FAILURE: Whose fault?

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Non-Fiction  |  House: Booksie Classic

A lot of us encounters different kinds of failure, often keeping us from moving forward, stranded on the lifeless spot of our lives, and hardly enjoys the morning when we wake up. And so, we ask questions, not knowing that the answers are just behind our whereabouts.

Failure's a pain.

It gives you the tendecy to think and doubt youself, your potential as a person, your life's purpose, and even your existence. We always try to find meaning after the failure.

Some says that failure is at least half-imposed.
Some says that failure is just because of "chain of things".

And you ask yourself: "Am I not good enough? Are the efforts I exerted enough?"

Based on my experiences (and failures of course), I came up thinking that the world counts the sacrifices and hardships of a certain person. The more your sacrifices and harships are, the more you are closer to success. This is somehow, for me, untrue. I had given up all my best, I prayed a thousand times, act in good attitude to avoid hurting other people (I believe in Karma), and unstoppably motivating myself when I feel an approaching failure... Well, not all of it was granted.

And so, do other people deserve that slot more than you do? How about if that person is just so lucky? Where he does nothing but still able to accomplish it, compared to you who keeps on doing everything, sacrificing things but gained nothing. How's that?

It's not that I'm saying that all efforts are going to be wasted. It's just that, some people are just lucky. And that's what I call the "chain of things." A lot of things are happening and occurring every minute, and it does affect the world's process. It affects our plans, it changes the direction, and most of all, leads us to disappointment or fortunately, success.

But in the end, I still prefer to.. continue and endure it. They say that if you want to change something, change it. If you can't change it, then change your attitude. Of course, not all the time, things go according to our will.

That's just life. A part of learning the lessons of life in not so easy development. At the end of the day, it's still our choice what to believe in. Answers for our questions are not to be given away. It would come from us. From our own interpretation.

I interpreted that all the failures I encountered are mere lessons, which strengthened my  weak points, awakened my reserved sleeping determination, and accepting the truth that somehow, my skills and qualitites are not yet on its finest. Things might go wrong, but moving backward would only bring you deeper to greater disappointments. It's always stepping forward, decide if you want to pursue it or do anything else (changing of plan). Bring out the optimism no matter what. 

It's the chain of things. Just do your best next time, the next time, the next time, until you have it.

NEVER LET YOUR PASSION DIE, for once it does, you'll never have it back. Your dream is over.

I guarantee that it's the worst thing that could happen. So always find inspiration and motivation. It might be tiring BUT YOU SHOULDN'T GIVE UP. 


Submitted: May 31, 2013

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Criss Sole

Great message. These things do get very frustrating, I know from experience. I still try to have hope and carry on. I'm glad you wrote about this.

Wed, June 5th, 2013 6:24am


I really appreciate that you read my work, and thank you for your comment. :)I would like to read some of your works when I have the time. "In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure." :)

Sorry for the late comment. Wasn't active this past few weeks because of work. >.

Thu, June 13th, 2013 11:41pm


Shielah Yuyama:

Interesting, thoughtful, intelligent, analytical, well written and presented. Thought-provoking as well.

Gave it an "I Like It" vote. As with your other postings. All well deserved.

Success and Failure have this in common:

1. Both go hand-in-hand.

2. Both are false gods.

They are different in some important ways:

3. Success makes us feel better about ourselves. Failure can be depressing.

4. Success, more often, will lead us to better things and places. Paying bigger dividends and is, often, more financially rewarding. Failure can be costly.

5. Failure can teach some important lessons. What not to do in the future.

6. Each failure brings us one step closer to our next success. Depending on our attitudes, it can be enjoyed. But, usually, only when fully in the past.

7. No one succeeds at everything. As failure may be elusive as well. Though not nearly enough. Can motivate us to work harder in the futere

My experience: Failure presents itself entirely too often. Making itself a familiar presence. Far more costly than success has been rewarding.

Thank you for becoming a fan. Appreciative and grateful. You are most thoughtful, considerate and kind.

Happy trails,

Ed Bradley.

Thu, August 21st, 2014 3:58am


Indeed! Most people are always in the midst of questioning, looking for answers, which is fact, already within their reach. Thanks for the comment, for clicking on the "I Like It" vote, and for sharing your brilliant thoughts as well. :)

Wed, August 20th, 2014 9:11pm

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