he is home ... and leave you home so he can go out... and sleep with who he is with ... when he is not home.... while his boys are locked in with jam packed alibis for him in which unless your a female detective .... u got nothing..guys, treat your lady right.. equal cooking... buy her constant little tokens to show she means something to you. Respect her .. and her family... and tolerate her friends.. allow her to have them... as she does you. Don't CHEAT... once a cheat .. always a cheat. Don't EVER talk down to her, keep her like a princess, and treat her as you would your own daughter, mother, sister. Sharing expenses is great, but be a gentleman and more than often take the tab for your outtings, open doors.... all the time... and what she is giving with... be giving with as well. Then just like opening the doors for your lady... open the doors of her opinions on things and let it be a mutual debate with fair solution... not your the guy , you pay half of everything, and everything she has , says, wants, and desires is non - negotiable, because your a male chauvinistic pig and no matter how sweetly you can try to make this known.. it still is a sure tale sign your an ass, and selfish and its all about you. Ladies, be loving and devoted to your man, he is your world , and he knows it. Value his interest , and talents, and also be proud of his life accomplishments and support his future endeavors ... to an extent. If you can cook... show him what you got.... and if possible, spice it up every now and then when the kiddies are not around and wear his fav unmentionable w some candles, and tracks that ignite that romantic side of the both of you. If you have to pretend to be interested in what he is passionate for... spare the heartache of later trials of arguments when you " think" you can lay your law down... no person should have to exclude or forfeit their true hearts desires for a significant other, that is what love is about, loving them for who they are and what they are about, equally. Dedicate your relationship to those dreams you began speaking of in those early days of staying up all night till the sun comes up and planning and indulging in the fantasy of reaching all of each others hopes and dreams . Both should be supportive and positive so both can excel with comfort and calm by having their other half there to cheer them on, after all your a team right... so always root for the other team member of that two person team... woooohoooo, I did that to such an extent both I and my sinister ex of much betrayal both agreed on a record label being named woohoo records lol.... but the downfall, is it was one sided, with mostly everything actually... even my house accessories would mysteriously vanish.. since he didn't agree with angels and statues of Mother Mary . He was very persuasive on the fact that a true Christian will not have anything other than Statues of Jesus ... but would lie through his teeth that he spoke with God about premarital sex, insisting I was his wife in the eye of God.... ummmm okay, I fell for it... he was good at what he said... beyond most. no lie.. no pun intended hahaha. Furthermore the other family members in your life shouldn't be made to be felt as a burden and aggravation to the other since they have more freedom, if your together.. and living together... whats mine is yours and whats yours is mine... hence my prior blind eyes the last time around as I listened to him brag of my new bed , and flat screen going in the bedroom while attempting to lay down the law of his boy time, and ridding the house of my children... obviously if this is there home, they will have places other than there to go, but it shouldn't be mandatory ... screw that, ladies your kids come first, and don't let him convince you he feels the same if in reality what you see is only what he says and not does when it comes to his own as well. If he says he loves your kids.... like his own.. note if you believe this to be true. Not by his disciplinary actions to them, and his all once a while I am the man and know all so much let me boast to children who don't even know what the heck your talking about sorta way. Also even if he tells family members how much he does... they should see it easily as well and not question the truth of his words. If he can't alleviate the motherly persistence and leave you to the constant position by instead of it always being a constant outing with all of you , but one that he will allow you to do your lady errands and assist you with the other half of you as well and take the children... and not just in the beginning ... doing their hair, and helping morning routines and night , only since he wants to get rid of them sooner than later, it should be a continued work in progress , just like your bond, so should his be with your children, especially if your living together..... ESPECIALLY !!! The same goes for the ladies, we should openly accept he has responsibilities with his children, and also value, respect , honor and obey the boundaries, and foundations laid down by the mother of these children, after all , wouldn't we want the same for us and our own children ? If a man doesn't take time to spend with his children more so than his " boys" , is he really grown up enough to be playing house with you and your children ? What and why did his last relation end ? Also if he manifest and discloses endless stories in the negative about his chidlren's mother. Relationships end, and people grow and change, thats how he found you and you found him, but this doesn't mean there should be a complete never ending bad mouthing of his ex, since statistics show that a person looks and connects with someone of the same likeliness so nine times outta ten , as much as he might insist and persist on making you believe that she is a child thieving, money hungry, adulteress, who let us not forget has some form of mental illness..... most likely when he has moved on to the next after you.... who is most likely of similar qualities and attributes..... he will be saying the same thing he said to you about her to .... her ... and just like a family freakn' tree, the branches of woman grow and grow upon his limbs of error with many woman believing that they were truly the one for him, and ever other woman he dated made him jaded, cheat, a liar, selfish, controlling, non-trusting, accusation happy, demanding, authoritative douche bag. When in actuality , he left many woman crying, broke financially, mentally, and heart broken , all thinking the same thing, why did this happen, we were meant to be, why did he do this to me... ughhhhh must have been that damn biach he dated prior to me!!! No the blame game has one name only... and I can assure you that if you all sat down in a room together, and spoke everyone would have a story or two or three or four or five, and most likely you have been there and done that with him as well . Also if you have pets, or want them or your children do , and he gives you a look ... and has words, he has no compassion... My ex is a secret dog hater... I heard it , and even saw it upon occasion while his roomie's back was turned... so if he acts like he loves a dog to their face... then not when its turned ....  how would he treat our animal ? Ex story 101... my ex insisted to my children pondering the dream of a dog... that we would take trips to zoos and such .... ummmm not the same emotional attachment buddy. I then heard the heart wrenching story of his ex saying how the family dog one day just " disappeared " I was so appalled and speechless, once I caught my breathe and faced him on this and where the dog ended, his story still showed no emotional attachment consideration to that of his own children, and this in its own is something we as people need to take into consideration. My other ex had 2 pitbulls and at first since they were older and " bigger" I was very cautious and nervous at first around my children , since my daughter was 2 at the time. Let me tell you those dogs were my best friend, and also the security guards of my babies. My daughter made way one day to the next yard over and the lady next door tried to lift her up and they stood right by her the entire time, mind you the male wasn't fixed and usually if he had a chance he was out to find a female dog.. but nope, dogs are devoted and love children.. and not for nothing but when that ex had me crying .. his dog was fully aware who was right and who was in the wrong, and lets just say stayed by me the entire night, and her eyes just had so much sympathy in them, that I craved from the lack of him doing so . Soooooo lets just say, a relationship is much much work ..... Guy code / Girl code    .... THE END ~~ MEL

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