Judging Teens Actions

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Non-Fiction  |  House: Booksie Classic
This stroy is about teens and judgements put on them. There are real stories about real teens and their lives. These stories are to show you how teens act and how they react. This also shows the thoughts that adults have about teens.

Submitted: May 25, 2007

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Judging Teens Actions

 "‘Teenagers are impulsive, but just as children grow taller, so teens' frontal lobes get better at sorting out consequences. It's like height in children. Children grow taller but we don't call them bad for being short' Says Bradly in his writings." (Stepp) Most teens are hard to understand and they are usually punished for their bad choices.  People need to know that teens are still growing and they are not capable of always making the best decisions.

For all of the teenagers that are sheltered and for all of the adults that say teenagers are selfish, irresponsible, uncaring, and unintelligent I give these stories; stories about things that happen to most teenagers and that most adults are hidden from.  These stories are what I have heard from people of all age groups.  I ask that you do not guess who these stories are about.  I ask that if you think you know who these stories are about you do not go around telling people. I ask that these people have there privacy. If you do give them that I thank you, it is greatly appreciated.

Teen Depression

I have a friend and she has severe depression.  Her mother had her very young and the mother, let's call her Lora, doesn't believe that her daughter, who we will call Carly needs help.  Lora refused to get Carly anymore depression medication so Carly started to slow down each day and it was noticeable.  She didn't want to get out of bed, she would sit there for hours because she didn't think there was a need to get up and live her life.  Carly had a feeling of deep sadness every single day of her life.  Her friends tried to help her through this and they tried so hard to make her happy. All Carly would say was that it was a battle with herself and no one could help her. She started to cut, she started to overdose on any pill she could get, and she would drink. Her friends and her boyfriend all tried to stop her, I tried to stop her. She was spiraling down to nothing and we all saw it. You might ask yourself why didn't her friends tell someone, I ask myself that when I rethink this story in my head. My best answer I can give out is that we didn't want any other people to know her troubles. We were afraid they would figure us out and what we have done.  I'm not saying that we were doing anything bad but we all aren't angels.  So I hope people understand why I am not saying what all happened.

Carly was taken to a hospital and set on suicide watch. She is better now but she will never be completely happy and we all know this. We know that every human can not be completely happy about everything, that would be impossible, or so it seems. Carly's story is just one out of millions. There are so many teens that feel so unnoticed and so uncared for. ‘"So much of what goes on in teens' daily lives influence their health, but adolescents may be reluctant to discuss these issues with doctors. You need to look beyond the annual physical to fully address their needs," said Janet Lederer an Education Division Vice President.' (Stepp). That's true, Carly needed to have her mom see her problems and not just be send to the doctor to say he will give a bottle of depression pills for now and Lora could decide if Carly was better or not. Parents tend to doubt that their kids have something wrong with them or they think everything is wrong with their child. "Mom and Dad either absolve themselves of responsibility or over control, becoming obsessed with keeping there offspring safe. Such parents "bubble wrap" their kids, just when their teenagers need to be testing their limits and the world other than school- related activities, they give kids few opportunities to show what they can really do" (Stepp).  Some parents need to learn the fine lines between too much and not enough freedom.

 

 

Temptations in the teen world

The temptations of drugs and sex are heavy in teenage years. That's how the teen world works; teens go to high school or just mature/grow up in a drug and sex related environment. Once they're in this kind of environment teens wonder how they didn't know about this before. They start to hang out with the wrong people and start to learn things involving drugs, sex, and the general world that they never knew existed.

A girl named Cara who was 15 liked to hang out with her friends like most teenagers do. A lot of older people went to the places she did, the age was anywhere from 10 to late 40's. Cara started to smoke cigarettes then she moved to drinking and drugs. All of the men started to notice her and thought she was pretty fun. She became friends with most of them but some just wanted to have sex and yes she wasn't a virgin but she was not going to have sex with someone who was 20 years old, it was illegal, no matter what, for her. She wanted to be mildly careful and not get taken to some car and raped or killed. She did meet 4 main guys. They were like older brothers to her and they protected her whenever she felt uncomfortable.

Not all teens have sex though. Young people age 15 to 24 get about half of the world's new HIV infections. We often blame them for being ignorant, for their notoriously bad judgment, and for the impulsivity. Or we let them off the hook for lack of access to condoms and lack of sex education (DeNoon.)

Cara met a guy named Alic. They talked for a long time in his van. She found out he was a pretty nice kid. There were neon lights lining the sides of his van and he had glow in the dark smiley faces on his ceiling. They hung out in there and a she smoked couple of cigarettes while he asked her why she would smoke "It's just a slow death", he would say (Cara heard that later on in her life also). After a while they left but about an hour after that Cara went outside to cure another one of her cravings. One of her older friends Ray pulled up.  She hugged him to say hello and talked with him for a bit.  It was cold and Ray wanted to go in to their hangout.  He told her to, "Finish her cancer stick" and that's when she realized what she was doing to herself.  She thought if someone who she cared for so much thought so badly of her when she smoked then why should she smoke?

She loved Ray like a brother also, that's what she told me very many times while telling me this story.  In her eyes those older boys saved her life many times, and they did.  She had thoughts of suicide but she called up her boys and they would help her out.  They kept her from overdosing, doing drugs, and drinking way too much.  Those boys were her saviors but her parents thought the men were making her act like she was.  They stopped her from going to her hang outs.  She started to spiral downward like Carly did. Cara was tricky though. She hid her problems for a long time.  She was unhappy with her life and she felt like she was trapped in-between school and home.  This part of her life is an example of having too much freedom to not having any freedom.  Parents tend to think that taking away a teen's freedom is good punishment.  It isn't, it's the bubble wrap theory.  Taking away a teen's freedom makes most teens act out more.  It can lead to more rebellion then was there to begin with.  Sneaking out at night and doing drugs just to make a point to the parent, that's what some teens do.

There was a poll, for adults, about whether they think teens today share the same values that adults have.  One in six adults said that they did not share the same values when really, the teens were polled and they mostly answered that their values in people were things like honesty and hard work; the same things adults care about.

There are focus groups that were asked to voice their opinions on a story about teens and there recent behavior trends.  The groups only focused on the bad things that teens have done because the good things that teens have done "weren't good enough".  This makes me question, what is good enough?  Teenagers are growing humans.  They have needs; they make mistakes but love teens for them.  The mistakes people make affect their future and what kind of a person they will be.

Some parents tend to freak out if their children try drugs for the first time.  They should react to this, it's illegal and bad for their health, and this is common knowledge.  But, as Scott P. Sells writer of "Parenting your out of control teenager" says that he is only writing this book for teens that repeatedly make bad decisions.  So if it was a first the parents who freak out should not call their children drug addicts, they should just make sure this act doesn't happen again.  ‘"Surveys show decreasing rates of alcohol and drug use, pregnancy and drunk driving among teens, but the stereotypical image of adolescents as "only about drugs, alcohol and sex" remains. Ironically, this public perception can actually increase teen drug and alcohol use, as adolescents feel pressured to conform to what they believe is the norm, even if that belief is wrong.' (PAMF organization news letter)

This quote is the one that I agree with the most.  It makes me think a lot, Ross Thompson a professor of psychology says, "In the midst of all the other threats to their self esteem, societies mistrust can't help but partially account for the moodiness of this period of life.  We expect bad behavior and that may be why we get so many sad youth" (Stepp).

The teens' brains today are just like the teens in the yesteryears. The frontal lobe of an average teens' brain is still developing. It actually doesn't stop developing until an individual is in there early 20's. Do not punish teens for making bad decisions, encourage them to learn and develop more. Create courage in teens today to make better choices on there own. Remember, "...[I]it's like height in children. Children grow taller but we don't call them bad for being short" (Stepp).


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