I wonder sometimes

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An outbound memo regarding the Pro-gun v Anti-gun brewhaha.

Submitted: December 31, 2012

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Submitted: December 31, 2012

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I wonder from time to time……

 

What escapes the simplicity of truth in so many peoples soul?  Why is it so difficult to acknowledge certain truths about our world? From the simple differences in how people are raised, to the complex differences that occur based on life experience……we all have an opinion.  We all have an emotional response.  We all have valid input about the tenable topic of “Guns”.

Having been a firearms instructor for some 20 years, I have seen so many responses to this topic that I have begun to see everything 3 times over…..suggesting to me that everything that can be stated, has been.

I am a man that carries a firearm on a daily basis, has guns in my home, and children who know more about guns than some adults.  My wife is as reliable a companion as one could hope for, possessing her own and being proficient and capable with the same sidearm I carry.  She is lawfully permitted to carry a concealed pistol but chooses not to, on the whole.  My children show varying degrees of interest in firearms. In short, no one in my home is forced to “love” guns, but everyone is taught to respect them with regards to safety.

I have been asked “Why don’t you force your wife to carry a gun?” (Which purports to the truth that they do NOT know my wife).  More often than not, the simple answer is, “She is comprehensively and perspicuously willing and able to make that decision for herself.  Why would I constrain, extort or otherwise obtrude anyone, let alone my wife, to carry a firearm if they are making an educated decision to not do so?

My Parental focus is situational awareness, social responsibility, civility, respect and the intellectual adroitness and capacity to allow others to exist with dignity, in so much as they do not try to infringe on their safety, well being or life.  Unlike the myriad of personalities and aggregate number of people that are indoctrinated by media to believe that “Gun Owners” are intellectually challenged, backwoods, “the world is ending”, panic stricken persons that are inclined to shoot and ask questions later…I intend on representation of my exertion that owning, carrying and implementing a firearm in my defensive planning as responsible, astute and otherwise an application of providence.

It pains my soul as a Father to see innocence desecrated, let alone outright ended in such incidents as the recent carnage in Newton.  That is not to lessen the pain and suffering revolving around the other many shootings in recent memory.  It lessens my equanimity towards those that would disarm anyone willing to take the responsibility they have to protect their loved ones.  It increases my resoluteness that keeping, carrying and maintaining my firearm proficiency is a decision that I will not only defend and stand strong with, but more importantly, address in a passionate judicious way.

I do a fair bit of writing (albeit not well…lol), soap boxing and otherwise creatively announcing my belief in managing equity between bad guy aggression, and good guy readiness.  I have the benefit and perspicacity of what “man” is capable of.  I have had the emprise and unfortunate experience of seeing much of it first hand.  As a man who does not wish for everyone to experience what I have, I also have a moral dilemma. Should I or can I expect those without that experience to acquiesce to the usefulness of firearms? In short, No. The dilemma now becomes how does one convince or otherwise engender such inexperience?  You simply cannot.  It is akin to the time before you had a child, to the time after you have a child.  Your perspectives are profoundly influenced.  You cannot explain the Joy and Pain of having a child.  You can express it in your experience, but to expect someone who has not experienced it is rather obtrusive in my opinion.

Not unlike the truth of having a child, there is the truth of violent crime, life threatening violent encounters or tumultuous loss of life.  Many returning warriors have the arduous and labyrinthine task of accepting that most around them, upon return, have no fathomable understanding what they have experienced.  A victimized child, sexually exploited, cannot expect it, or a parent who has lost a child.

WHY then, do we continue to exhaust ourselves trying to plead with people, who, on the whole, are merely inspired by the violence, to find a solution? In my opinion, taking away my firearms, or access to, is a travesty in and of itself. To remove my scope (pun intended) of choices as it relates to what shoots well for me, fits well for me, works well for me is conspicuously ignominious and abhorrent.

Everyday now, for almost 30 years, I have placed a 1911, two spares, and a quality folding knife on my person.  For at least 20, I have complimented my daily carry with a 16” ASP and a quality hi-luminous light.  I dry fire almost everyday before I charge and holster my sidearm.  I consider my garment choices, and potential environments for the upcoming day. At no point do I say to myself, “I am frightened and panicked because a bad guy is going to try and take my life today”, as so many non gun friendly people purport people like me must think.  It is likely, no different than most people put on a watch, shoes or a coat.  It is simply apart of my daily life.

As an instructor, it is my belief that I have a responsibility to educate in the most reasonable and prudent manor available.  I soap box heavily on the misery that is “Post shooting” experiences.  Court preparedness, emotional consideration, fiscal truths are all a part of that doctrine.  As a matter of balance, I also endeavor to include a strong opinion about situational awareness as the key to all tactical decisions.  If you can run, do it. If you can avoid, do it.  If a reasonable and prudent person will not see your reasoning for a defensive reaction, you will likely have hard truths coming at you in the next year of your life.  Jury trials, also akin to going to the casino with your mortgage payment and hoping for a win.  Responsible acknowledgement of training, and that shooting is a perishable skill is also weaved thoroughly into my training doctrine.

People, on the whole, are good.  People, on the whole are decent.  Most people have a propensity for avoiding confrontation, and a natural flow towards respectful acts of involvement.  This can be the result of good parenting, or a survival instinct to avoid confrontation.  In either case, it is a useful consistency within our social reality. The periphery of this majority are polar opposites. Mental insufficiency, or heroic momentum are the “Wild cards” that appear in our news/media. The reasonable and prudent “average” is aghast at the periphery.  Unable to connect with mental instability, because, they are not mentally unstable makes these acts very disconcerting. Unable to rely on the experience of a truly heroic gesture or act…it is the lesser of the two for which the average citizen can refute.  With regards to the Average, we all want to be the Hero, none want to be the bad guy.  Thus, there are accolades for the Hero, and not for the bad guy.

It seems as clear to me and the bills that come everyday in the mail…..that there is an impasse here.  So, instead of fighting time, gravity, air….perhaps we could all come together with the realization that these are our cards.  How do we play them?

 

I am of the camp that parents need raise their children with a respect for dignity, civility and self respect.  I am working on teaching my children to be ABLE to question authority, fight for themselves but more importantly, the DISCRETION and responsibility to do so prudently.  I have three teenagers in my life currently.  Each has their own exacerbating social emergency on a daily basis, yet none of them show a propensity for violence. There are guns in my home. Relatively violent Xbox360 games. The awareness that their father has been a martial artist since the age of 9,who has “been there done that” and wish to be similarly capable of grasping some of the upper rungs of the food chain.  I believe that parenting is the key to this social issue of violence.  I also believe that securing your firearms, and handling them responsibly is a rational failsafe to any unanticipated mental breakdowns…. Which leaves us ultimately responsible for ourselves in the even we breakdown and have been in control of access.  This scenario relies on a capable person to stop said “breakdown”, be it through calm, pragmatic conversation, to lethal interaction.

Is it really that difficult to see the 3 camps?  1)Mentally unstable 2)Normal 3)Hero.  Most people that fit into the “Hero” slot, believe it or not, wish they could be in the “Normal” slot.  It is as much a burden to the Hero to be a Hero as it is a blessing to everyone else that He/She is. Normal people, who live rational, reasonable lives often state that they would be a “Hero” in that moment…..most have no true gauge to “know” this.  The ones that end up turning Hero in those moments, who have led their life as “normal” are often as surprised themselves.  Mentally unstable people come in a lot of flavors too.  Some are clear. Some just add water.  Some fall from the sky.  Those hell bent on violent acts, for whatever rationale they possess, gravitate towards the things that are the most clear way to get the attention that they desire.  Guns are a very easy way to do it.  You can effect violent acts with a gun, inspire fear and reaction with guns, get your 15 minutes of fame with guns.  The more “action” that can be solicited as a result of a media event, the more readily a network can show why advertisement dollars should be spent with them.  Everyone wants to be a Hero, sure….but NO ONE wants to be a bad guy, so naturally, the scales of reaction tip in the favor of “gun crimes” when it comes to public outcry.  Yes, I believe that networks are this devious.  They are run by men; men are capable of greedy and immoral acts.  I also know some things about this world, first hand and have seen the absolute worst in man, as well, the best.

In a world of Instant meals, communication and ROI…..it is of no surprise to me that we also want an instant answer to gun violence.  Fight it all you like, but there is NOT one.  It has taken decades for this social behavior to develop.  The world has become a global village, and crazed people who want to bring attention to their Cause/Plight/Pain clearly see the reaction from gun violence, and naturally they emulate it. It will take a while to reverse this, and condition our children to condition their children to learn better social responses to personal issues. I was raised with guns, and frankly, didn’t have a very pleasant childhood…..but I was exposed to, and taught to be respectful, civil and have a good work ethic ( which precludes me to appreciate what I have, and how others have what they have worked for, even if more $$ ).  I have had access to guns daily since the age of 5or 6, albeit it monitored access until about 15 or 16.  I have been a field investigator for over 20 years, and never had my reputation smeared as a result of a gun, knife, bat or otherwise. I AM NOT SUPERIOR TO ANYONE. I am not the pride of my country and somehow more readily prone to my behaviors than anyone else.  In short, if I can be a reasonable adult, and raise reasonable children, so can you.  By the time your children have passed on their knowledge to their grandchildren…..if we choose to address these issues, I believe very strongly that we as a Nation, society and global village will have a lot less violence.  There will ALWAYS be violent encounters, and baseline animalistic persons out there in the darkness, just as there will always be Hero’s.  If you take away our guns, the Hero’s may fall in greater numbers, but you will not stop us from doing what is right……protecting our loved ones and those who cannot protect themselves.

If you do not like firearms, you are welcome in my home, to sit and have a meal with my family. I will put my guns away and make you as comfortable as possible. I will NOT, however, remove my guns from my home, my heart or my defensive plan.  If you do not like guns, and your life is threatened within my ability to intervene, I will do so on your behalf, because I believe it is the right thing to do.  If you despise guns, but one day come to me for advice or training on defensive measures to not include guns, I will oblige without oppressive influence.  If you despise guns, but change your mind and come to me for advice or training on adding a gun to your life, I will never tell you “I told you so”.  I will simply offer the same insight, responsibility and devotion to craft I do my clients, my children and myself.

I do not expect this “memo” to set well with every person on the planet, nor engage all possible angles on this topic.  I do, however, wish to influence as many “Non-gun” persons as I can, that reasonable, well meaning, responsible persons, on the whole, own and use firearms.  I am a 46 year old father, responsible for the influence and raising of 5 citizens.  My oldest, a two tour USMC Sniper/Demo/Comm (now home, adjusting from his experience, married and about to have his first child), my youngest just getting into high school next year.  I have been a field investigator since 1989, to include many years in sex slavery/human trafficking. A mason, as my Father was. I believe I am a well respected member of my community, trusted and counted on for help when the fecal matter hits the oscillating air, or just an impartial reasonable ear to listen.

God Speed. May you never ever need me, or a gun. I truly wish this for every person on this earth.

 

Timothy C Minyard

Father, Husband, Friend, Warrior


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