Moving On Is The HARDEST

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Status: Finished  |  Genre: Romance  |  House: Booksie Classic

Moving on is the hardest compare to falling in love, staying in love and letting go.

I believe that most of us have an experienced of falling in love so deeply and sometimes we don’t even noticed it that we actually do. We think that he/she is “THE ONE”. We think that we are in a perfect relationship especially when you’ve been together for so very long and earlier you said “I wanna grow old with you”. Sounds sweet, right? As sweet as honey. But doomsday came and precipitously both of you or your beloved decided to end the relationship. Or perhaps, you woke up with a state of anagapesis. From together to stranger, forever is over and become a jilter lover.

We try to fix what’s broken or recover what was lost. But often times, the beloved has moved on and reconciliation is not possible. It’s natural to experience this feeling of pretty down in the dump because of rejection or betrayal. Sometimes we stuck in the same place where our beloved left us. But why can’t we just over it? According to C.S Lewis “Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” Precisely! We must learn to let go no matter how hard it is.

For me, moving on is the HARDEST compare to falling in love, staying in love and letting go. Ask me why?  It’s simply because I have stop loving someone because they stopped loving me. It’s hard to move on because literally she is beautiful. It’s hard because maybe she was your first kiss, loved, sex and you’ve experienced so many things together. It’s even harder when she was once very closed to your family especially to your parents.

It is hard to move on because you are avoiding those places in which you can reminisce about the past. You want to burn or return those belongings which reminds you of her, hoping it will abate the pain. And I think it can only exacerbate, If you want get back those stuff that you’ve already gave. It is hard because you deleted all your conversations but memories can’t be removed. It is hard because you already threw out her phone number yet you still memorize it. That is so ridiculous, isn’t it? It’s even harder if you are struggling to control your fingertips not to text her. That’s why it is much better to have an empty load balance.

It is hard to move on because every time your phone chime you wish it was her, and then you’re starting to miss her name show up on it. Hard for you maybe because you don’t want to end your relationship in that way. It’s even harder because you really wanted to keep her but the essence of happiness is not there anymore.

It is hard to move on because when someone asked you “when was your last communication dude? “ Then you can simply answer in complete details with a complete date, months, days, hours, minutes and seconds passed by. “Bilang na bilang bes”. It’s hard because you think you’re so though that you won’t even flinch at her name yet every time you heard a news about her you’re starting to shudder. It is hard because you think you’ve already moved on, yet, one day you see each other in person your feelings got trigged.

It is hard to move on because your heart scream blue murder. You’re trying to ignore the weight that’s settled on it and is weighing down your soul. It’s hard because you keep telling yourself to forget about her, but you just can’t do it. And no matter how you keep yourself tied up she still suddenly pop up on your mind. And you will realize how crazy it is that you can go weeks or even months without talking to her and they still cross your mind every day.

It’s hard to move on because u think that starting a new chapter in life without her is a piece of cake. And I won’t be able to finish this writing just to describe and accentuate why moving on is the hardest.

Being in a wrong or UNHAPPY relationship is like having a toothache. It really hurts. But the only way to remove this painful feeling is through tooth extraction. Tooth extraction is like letting go. Setting her free or pulling her out in your life to avoid further infection or damage. Then move on. Moving on is like a tongue who is always rubbing the newly edentulous part. It is normal to miss it. Seems you’re adjusting a new life and adopting a new environment.

We need to accept that at some point you just have to let go, and move on because no matter how agonizing is it, it’s the only way we grow. Just be resilient. The days whizzed by and you won’t noticed that you are already healed. 

Submitted: August 07, 2015

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This is so true. I remember my first relationship. It was so hard to say goodbye to her. But I healed eventually. Or when I broke up with my first boyfriend, to maintain my health. That was like pulling myself apart, limb for limb. Despite a suicide-attempt, I survived and today I'm in a wonderful relationship with the man I'm going to marry. This is a wonderful piece. I'd suggest you go over it with spell check once more. Other than that, you're golden.

Fri, August 7th, 2015 6:21pm

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